I love this man so dearly and i want to marry him but my family doesn't accept should i still marry him or i should i listen to my family?
2006-12-11 04:25:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
my family doesn't see him the way i do my family thinks they know him but they really don't!!
my family thinks he is using me thats why they don't like him
2006-12-11 04:44:00 · update #1
Is there any legitimate reason why your family doesn't approve? If it has nothing to do with what kind of man he is, I would say marry him anyways.
2006-12-11 04:28:54 · answer #1 · answered by Jon O 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow--what a bad situation. First you need to decide if you truly love this man. If you can say yes, then talk to your family and find out what exactly is it that makes them not like your boyfriend. Ask for specifics, examples, heck--have them draw you a picture. All of this will be hard for you to listen to--but do it and most importantly DON'T interupt and try to defend or explain what they are seeing. Really listen to them. They are your family. They've known you longer than this guy has and truly love you. If you open your heart to them and really listen, you may find out that there is good reason for them to not accept this guy. But...if in the end, you still don't agree then you should follow your heart. Just be aware of what this could mean. It could mean the loss of your family's contact, support, and help. They will still love you...but they may have to make some tough choices themselves. If you can live with this guy WITHOUT your family, then maybe you have a choice...but please be careful. If there is something that is causing heartache about this boy with your folks; then chances are there is something about this boy that will eventually cause you heartache. Don't do something just because down deep you want to prove that your are independent and can make your own choices. Make the right choice--the one that you can live with every day for the rest of your life.
Good luck and be careful.
2006-12-11 14:08:53 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that you are in such a rough spot.
This is a question about your happiness. Although your family may have your best interests at heart, it comes down to how you really feel. Go past all the lovey-dovey feelings. Think about what you love about him. Is he really the one? Or are you just in love with the idea of love?
Do you think your family will disown you if your marry him, or do you think they will come to get to know him?
Is there any way you can find a middle person who can speak on your behalf and try to smooth your family's ruffled emotions?
Good luck to you, whichever you decide.
2006-12-12 00:40:05 · answer #3 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family might be right...sometimes love blinds us and we are unable to see the truth, but from the outside looking in your family can see what he is really doing. If you think that your marriage will be a happy one, are you willing to lose your family's support for it? Think long and hard about what will happen if you marry him.
2006-12-11 13:07:55 · answer #4 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too many variables and not enough info.
Why does your family not want you to marry him? How old are you? Do you really love him or are you just in lust with him? Are you prepared to give up your family for him if it comes to that?
2006-12-11 12:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take your time and don't rush into marriage... your family may see something you don't or they may just think he isn't good enough for their precious baby. Take your time and make totally sure that he is everything you want in life. If you are sure sit with your family tell them your feelings and let them know that they just need to get to know him more. Offer to arrange dinner plans or a casual brunch or coffee date that everyone can talk and get better aquainted.
Good Luck.
2006-12-11 13:35:45 · answer #6 · answered by angelcdm228 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all reality, if you're really going to decide based on how people on this website are responding, then you have a very shallow idea of marriage and should not marry the guy.
2006-12-11 12:34:15 · answer #7 · answered by Ty Cobb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why doesnt your family like him? if its because he's a heroin addict and abuses women then listen to ur family, but if its jsut because hes not the same religion or race then follow ur heart.
2006-12-11 12:44:06 · answer #8 · answered by HanginByAMoment 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends why your family don't accept him? Need more information on this one....
2006-12-11 12:29:31 · answer #9 · answered by Rowan1964 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Add more to the question, why dosent your family like him HONESTLY!!!
2006-12-11 12:28:44 · answer #10 · answered by voluptoustaureanfemale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋