all i really want to know is what is expected. I am fine walking her to the door and shaking hands, in fact have twice, and there has not been a second date, yes maybe there are other reasons but both of them seemed to having good time, lots of laughing, touching of my arm/shoulder while laughing, then walked them to door, said had good time shook hands and left, and like i said no second date, so in todays world what do females expect when you walk them to their door?
2006-12-11 04:44:18 · 13 answers · asked by bugman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sound very gentelmanly....that's a great thing. I'm in my 30's and if the date has gone well then I don't mind a kiss on the first date. Just don't get too pushy and you'll be fine. Good luck!
2006-12-11 04:49:01 · answer #1 · answered by GAgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's really something you need to play by ear. If they were touching you a lot and seemed interested I don't see why you don't just give them a little peck or even a kiss on the cheek. Some women don't kiss on the first date so maybe you should just ask during the date. I know my husband kissed me on our first date and it more or less sealed the deal for me. We knew each other for a couple of months before we dated though. I can't even remember ending a date without a good night kiss unless we were totally NOT into one another. I also think a lot of it has to do with your age. We tend to get a little more uptight as we get older most likely because we've been through so much in life. As I said play it by ear, if you're both having a wonderful time go ahead and give her a little peck, it doesn't have to be a full on make out session but if it leads to that, nothing wrong with that either. Have you tried calling these ladies after the handshake the next day and just saying hey I had a wonderful time I'd like to see you again?
Good luck to you
2006-12-11 12:51:09 · answer #2 · answered by bratgirl1965 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats kinda of 50/50 answer. I have talk to most girls who say " No kissing on the first date." And others who say " Defintely" I personally like a good sweet kiss after a good sweet date. Most of the time there are signs to let you know that they want a kiss. If the signs are not clear. Be really sweet and ask them if it would be ok he you gave them a kiss or how they feel about kissing on the first date. If you think that sounds corney. Then lean in for a kiss on the cheek. If you are not brave enough for that. Then how about a nice soft kiss on the hand. A lowsy hand shake shows most people that the date was not the interesting.
2006-12-11 12:53:29 · answer #3 · answered by good drummer bad guitarist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really just depends on how the night went. If she is touching your arm and finding little reasons to make contact, then more than likely, yes she wants a kiss. Maybe since you didn't kiss her, she thinks you aren't interested. The hand shake is more of a friendly way to end the date. Maybe next time, lean in and give her a small kiss. That was she knows you are interested in going out again. Good luck!
2006-12-11 12:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by collegebusygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They'll let ya know. Try being a gentleman and kissing her on the cheek at the end of the date. You'll know if she wants more. Shaking their hand is so silly and real women will not ever want a second date with someone like that. It's a date, not a business meeting.
2006-12-11 12:47:27 · answer #5 · answered by Pache 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know if the chemistry is there or not, usually within 5 minutes of the first date. If I don't like you, I'll tell you so. If I do you will know that too. So, as far as the kiss goes, I would rather have that kiss on the cheek & have you ask me if you can call me the next day... But then, I'm in my mid 30's so I may have a totally different outlook on dating.
2006-12-11 12:48:48 · answer #6 · answered by T. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't expect a kiss on the first date o.0...
Most women, if they liked the date, would like a reassurance of a second one, or keeping in touch. Kissing could be a sign of that, but not for everyone.
2006-12-11 12:50:00 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a kiss is not expected on a first date but if you had a good time and you think that there might be a second date I would skip the handshake. It is too impersonal. Instead go for a hug and maybe a little peck on the cheek.
2006-12-11 12:49:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think a kiss is nice on the first date, and it will certainly tell me if I want to get to know him better. You can tell alot from a kiss. I think you should just kind of feel her out. Different women will want different things. There really isn't any set rules in the game of dating.
2006-12-11 12:48:53 · answer #9 · answered by heaven o 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just about anything goes these days! I don't like the shaking hands thing--try just a nice peck on the cheek.
2006-12-11 12:47:41 · answer #10 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋