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Question

Ok my boyfriends sister doesnt like me at all. Mainly due to the fact that she and her brother we close before mebut i sort of broke their bond because he hangs out wiht me more. However she has a bf and she is 20 and sheshould realize she is happy. We used to get along great but ever since they dont hang out as much she got jealous i guess. I always have tried to be nice..She then blocked me on myspace and on aol..ok..so saturday she was home and so were my bf and I so his room is the basement butt i guess there is a vent up in the laundry room...We had sex and later she left me and my bf a message saying...You to are disgusting and i hate hearing u moan when i do laundry u were so loud i had to put music on you should be like a normal couple and be respectful and wait till no one is home...Now keep in mind we are soo happy together and totally in love also crazy for eachother..so should ijust forget her because my bf isnt happy with her and how she treats me?.should it bother me?

Answer 1

It's a really tricky situation, and I totally get why it bothers you. I'd say you feel so uncomfortable hanging out in your boyfriend's house knowing that she's there not liking you. If you think that you and your boyfriend are gonna be together for a long time then you should try make it so that the two of you get on, it'll make life a lot more peaceful all round.

Just confront her, don't be aggressive, just take her aside and ask her if you've done something to bother her. If she says you have then apologise for whatever it is and tell her you'll try not to do it anymore. I know it sounds so unfair that you have to grovel, but she's clearly too immature to acknowledge that it's her who has the problem. I also think you should apologise for the incident of her hearing you two have sex, I know you didn't mean for her to hear but it's never nice to hear a sibling in the act! And maybe don't do it anymore when there's anyone in the house.

If things improve between the two of you then you should strike when the iron's hot, find a common interest and focus on that. Treat her like someone you've just met and don't let the fact that she doesn't like you intimidate you. You have to make her see you as a friend, and not as a threat.

If, after all your efforts, she's still childish and petty, then take a step back and ignore her as much as you can. She'll eventually grow out of it. This isn't an ideal situation and should be left as a last resort, make every effort to get her on your side before you give up on her. Best of luck! Xx

Answer 2

u dirty ho. why don't u and your bf just make a video of the 2 of u having sex and mail it in a Christmas card to her and all his relatives for goodness sakes. or maybe you could wait until his parents get home and fornicate right before their very eyes!!! what you should do is sign up for church camp and get u some soul food young lady. you've got the devil runnin through your blood. be gone evil spirits! be gone!

Answer 3

U shouldn't of been having sex, u r supposed 2 save that 4 when u get married! U should not hog him all 2 urself. Let her spend time with her own brother! How old r u?

Answer 4

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Answer 5

In all fairness, to both you and her, I want to just start out by saying that I'm not trying to pick sides here, when I put my two cents in, for this question. hehe
I do understand your situation, however, and think she has alienated you, just for getting "too close for comfort", you could say. It's not unheard of, because as the oldest kids of three, I had to help raise my little brother and little sister. There are ten years between me and them. I kind of see my little sister as my own daughter and dislike the idea of ANY boys even thinking of touching her. Your boyfriend's sister may be thinking in the same way about her brother, whether he's younger or older than her. Maybe she's fearing that you'll just be another girl who'll end up breaking his heart. It's a family thing.
For her side of the story, I can understand her feeling a little uncomfortable, hearing her own brother moaning and groaning with his girlfriend, in the same house. It's not an easy thing to listen to, and not something you want your mind to wander on and on about. I can understand her needing to turn up the music, to drown out the sounds, because I know I wouldn't want to hear my little brother or sister "getting busy" with anyone in the next room - or to hear it come from a ventilation duct, etc.
Even two people, who are very much in love and crazy for eachother, should remember that they aren't the only two people in the world. I know sometimes, it feels like no one else even exists, but if you expect people like her to like you at all, you should be mindful of their feelings too. To start, keep the lovemaking between you and your boyfriend, and no one else. It's no one else's business, so I recommend waiting for no one else to be in the building or the next room, when you two decide to go crazy on eachother. In my own experience, I moved two states north of where I lived, just to be with my fiancee, at the time. We used to make love a lot, just about every night, but had to do it in secret, behind closed doors, because we were staying at her parents' house. LOL
Yeah, I got kicked out when the "I'm holier than thou" mother found out. It sucked that she separated us, but I kind of sensed that something wasn't quit right with my finacee, as well.
At least you're with someone who truly loves you, and who isn't just using you for sex (I hope). In my case, I was the one being used.
Anyway, I only shared my experience so that I can establish a commonality between us. That way you wouldn't think from the start, that I'm lecturing you, as if I was "better" than you.
Keep your lovemaking between you and your loved one, and keep it as private as possible.
Let his sister know that you want to get along, and to be friends, is possible. Trust must be earned, and it usually takes some time and effort. One day, you might actually have to break up with your boyfriend, but she might be your best friend - you never know. hehe

Answer 6

Maybe she's unhappy with her life.. People always do/say things evil to make them feel better and make you feel like sh!! well I say live your life and do what you do but make sure it's respectful to others.And also remember that for the rest of your life you are going to meet people who talks about you and don't like you almost everyday for unknown reasons... I say so what!!! No one can make you happy but you.

Answer 7

it should bother you.
then again, she should grow up already.
try and forge some sort of friendship with her
and hopefully she could treat you with some respect

if it gets to suxy, get the hell out of there

Answer 8

i think you should respest her and her home by being quiet while she is home, why should she be made to feel uncomfortable in her own house. show some respect!

Answer 9

She should grow up, and she'll give up eventually, maybe your bf should talk to her.

Answer 10

when you are out of the picture things will go back to the way the were (blood is thicked than water)