I've grown up as a Anglician, However, I really need some advice how to deal with this situation where religion concern in this case of my boyfriend who is a Hindu. Knowing the first 2 commandents which states "You shall have no other gods before me" and "You shall not make for yourself and idol in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below. You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the LORD your God, am a jealous God punishing the children for the sin of the fathers to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me, but show love to a thousand generations of those who love me and keep my commandents. Would it be wrong to change my religion? We talk about it and he was asking if we have kids what belief will they be i say your religion and I go with my belief but he suggesting that, our children will be asking a lots of questions and it will not be a like one family. I really need your advice and the best one. Please help.
2006-12-11 04:05:54 · 28 answers · asked by wonder 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Any commandement any faith or any religion or any GOD which tells to reject other's Truth is a hoax.
It is better to be atheist than believing such crap
We are all God's children and He loves us irrespective of our nationaltiy, color or religion...he loves even atheists
2006-12-11 04:12:02 · answer #1 · answered by ۞Aum۞ 7 · 5⤊ 5⤋
This may seem long, but read it because it's good. It will open your eyes to reality.If you believe so much in your religion, why would you want to be with someone of a different religion. You know what your beliefs are. He has his beliefs. You two must disagree someone along the line in religion. Why would you want to be in a relationship with someone who goes against what each of you believe. Now you might say that you may not argue or disagree, but in that case, you don't really believe your religion then. Now do you? I'm not going to say that it is wrong to change your religion. But you do what you want. Now talking about kids. You two will be married right? Okay then, two religions should not be brought together like that. Put love to the side and ask yourself, "Is it worth my religion and where I'll spend eternity?" There is another Christian guy other for you. Just pray that God will bring him to you at the right time.
2006-12-11 04:20:39 · answer #2 · answered by Kaylen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why do you prefer to have an answer from a Christian? wouldn't even want to know a little bit more about hinduism?
first of all, idols are symbolic, ask any hindu, they will say there is one god, second of all, if you are unwilling to learn about hinduism, you should not be in a relationship with a hindu, if you want to amrry someone of a different religion please respect it, and he should respect yours, but don't make anyone convert, because hindus TOLERATE every religion, don't take advantage of hindus not shoving their religion into peoples faces
and your child should have it's own opportunity to choose what beliefe it chooses, just to let you know, if there is a god, just think, logically, that god would not care what religion you are a part of, as long as you live a good life, christians and muslims are so stuck up abotu being convinced that their religion is right, hindus believe that every religion and every god is essentially the same one, be more open-minded for god's sake
btw, I'm an agnostic
2006-12-11 07:42:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you go taking any big steps, you must be certain you respect each other, which included respecting the way the other believes, even if it is not in line with your beliefs. (I am Christian and my wife is agnostic). If you believe in something you should not be expected to change your religion. It is true that if two people get married with differing religions it will be an extra hurdle to overcome in the relationship, and sometimes not an easy one. I have studied the Hindu religion and there are a lot of great teachings, but I also believe in the importance of Christ and his sacrifice. In my relationship, we have decided we will each continue to live and practice as we do. I go to church every week and continue to study the scriptures, pray, etc. We have a 7 mo. old son. We will each teach him by example and allow him to make a choice. Of course we can each share with him our beliefs, and if he wants to go to church then he can, but it will be up to him. However, the most important thing is that both individuals can respect this and their childs decision without putting up a wall or provided negative influence, because negativity can only destroy a relationship. This is a decision you must make on your own, and you must be comfortable knowing your children may not turn out how you would like. But again, the most important thing is being true to yourself and respecting your own beliefs. If your boyfriend cannot do this then you should not continue on with him. Good luck.
2006-12-11 04:15:06 · answer #4 · answered by straightup 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are wrong to change Religions for the sake of a potential Husband. If you switch just for him as time goes by you will resent it more and more.
Marriage takes work, understanding and more work, starting with this large of an issue would not be advised. It is hard for two people who are serious about their faiths and having different faiths to keep a marriage working. If one or the other really does not care, it is not as big of an issue.
You are smart for thinking about this BEFORE marriage, only you can answer, you have to be true to yourself and your OWN salvation first.
I would take time, talk with your Priest, your family, and your boyfriend all openly and decide if this relationship is right for you, and him. Take an objective look at ALL issues!
And Pray!
Peace, Good Luck and God Bless both of you!
2006-12-11 04:23:22 · answer #5 · answered by C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I nearly got into a situation like yourself where i was considering making a committment to a Non Christian. He said if we have children that the children would have to have his religion to which i disagreed. He would also insist that i change my belief to his over time. If you love the Lord and know in your heart that there is no other God but God the Father you wouldnt change your religion and would also understand that serving other Gods as the Hindus do (No disrespect intended) does not please the Lord. In any relationship there should be compromise. It is your decision and your LIFE!
2006-12-11 04:16:34 · answer #6 · answered by JDJ34 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow...that's a loaded question. Sounds to me like you are not completely devoted to Christianity otherwise you wouldn't be considering changing. Religion is not a club you belong to, it's a belief system you devote yourself to. I personally am not religious at all (was Catholic) and find it disturbing when someone is asked to change religion for "appearances". I can't tell you what to do, but the mate I would chose to marry would not be asking me to change my religion. Either you tolerate each others fate and let the children experience the beauty of Both religions, or don't get married.
If you would like to research more about the differences in religions, I find this site to be very useful.
www.religioustolerance.org
2006-12-11 04:16:47 · answer #7 · answered by fly_girl_pc12 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you truly are a Christian, this shouldn't even be a hard question.
2 Corinthians 6:14
[ Do Not Be Yoked With Unbelievers ] Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?
You have put yourself between a rock and a hard place. I know that emotions are an overwhelming thing, but Truth has to take prcedence. If you truly believe in God, you have to make the hard choice and walk away. God will bless your obedience. Ask Him about how He wants you to form relationships. He asks that you be undistractedly devoted to Him. When the time is right, the man He has prepared for you will show up. Your job is simply to run hard after God and trust Him.
1 cor 7:34a An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit.
2006-12-11 04:16:12 · answer #8 · answered by BaseballGrrl 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
That would not be a good idea.
Changing religion aside, if it is an issue now, it will be later.
There will always be the issue and if your heart changes it will be difficult for all those concerned.
Personally, I would not ask my future wife to change for me.
That would be a controlling issue.
His foresight to know there would be an issue with the children is a good one.
They would be making a choice and that may open some differences in the family and within the social structure of both in-laws.
Good luck.
2006-12-11 04:15:46 · answer #9 · answered by Get A Grip 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Knowing the first two commandments, and if you believe in God, and that he tells you not to, and you changed to a religion where you worship something other than God, then Yes, it would be against God to change your religion.
I married a man who does not believe as I do, and my children are open to both his view and mine, as I hope they will make up their own minds on what they believe. You dont have to be the same religion for a family to be successful. Compromise and respect can go along way in that respect.
Another point, why would you convert, has he considered it? Its a good thing to work out before you do get married and have kids.
I wish you the best of luck.
2006-12-11 04:12:36 · answer #10 · answered by sweetie_baby 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I don't think it's necessary for either of you to change your religion. Why not serve as a model of tolerance for your children and others by coexisting peacefully under one roof with two systems of belief? Surely you can find things about your religious and moral upbringings in common. Obviously you already have, or you wouldn't be considering marrying him and having his children.
Besides, most of the various gods of Hinduism are not actually gods but avatars or aspects of a single God, Brahmin. That's something you can find common ground on: God is one but may appear to different individuals in different forms. As for the idolatry thing, isn't a cross or a Christmas tree every bit as idolatrous as a statue of Krishna? Think of them as helpful reminders of God's presence in your life that enable you to meditate on / pray about his gifts in a more concrete manner.
If you two can't find common ground between your religions with all the love you share, what hope have the rest of us?
Good luck.
2006-12-11 04:19:28 · answer #11 · answered by magistra_linguae 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋