*Ok,I stole this question from a guy but am curious to know what people think from the girls perspective...
"Sometimes I get a bit frustrated that my partner doesn't have a very high sex drive. I KNOW that sex isn't everything but it should at least be something. The only problem is that I just want it all the time and not even all the time but maybe 2 or 3 times a week...?? I'm 20 and he's 24; we've been together for almost a year. I know it's annoying to him and anytime I suggest it i get an "oh great" attitude so we don't do anything. It's just really frustrating for me, because I know he spends ALOT of time on his laptop looking at "stuff" and yet we never do anything. He said once that i was too easy.. but when I can get it I wanna take it, right? I have MANY appealing features and he always says he's lucky and I am SO HOT! I LOVE to try new things... but i've noticed lately that we only do anything when he's been drinking so then I start to second guess what he thinks of ME.
2006-12-11 04:50:11 · 4 answers · asked by anab113 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
* Sex is not new to me, no.*
I'm not a slut or anything but I've had a couple "Friends with benefits"...
I have only had one other "real" boyfriend tho and we used to do it all the time... And that's pretty much what our relationship was based on... I don't want that in my relationship now but I would like something...
2006-12-11 05:00:17 · update #1
Are you new to sex?
I just lost my virginity recently and now I want it all the time, like you described above.
When my boyfriend asked why I like to do it so much, I told him it's because it's a new experience and I enjoy it.
He should be more understanding of your needs. And if he's spending more time with his laptop than you, that's no good, either.
Maybe his sex drive is lower than normal and he is ashamed of it, so he tries to ignore the problem but he doesn't realize it's only making things worse.
Try talking to him about it but don't make it seem like you aren't being satisfied when you do have sex because it might hurt his pride and he'd never see things from your perspective.
Good luck, hope I helped!
2006-12-11 04:57:42 · answer #1 · answered by Desiree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes 24 he should want it 2-3 times a day somethings wrong.
2006-12-11 12:53:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In what other areas of his life is he dysfuncitonal? My bet is that he's angry about something involving you. Lord only knows what it is but he ought to be chasing you round the table pretty regularly. Your being too easy isn't the problem. It's pretty key that he's interested in sex only when he's been drinking. What's eating him?
2006-12-11 13:13:27 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me as if he's not nearly as 'into you' as you might think, or he professes.
Obviously, he's looking for something that you either can't, or won't do for him, and so he seeks it on his laptop.
My advice... go find someone who's more compatible with you and your needs.
2006-12-11 13:00:25 · answer #4 · answered by rollng_thundr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋