I am 25 years old my mother, father, and sister still treat me like im only 15. I have been married twice both ending in divorce. My parents are divorced and everytime I do something anything my family's always got a problem with it. I have a one year old son and live with my boyfriend. My boyfriend helped me get out of my moms house because she kept stealing my money and his money as well and lies about it. I have been called a bad mother, a drug addict, an alcoholic. That is just from my mom and sister. From my dad I get crushed for being poor, filing for bankruptcy, not being able to get my child support, and not being able to pay my dad for the car I got. only owe 250 dollars. I have not touched drugs since 2 years ago when I got kicked out of the army, I only go out on special occasion and drink and never drink at home or around my son. If I do drink, I won't lie I am a binge drinker. How can I tell my family what there saying about me is hard on me? Should I disown them?
2006-12-11 04:52:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I've been inpatient rehabilitation before, I wasn't considered anything close to an alcoholic and I was never a drug addict. Bankruptcy was caused by my divorce because my x left me with bills and no child support, I couldn't even by diapers with a 10 dollar in hour job.
2006-12-11 05:12:48 · update #1
seems to me they dont care if they are beating your esteem down or not, and it certainly hasnt helped in any way. doesnt matter what kind of mess up's we are, they are supposed to be there for us. some arent, thats all.
filing for b is a way for you to clear the slate, i even had a judge tell me that. if its what you needed to do, so be it.
next time contact the red cross for a car. they give them (for free or almost free) to people who really need 'em.
as for the child support, these links may help. just click on your state and find the child support section. the last three are to help.
2006-12-14 19:09:21 · answer #1 · answered by Yvette B yvetteb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I'm a little more sympathetic than some of the other answers. You made some poor choices in life. OK. Learn from it and don't do it again. I want to congratulate you for quitting the drugs. When life spirals out of control, we all tend to try to fix it with bad habits, whether it be food, shopping, sex, drinking or drugs.
I know filing for bankruptcy was hard, but it's better than ignoring the problem! As long as you keep your drinking under control and pay back the $250 I say you are on the right path. You have a little boy that loves you and needs Mommy to be strong.
Stay away from your family for a while and get yourself together. I was homeless for a year with an infant. It was hard, but I got back on my feet and am better for it.
Your family is your family. That will never change. Sometimes they kick you when your down because they have high expectations. Focus on you and your son and things will work out.
P.S- Try prayer too! It helped me! If religion is not your thing, try to find some kind of (free) support group (AA maybe?). Take care of you!
2006-12-11 13:17:14 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetnisha 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should address your own problems before you work on your family. If you can do that, then you and your son will be much better off.
There comes a point in time where you have to stop worrying about what they are saying and do what needs to be done in your own life. You should find help and support outside of your family.
There are a lot of organizations that might be able to help you, if you just pick up the phone and call them.
You can get help getting child support from your local Department of Social Services. You can get health insurance from them also, which can be used for counseling services to help you. You can get WIC for your son, to make sure he has enough milk, cereal, and eggs to eat.
Your best bet may be to stay away from your family for a while.
It sounds bad, but you really need to put your attention on your son and yourself.
Good luck. I hope things get better for you!
2006-12-11 13:17:49 · answer #3 · answered by dark_firmament 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got a tough, tough row to hoe. As dysfunctional as your family is you are probably better off without much connection until you are able to require that they leave you out of their idiotic games . Please get some help. AA is wonderful and counseling or therapy may also help. You owe it to your child to not saddle him with a mother who is an untreated alcoholic. Help is available.
2006-12-11 13:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorced twice, kicked out of the Army (of all places), bankrupt, poor, drug addict and lush.
They should disown you!
2006-12-11 12:59:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try to arrange a family therapy session. Family is all we have, no one wants to loose that.
2006-12-11 12:56:07 · answer #6 · answered by The Pope 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
your family treats you like this because of how you act... get some therapy
2006-12-11 12:57:59 · answer #7 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to sit down and talk to them about it
2006-12-11 12:56:04 · answer #8 · answered by chanlen2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋