all i really have is guy friends i dont really hang out with girls. he says that there is no such thing as guy friends and that he doesnt want me hanging out with guys. if i ever miss his fone calls he starts saying stupid things like what were u doing and accussing me of being with some other guy although sometimes he says these things in a humorous type of way it really annoys me, cause i dont mind a lil protection but den after he has mad his stupid comment he acts as though he doesnt care. also im bi at first he was cool wit me liking girls but later on he got mad cause i thought some girl was attracted. i really dont like to confront him about things like this cause he always makes it seem like its my fault, i love being with him, but i really dont know what to do with his issues and me having ANY type of friends
2006-12-11 04:30:02 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i mean i still do as i please behind his back though, but its aggraviting. and he has all types of female friends and of course he usual guy friends
2006-12-11 04:44:08 · update #1
Get a new man.
2006-12-11 04:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Been there Done that... He doesn't trust you and that's o.k...
2) Trust is earned over time with trustworthy actions and honesty.
- Don't know where you guys are in this arena but I can assure you that's how it works..
3) My approach when I'm not trusted is to say: "look, I have nothing to hide.. Do what you need to do to prove to yourself that you can trust me". I'm o.k. with snoopin, following, etc.. I truly don't have anything to hide.. Also, I don't do anything when they are not there that I wouldn't do if they were there...
4) On the other hand... some people are so insecure that they become "cling-ons"... If this approach doesn't work for them then they must move on... because I'm certainly not going to buy into their DRAMA needs or feel guilty about living.
5) THE TRUTH WILL ALWAYS COME OUT... no matter what... sometimes it takes a while, but the truth does always come out.
- better to have it prove what you said or did than not.
2006-12-11 13:01:35 · answer #2 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that he is way too controlling. You should be able to be friends with who you want to be, especially if you have never done anything to make him think that you would cheat on him. There is no way that you are going to be happy if you are not allowed to have any friends. Also, you have to consider what will happen if you stop being friends with all of your friends, and then he dumps you. Your friends may not be willing to take you back if you left them all just to be with a guy. Maybe you can talk to him about it and make sure that he knows that they are only your friends, nothing more. Also, maybe he would feel more comfortable with it if he were to hang out with your friends with you and get to know them better.
Good luck!
2006-12-11 12:38:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your bi-sexual is the relationship with the man gonna lead anywhere? marriage? why would you be in a relationship with a control freak anyway? he will never trust you and this situation will only get worse and lead to more abuse. I'm wondering what type of man he is since you told him the truth from the start. whats in it for him? some people don't like to share mates i don't so id never put myself in that situation. is he thinking he can change you? he cant!! one can only change themselves. so either you put up with this or you bail. I'm wondering out of curiosity how one could like/love two people at the same time or is it sex? its hard to have your cake and eat it to. your not being fair to either mate. i do commend your honesty. at least you explained how it really is with you.he as well has to decide if he wants this kind of relationship. thanks
2006-12-11 12:41:58 · answer #4 · answered by shiznick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is he like that has he had same bad experience in past find that out first if there no such issue then he is over possessive and super jealous and its going to be very difficult for u so leave him nothing u do is going to change the way he thinks ask him to go for therapy if he is willing
2006-12-11 12:52:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, get OUT. NOW!!!!
He is a jealous one!
Let me tell you right now, no matter how much you love him, it will only get worse.
Soon you'll realize you're being kept a prisoner and you'll have feelings about actually WANTING to cheat! That way when he accuses you again, he can at least be right!
My suggestion is to break up with him. You can find someone else who doesn't have his jealousy problems.
2006-12-11 12:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by Miz D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what he is saying i dont trust you and maby he just cares but also enough is enough i used to be in that situation and i just couldent handle it no longer and i dumped his *** so i would do the same if i was you it will only get worse beleve me been there done that. also if he is just playing then talk to him about the way you feel about wat hes saying maby he will stop who knows but there would be kno way in hell i would put up with a guy that wouldent let me have any friend at all. hell kno dump him girl hes not worth it. hope i could help and ur welcom happy holidays
2006-12-11 12:41:57 · answer #7 · answered by lizz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you leave him.He is bringing you down and it's unfair,he is very controlling and possessive of you..You don't deserve that behavior,no one does.You need your friends and freedom,Sit him down and tell him how you feel and how he is making you feel,if he still does not understand don't waste anymore time with him.I am very sorry to hear what you are goin through.I wish you all the best and hope you find my advice very helpful!!!
2006-12-11 12:35:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. Is your happiness worth his comfort? You should do what you want to do because life is short and it should be lived how you want it to be. If you want friends, go get them. Never let a man stand in your way of that. He doesn't own you, so don't let him think he controls you.
2006-12-11 12:33:19 · answer #9 · answered by Katlyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very wrong of him to tell you what and what not to do.Are you doing the same to him?Sit down and have a heart to heart,Do Not Feel Guilty!He got you with friends and if he wants you all to himself,then he needs to be prepared to do the same for you...
Goodluck...
2006-12-11 12:35:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. If he's this jealous and controlling now, I can only imaging what it would be like if your relationship goes any futher. He's not secure with himself and has issues that he needs to deal with. Until he's figured this out, he's not ready to be in a relationship.
2006-12-11 12:34:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋