is my boyfriends mother going to get tired of me?

Question

me and my boyfrind see each other quite often because we love to spend time with each other. We go out all the time (bowling, pool, movies, dancing etc.) and sometimes we just hang out at his house. His mom cooks and he has cable, so his house is the hang out spot for us. The only thing is that I am afraid that his mom might get tired of me there all the time. Like I go there about 3x a week some times more/less. His mom only told him that she doesn't think that it's cool for me to be over when she's not home, but other than that she didn't say anything else. Yet I still see it like after a while of seeing me so often she may get tired of me. What should I do?

Answer 1

From what it sounds like, you and your boyfriend go out a lot. So being at his house 3x a week doesn't sound too extreme. Ask your boyfriend what he thinks because I'm sure if she does feel like that then she would have mentioned it to him.
When you are over her house pay attention to how she treats you, because her actions will speak loud and clear, on how she feels about you.
Make sure that when you go over there that you don't become a burden, if the house is big-if she's in the kitchen; be in the living room for example.
Also why not do something nice for her like offer to cook dinner-you and your boyfriend will have tons of fun, and you'll give her a break!

Answer 2

For starters ask his mom if she minds if you are over when she is not home. 3 times a week is not that bad. If you see that she is starting to act different, step back for a couple days. Allow your boyfriend some family time without you. Most moms miss the family time they had before a bf/gf comes into the picture. It is not you. Try asking her if she needs help cooking sometime. Maybe you and your boyfriend could volunteer to help clean up. If you are good company then she won't get tried of you

Answer 3

My brother is in a similar situation, so I'd have to say, no she isn't getting tired of you, she's probably just getting tired of having to do the work all the time that your boyfriend, her son, doesn't do in the home. She's probably just feeling a little unappreciated, because now you're there too. Try to help her out once in a while, she'll thank you and in the long run the two of you might grow closer together.

Answer 4

I don't think that your boyfriend's mother is going to get tired of you! The odds are that she is happy that her son has found someone who is as considerate as you are. For brownie points with his mom, try complimenting her on her cooking, or how nice her house is, or how good of a job she did raising her son. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and for my senior year of high school, I lived with my boyfriends family. His mother loves me because I am the daughter that she never had. We go shopping together and go into Boston together. I used to help her cook dinner and now she's like my third mother! (my real mom, then a step mom, and then her).

Try to bond with her so you don't feel like she'll get sick of you! Ask if she wants help cooking dinner, or setting the table. The she won't feel like you two expect her to do everything.

Answer 5

You really dont know if she is getting tired of you unless she tells you and once she tells you that she is tired of you, she probably wont like you much anymore. So just you and your dude find some where else to hang out. Tell your dude how you feel and that you dont want to overstay your welcome. Brown nose a little bit. get moms a small gift every now and then, nothing expensive. u know what i mean? Good luck

Answer 6

Just do what she says. Be there only when she is around.

Answer 7

well i am like this with my bf too. i think thqat is she gets tired of seeing you then she will eather tell you or tell him to let you know.