My boyfriend proposed and now when I ask about setting a date because I would like to get started on planning he says he's not ready to set a date yet. I myself have an ideal date for the wedding but I don't want to say anything to him about it because I'm afraid he will think its too soon...I want it to be September 15, 2007 thats our year and a half anniversary of dating....Is this too soon? What should I do?
2006-12-11 03:56:13 · 22 answers · asked by Emily M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My advice would be not to pressure him. If he said he is not ready to set a date, then that means he is not ready to set a date. Give him some time.
2006-12-11 04:03:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no time frame to be engaged. I have been engaged since September of this year and I am getting married at the end of this month. The date was originally for March 2007 but we want to bring in the new year together. If he isn't ready to set a date then how was he even ready to propose? I'd say sit down and talk about it and if he still says the same, just set a date and start planing... you can always change the date. It isn't set in stone until inventations are ordered and what not with the date on them.
2006-12-11 12:21:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that your wedding day is a day that every woman dreams about from the time she saw her very first wedding dress...all of the charm, magic, and beauty. However, this isn't the case for most guys. So...don't stress, give him some time to get used to being "engaged". Also, the date that you've chosen is only 7 months from now AND in one of the busiest wedding months of the year...you may run into problems getting reception hall, churches, and other contractors. But that will really depend on what you have in mind for your wedding.
If 9-15-07 is what you have your heart set on...start looking around for places on your own. See if there is availability for that day, you can always present him with a completed package at the end. (Also, this is a stereotypical comment...but I'm going to make it just the same...don't expect a lot help, interest or input into your wedding from your fiance.)
2006-12-11 13:57:52 · answer #3 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys can't even talk about the wedding, you shouldn't be getting married at all. Communication is the most important thing in a marriage.... If he wasn't ready to set a date, he shouldn't have proposed. By saying he's not ready to set a date probably means that he is not ready to marry you...or he doesn't want to marry you at all. I would give that ring back and get the heck out of there before you make the biggest mistake of your life! You deserve better!
2006-12-11 12:56:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's to soon only if the both of you are not ready to get married for one reason or another. When he is in a good mood tell him it takes a long time to prepare for a wedding and you need to discuss some things before the planning even starts. You need to beable to talk about things before thinking about getting married. Find out why he is not ready to set a date. Respect his reason. If it's not to important to him tell him the date you have in mind and why. Be patient. Once you're married it's for a long time. Enjoy your engagement. Your engaged for the first time in your life. Don't push him, be understanding. Treat him like you want to be treated. Be honest and up front with him. It's hard to beat an honest, caring, sharing, loving relationship that lasts forever.
2006-12-11 12:42:30 · answer #5 · answered by Hinny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A proposal is soon followed by setting a date and starting the planning and monetary arrangements, etc.
As a previous poster said, if he's not ready to follow through on the dates, planning, etc., the legitimacy of the engagement is questionable.
2006-12-11 12:06:08 · answer #6 · answered by DJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's too soon... What about your 2 year anniversary? It seems that you have only been dating for over 6 months and you are rushing into things...Did he propose in the spur of a moment?? Do you even have an engagement ring??
Good luck
2006-12-11 12:17:47 · answer #7 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should try to give yourself at least a year, but if thats the date you want, then do it. However, to me it seems a bit alarming that you are going to marry a man that you are not even comfortable discussing a wedding date with. If he doesnt want to set a date (which means you cant start planning), maybe doesnt want you to start planning, and maybe he gave you the ring just to shut you up. What should you do? PROCEED WITH CAUTION!
2006-12-11 13:01:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's like still almost a year, man I wouldn't be able to wait sooo long Lol. (Well I didn't)
I think you should talk about your plan with him, he needs to respect your wishes. He might just be scared of finding his own place and getting you all you want for your wedding. But how can He EVER know that you wanted that ideal date when you never tell him?? Don't push him to take your idea, just tell him to think about it, and tell him how much it would mean to you.
Just make sure you talk about Kids before you get married, you don't wanna wait forever when you are finally ready, do you?
Thanks for reading, and best of luck!
2006-12-11 12:17:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would just give it a little bit of time! Maybe he does not think you two are financially stable to have a wedding right now, wedding can be very expensive! I have the same thing going on i am in engaged and have been for a year now, but we are not financially stable to have a wedding yet so we are holding off for now! Good Luck!
2006-12-11 12:00:44 · answer #10 · answered by ~*Sweet Pea*~ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋