what do i do when my boyfriend accuses me of cheating on him and he blames everthing on me?

Question

He has accused me of cheating on him and i havent!!!! i cant take it much longer, he wants to talk to me but when he or i call one another, he usually has to go! i asked him what was wrong the other night and he said nothing, the next morning i got a message that implied that i was cheating.. what do i do?

Answer 1

In my experience the phrase "The guilty dog always bites first" has always been true. Usually when someone cheats, they want to blame you so that's a sure fire way of being suspicious if he is blaming you for things you haven't done. I would dump him and find a man that you can trust.

Answer 2

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, But it sounds like your boyfriend wants out of the relationship. He may already be seeing someone else, (hence, his unavailability).
It's one of the oldest tricks in the book. He wants to breakup but he doesn't feel he can, because you haven't done anything. Your boyfriend doesn't want to look like the jerk his or reveal that he's met someone else.
So he turns the tables, accusing you of cheating while simultaneously acting like a real insensitive bastard. So you will break up with him, hopefully.
What do you do? Confront him. Ask him the following
1. Why he's so unavailable? How does he come to the conclusion that you're cheating when he hardly gives you the time of day?
2. Ask if there is someone else.
3. Ask if he wants to breakup.
But here's the thing. Don't expect his answers to be totally honest. You're not looking for answers in what he says. You want to pay attention to how he reacts to your question. What he doesn't say. Use your instincts by the end of this confrontation you'll know weather you need to move on or not. Good Luck.

Answer 3

There is nothingyou can do- you are not the problem. His behavior sounds negative and controlling.No matter what you do, it will never be enough. You caould quit schoola nd your job and sit at home all day with a tracking device and he would accuse you of having guys come over. This behavior indicate further controlling and possibly abusive behavior down the road. Getyour familya nd friends involved and break it off. Don't tell him "i"m leaving becauseyou are controlling and abusive", that won't work. Just get away and stay away, dont return his calls. He will act very nice and sweet to get you back, but that is part of the cycle. Do some research on abusive and controlling behavior- there are lots of warning signs and you deserve better.

Answer 4

Ah darling, your having a tough time of it aren't you?

Look your bf seems to have some kinda problem here, he's either consumed by jealousy and possessiveness because he's maybe had a bad experience in the past or he doing what he's accusing you off.

My bf was the same for at least the first 12mths of us being together, int he end I was upfront with him and asked him what the hell was going on, I asked if he loved and he said he did so I toldhim that he had no right to treat me in this way and if he loved me he'd tell me what was up with him and why he was being so horrid to me and he did, turned out he found his ex was cheating on him and he was convinced I was doign the same to him, which of course I wasn't. Things have been great since, dont get me wrong he has his moments but he's fine.

You wanna be firm with him and tell him you've had enough, tell him that he's either doing this to you because he's scared history will repeat itself or its because he's trying to cover his tracks.

At the end of the day you do not deserve to be treated in this way and you need to put your foot down.

Good luck and take care xx

Answer 5

He's a jerk and he is insecure. I see this as a form of control. He's trying to cut you down.

The best advice I can give is don't make exceptions about it now. Don't let it slide by like nothing is wrong. He will get the impression that it is ok to treat you like that and it's just gonna get worse. Tell him how you feel about it and that you will not tolerate it. If he cannot atleast copomise...get rid of him. And don't accept the " oh i just love you sooo much excuse" Because thats crap. If he realyy truly loved you he would listen to your side of the story and try to resolve the problem.

Answer 6

Move on, this is not the kind of relationship you want. What fun is it if you're boyfriend is always questioning your fidelity? It could also be that he wants to dump you but is to much of a coward to just tell you. By being an jerk he can get you to dump him and not feel guilty about the situation.

Good luck

Answer 7

Read this article. The title is "Warning Signs That You're Dating A Loser"

http://www.mental-health-matters.com/articles/article.php?artID=157

Answer 8

give him hard questions he finds hard to answer loke :

weres the proof ?
did you know that every time you accuse me , you get closer to the end of this relationship ?
if you cant tell me whats rong right away how is any thing going to work ?

try these out and have a good talk to him about how u feel :> i hope this worksxxxxxx

Answer 9

Sounds like he was looking for an excuse to cheat he doesn't trust you then there nothing to base a relationship on move on hes playing games with you. and acting like a 5 year old. that's how abusive relationship start. kick his @SS to the curb.

Answer 10

1st - drop him
2nd - beyond being a jerk perhaps he has a guilty conscience
3rd - there are so many good guys out there. you won't realize that until you are looking in a different way.

Love is work but this isn't work. It's crap.