im thinking about losing my virginity with a guy that ive known for 8 years and we have dated on and off with in the 8 years. We have been talking about it and i feel totally comfortable. There are still some things that im nervous about. I feel that everyone should lose it to their first love and he was mine. almost all my firends have to me that thats all he wants, but then when i ask him he says no and there might be something after it happens...so Should i do it or shouldnt i do it?
2006-12-11 03:48:38 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's up to you, so it seems you feel comfortable with your decision, that is losing your virginity with him. But, since your friends say he just wants that, it seems like he is using you. I guess this is the moment where you decide who you trust more, your friends or your boyfriend. I think you should think it through and if it's what you really want and are sure you aren't going to regret it later, go for it. Good Luck!
2006-12-11 03:52:43 · answer #1 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont understand why your virginity is so important, no offense to any values or judgements you may hold. Sex is a great part of your young life, and i dont think you should miss all that by waiting for the "one". I know every girl fantasizes about the "magical" moment, but girls listen, that magical moment may come when you are 50. Just do it, get on with it, besides you are never gonna find out whether ur BF rlly likes u or not,.... but be sure to be safe, use protection, and consult perhaps a sex ed doc about it or smthng first. Make sure ur BF is not a druggie that uses needles.... take care --> Get on wid life and have fun!
2006-12-11 11:55:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, since he said that's not all he wants, obviously this is the guy for you. I mean, he said there might be something after wards. That could mean 5 minutes of talking while he gets dressed, which I assume is about all you expect, or maybe he's just lying.
You seem like a smart girl and your friends sound like boyfriend stealing idiots.
2006-12-11 11:53:58 · answer #3 · answered by CoreSpeedMetalThrashGenreRockRap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know where you are coming from. I had the similar thing going through my mind. Listen to your friends don't blow them off. You may think that they are just jealous or something but they are looking out for you. But don't completely trust them. You have to look at this from all aspects. And remember that even though he says he doesn't only want sex, what do you expect him to say. But honestly, and this will be hard to hear, but if you are having doubts, you aren't ready. And plus, honey, you have been dating on and off. I had sex in this situation. and yes it was on and off as well. Two weeks after it happened we went into the off stage and he found someone else. We never were on again. I don't want to tell you to do it or not. But just be true to your heart. Your heart will never lead you astray.
2006-12-11 11:54:40 · answer #4 · answered by gotoward_thelight 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have not said how old you are but I am not sure that it would change my answer anyway.I feel if you love him and he loves you, maybe you should wait and get married first. I know, I know, that is very old fashion but if it hasn't happened yet why the rush. And I also believe your friends may know more then us here and if they feel this way you should just wait. If you are questioning it now just wonder how much you will question it after it is done.
2006-12-11 11:56:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anne D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are on here asking this question you are not 100% sure it is what you want to do...So i say NO! Until you can say Yes, I am ready without any second guessing or doubting you are not ready! Your virginity is a very special thing...don't give it away just for the hell of it!
2006-12-11 11:51:33 · answer #6 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only is your English terrible, but first you say:
"We have been talking about it and i feel totally comfortable."
then you say:
"There are still some things that im nervous about."
So obviously you are completely confused. And as long as you have this pre-concieved notion that losing one's virginity should involves a first love or 'specialness' is bogas. Open your eyes. You live in something called reality.
2006-12-11 11:52:41 · answer #7 · answered by Curious George 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well that depends on u i mean how old r u me im 18 and well i remembe rmy first time it was fun and i liked it but not the girl so much and its always been fun but now that ive mellowed out and met some one its like a whole differnt ball i say if u love him now then do but if u have any doubt then dont cuz its only gonna sting that much more if it dosnr work out
2006-12-11 11:54:19 · answer #8 · answered by David T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There "might" be something after it happens???
Giving it to your first love sounds important to you. Stick to your guns here.
It sounds like he may be trying to score a virgin.
If you waited this long you can wait even longer. Tell him you need to wait. Give him a longer time period. I'm guessing he'll get upset about it. If he does then he was just wanting to "deflower" you. If he's willing to go on waiting then maybe there's something there. I think you'll find he's not worth your time.
2006-12-11 11:55:58 · answer #9 · answered by mrspunkmeister2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends are probably right. Just because he says no doesn't mean he's not lying. And there MIGHT be something after? No you need to be in a commited relationship with a guy who loves you and is committed to you. Listen to your friends. That's what they are there for.
2006-12-11 11:51:28 · answer #10 · answered by wsguy1983 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋