My son just started school and he doesn't want a kiss or a hug when he gets out of our car. I need to know another way to show him that I love him and not embarass him. What can I do?
2006-12-11 04:35:21 · 14 answers · asked by teresasays 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Sometimes just telling him to have a good day will be enough. He wants to feel independent, so you might let him have it. Usually, boys want independence just a little less than lovin' from Mom, so it probably won't be long before he wants a hug again...
An alternative, let him watch you say good-bye to your husband. What does he like? Probably a hug and kiss...if grown-up men are OK with it, might not be so bad for kids, too.
Good luck.
2006-12-11 04:43:12 · answer #1 · answered by KD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs lists. So come up with a list for him of what you expect in these situations where you've been let down, and what it would take to persuade you to stay home (assuming you're still open to that possibility). No, it's not romantic, but he needs to understand that taking care of you is just as much of a priority as all of these other tasks - and if this is what it takes to get him into that mindset, then so be it. If that still doesn't work, then maybe it's time for you to start making your own list of what's important to you in a partner and seeing whether he measures up.
2016-05-23 05:34:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to experience this every school day. One day, I said " I really need a hug and kiss when I drop you off". "Just like you really want me to be at your soccer games, swim lessons, karate class and class field trips and be a mom driver".
"A hug, kiss and happy face is all I want OK, because you get almost everything you want".
So it went and every so often he thinks I'm gonna forget and he tries to get out of it, so I remind him. Yeah, he gets embarrassed too.
I think it's a boy thing, they probably get teased.
2006-12-11 06:02:12 · answer #3 · answered by Peach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is young then he should love to give you a hug and kiss. Its when they get older that they tend to get embarassed. Try and get a stronger bond with him. Work at it and I assure you that he will come around. Spend one on one time with him. I assure you it will help. :)
2006-12-11 04:41:01 · answer #4 · answered by breezejv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I noticed my kids are the same way at school. When at home or elsewhere, they are all over me. I'm guessing that they don't want to end up the object of teasing. I let it slide; they know I love them. Schools are like barnyards...you get collective behavior that often times defies logic.
2006-12-11 04:46:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
set up a hand shake or a hand jester only the two of you know to say love you cause this has nothing to do with wether he knows you love him or not he's just trying to be a big boy try getting your hugs before you leave the house
2006-12-11 04:47:36 · answer #6 · answered by mom101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him a note or a card that says I love you. Also, pictures are worth a thousand words!
You can also create a secret hand shake.
2006-12-11 05:33:07 · answer #7 · answered by hrace512 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 4 and doesn't always like me to hug or kiss him either, so we shoot kisses...you kiss your hand discreetly then make a finger gun and shoot the kiss with a POW!
2006-12-11 05:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by totspotathome 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my son is the same way so i always get my bye-bye kisses just before we get around the corner to the school
2006-12-11 05:22:57 · answer #9 · answered by cloud_2027 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bah - i hug and kiss my 10 year old!, but every kids diffrent.
just verbaly tell him, you love him, thats all, and maybe he doesnt want the hug and kiss incase friends seee, do it before you take him to school
2006-12-11 05:00:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋