i really need advice!!!!!!!?

Question

i have a bf who asked me to marry him, i don't know wat to say but i know i don't love him i just like him. he keeps on telling me how much he loves me but i just son't want to break hiss heart. he already toke me to meet his parents and i haven't even said yes yet, please help. he is cute and all but i'm just not interested

Answer 1

Then you shouldn't marry him...until you are sure. Marriage is a big deal, and is a life long commitment. You should not feel bad for how you feel, a pity marriage will only end with you resenting him for making you do something your not ready for. Liking some 1 and loving them are 2 completely different things. tell him nicely that you really like him but you think he's moving to fast. That you want to get to know him better first. Just because he loves you doesn't mean that you need to reciprocate. Make it clear to him as gently as possible don't be afraid to tell him how you feel. If he does in fact love you then he will understand

Answer 2

Who's feelings are you sparing really if you're not being honest with him? Not being upfront with some1 is the same as manipulating them, and we ALL do it, but you just have 2 know when it's not ok and recognize that you're actually hurting him more if you're "playing along" There's no such thing when it comes 2 a person's feelings. And there's nothing wrong with being honest if it's in yours & his best interest. Tell him exactly what you've told us...... That you're not ready 4marriage, even more importantly you're not sure how u feel about your relationship yet. If u want 2 take the time 2figure that out, then ask him 2 slow down and move at a more comfortable pace. If you've already decided how you feel, and this is not some1 you want 2be in a relationship with, then you need 2 say so. Because you're not just wasting his time, you're wasting your own. Sometimes we dont realize how we feel about a person or the relationship until we're tested in some way....

Answer 3

Unfortunately, you may have to break his heart. If you are indeed sure you do not have strong feelings for him, then you need to speak truth--in as kind of a way is possible.

Help him to understand, if you can't express the full bloom of love, & I do not mean just sex, you could easily cheat on him after marriage You need to express the danger of getting into a relationship that you would not put your heart into all the way.

Stick to a Biblical thought: "Let your yes ,be yes, and let your no, be no." Meaning you would have to stick to your decision no matter what otherwise you would be indescisive and sitting on the fence and that would be a true mess.

Hope this has helped some.

Answer 4

First how old are you? How long have you been dating? If you're not finding it in your heart that you want to marry him the only thing you can do is be honest. No one can ever knock you for your honesty. They're going to be hurt, yes, even mad, but a lot of the time people have a hard time coming to grips with the truth. But you owe it to yourself and to him to talk about things, be honest with your feelings and go from there. IT's going to suck but you can do it,

Good luck

Answer 5

You should never have led this guy on. Now you are in a mess, which you dug yourself. Look him straight in the face and say "I don't feel the same way about you, I can't marry you, it wouldn't be fair to either of us". I sure hope you haven't been bedding him too!

Don't even try to be just friends with him. It won't work. Be casual acquaintance. Acknowledge him if your are at the same event, (a wave and a smile and a nod "hi").

Now just do it.

Answer 6

Oh for crying out loud. YOU already know what you want. And whatever we tell you, you know deep in your heart you've already decided this. You said it yourself, you don't love him. Let the guy loose and stop leading him on. If you keep being with him, he'll keep thinking that he still has a chance. As long as you don't tell him what's what, he'll never know. Tell him! I know you don't want to break his heart, trust me I've been there. But there's no other way to get out of this besides that. Just explain it to him gently.
Good luck!

Answer 7

seems 2 me like you need 2 answer this: how was your relationship before he asked u this? were u in love w/him already? if you're young like 18, 20, and want 2 wait then tell him so. but if you're afraid because it will be a big change 4 you, then i'd say take the chance. if you guys haven't been going out that long, then i'd say tell him this: "i really like you, but i think it's 2 soon 2 get married. i'd like 2 wait a little bit longer and get 2 know you a little bit better first." that way you're not just jumping into it.

Answer 8

If you know you dont love him then you should be honest....do you want to spend the rest of your life with someone you do not love just because you feel guilty about hurting him? You will hurt him much more later on if you marry him under false pretences.

Answer 9

Just tell him the truth because if he wants to get married to you and he loves you but you don't feel the same you must tell him and not lead him on thinking other wise. HONESTY is the best POLICY. Good Luck!

Answer 10

Whoa. Watch it. If you don't love him, and you marry him, you'll end up ruining the marriage later when the one you're supposed to be with comes around.
However, if you like this one enough, it'll turn into love if you ive it a chance. Explain all of this to him. Tell him that you're not sure, and that you want to fall in love with him first, then you'll get him to step up his game and really woo you like every girl should be wooed.
Just don't give up a good man, even if you don't marry him.