See when I went to my ma;s house this weekend I came in from Virginia she llives in Ohio. She asked me to talk to my sister about what I went through with boys and sex. But only thing that I went through with boys is stupid and over and shes not going to get married any time soon. How can you tell your sister about boys and the effects and dangerousness of sex?
2006-12-11 04:18:14 · 22 answers · asked by Nakeya C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell her what they told me:
*you never "lose your vaginity you only give it away" ( there is only one exception :()
*You Should only sleep with someone who honestly deserves to see you that valnerable.
* You deside your own destiny.
Trust me, if she's a smart girl, she'll make the right choices.
2006-12-11 04:23:44 · answer #1 · answered by sadiebabe81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first I ask why your mother is not preforming this job, but I see how you beeing the older sister can have more of an effect. You first have to look at the age..If old enough she probably knows alot about sex with just tv and peers. I would first find out what she knows, I would get on the internet with her and show and discuss the STDs that can happen, it is extremely scarey how many young children are getting STDs. You must make sure with her that she has a very high chance to get, such STDs. When talking with her suggest not having sex, but you have to understand that she will probably will have sex. You have to be willing to talk to her about condoms and lubricants.
To get her to better understand boys let her watch, American Pie the first movie, exclude the gay *** boy in it, and make sure that she understands if she has sex with a boy that she can X that relationship.
Basically give her as much information as possible in as many different types of sources as possible, just not porn..Definetly make sure that all family members are included with this discussion the more the parents and siblings are involved the better chance she will be open with her life, don't let her feel she is punished for feeling a certain way, for this is a feeling that most all teens have...
If she is to young there are books at libraries that discuss sex and relationships in a childs view, you can ask a librarian they will know where to look.
2006-12-11 12:36:44 · answer #2 · answered by kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very delicate subject. You should be open and honest with your little sister, number one. Education should be first and foremost in her mind at this critical time in life.
Sure, fun is important. But define "fun" to her. Experiencing the things this world has to offer before choosing the exclusiveness of one mate.
Explain to her that relationships formed now are only temporary, and these little boys just want one thing. Once they get it, they will talk about her to other boys and ruin her reputation.
Tell her that if she gives in to the physical now, she may regret it later. AIDs isn't the worst thing out there. Take her to the library and show her the true stats about teenage pregnacy and STD's.
Sexual relations between a male and a female, especially teens who are not married are considered foolish and have been proven throught time to cause countless problems. Mainly for the young woman who, if not infected with an STD is left with an unwanted child to raise alone.
The old adage "Good things come to those who wait" is appropriate here. She will be very happy she waited and her health will be the greater for it.
2006-12-11 12:36:56 · answer #3 · answered by latietee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone stated that it is your mother's job but I can understand why your mother asked you for your help. Sometimes kids will not listen to a parent because they think the parent can't possibly understand what they are going through. It is sometimes easier for a sibling to get through to the teenager or young adult. Sit your younger sister down and be straight with her. If you don't think she is ready for sex be honest with her. Way the pros and cons about having sex. Let her know that there will be plenty of time for sex and boys when she is a little older and matur enough to handle everything that comes with having a sexual relationship with boys. Tell her of the dangers of having sex. In this day and age, you can't leave anything out. Despite how good sex can feel we still have to be careful. Good luck from one big sister to another. Just pray that some of what you tell her sinks in.
2006-12-11 12:27:26 · answer #4 · answered by Billie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all let your sister know that you care about her and that you don't want her to experience "boys" the way you did. Sex doesn't have to have negative effects nor does it have to be dangerous. Let her know the right way to go about becoming sexually active. Bring her to an OB-GYN so she can get expert facts on the "effects" of being sexually active. She can also pick up methods of birth control for her and her partner(s). Let her know that not using birth control can result in negative things that i'm sure she and you or your mother do NOT want to deal with. STD's, pregnancy, and the other effects that come from unprotected sex are what she should be most informed on. Let her know as well that sex is something that two people share. (i know it's not limited to two people but for this it will be)
2006-12-11 12:47:30 · answer #5 · answered by LoveYouJoseph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what it is you know. Explain to her the importance of being prepared for anything that can happen and what she and her partner can do to prevent anything from happening. Talk to her about going on birth control, but also mention that just bc she is on the pill doesn't mean that it will prevent pregnancy. Tell about some of the risk there are of STD's and how important it is to be aware of whats out there. Best bet is to take her to a Planned Parenthood and have them talk to her and give her some helpful hints.
Another really important thing to stress to your sister is that when she does have a steady boyfriend not to forget her friends and that guys will come and go but true friends will always be there.
Just tell her to think about things and not get pressured into anything, be a strong woman.
Best of luck!
2006-12-11 12:25:57 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say boys are evil and shouldn't be associated with until she's 35...just kidding...Just tell your sister the truth about what boys are about. Tell her that if she has any questions about sex whatsoever, she can come to you. If she feels comfortable talking about it with someone, there is less likely a chance she will go out and experiment, because she will already know what happens.
2006-12-11 12:21:59 · answer #7 · answered by Katlyn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old? 16+ she's a young woman and needs to know her birth control options etc. Younger means a different type of advice. She may be already sexually active? Do not push the subject on her waite till sher starts talking 1st.
2006-12-11 13:34:28 · answer #8 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen... what is this non-sense that boys only want to get into girls' pants??? This was a question about sex, not an event to shout loud and clear that boys are bad and girls are good. These "answers" are stupid...
2006-12-11 12:27:55 · answer #9 · answered by iDontKnowWhatToDo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get a DVD on the topic if you are uncomfortable with telling her. If not you must sit down and talk to her about sex and boys. It is important.
2006-12-11 12:22:04 · answer #10 · answered by Jenny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋