I am getting married to my fiance` on 25th of december. She was very afraid and confused about the wedding night stuff. Actually we never had sex before, not to each other or anyone. It will be our first experience. She said that she's very afraid of the first time sex because its very painful and she would bleed too.... Well, i am pretty aware of the female physiology and anatomy, but i don't know about psychology. If the first time sex is painful, will i not be hurting her then? I am also confused as how would i begin the whole thing. OK, we'll talk for a long time but how do i start first...I..I am confused about it myself. getting naked in front of her will be quite a very very new thing for me.... Plz folks, help me out as how to spend my first wedding night (apart from talking stuff, i'll talk don't worry), but i don't want to cause her pain or any other physical trouble. And i am also afraid that maybe for the first time, i'll ejaculate so early as to the level of embarassment.
2006-12-11 03:26:31 · 8 answers · asked by Paf230 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Be gentle, thoughtful and loving and it will be a wonderful experience for both of you. Don't get stressed about it...look forward to it and take it nice and slow. I think it's great that you both waited...it should be a tender, loving experience for both of you.
2006-12-11 03:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, congratulations! You will each be comfortable, in future years, that you just did watch for marriage to proportion this enjoy in combination. Expectations are the whole thing; first time intercourse for a feminine isn't a enormous disturbing factor, except she expects it to be. So your first task might be to reassure her and loosen up her. Promise each and every different that if both says give up, at any second, the opposite will honor that. Tell her that you do not have got to have intercourse the primary night time except she desires to-supply her a way of trust and manage over the method, and she or he might be much less apprehensive. There is probably not any bleeding in any respect, despite the fact that she is a virgin, seeing that often the hymen is already ruptured from tampon use or sporting activities pursuits. The quantity of blood may be very minor, most of the time not up to a teaspoon. Keep tissues regional. Try sharing a bubble bathtub in combination if that appeals, the bubbles aid with the being-bare facet and furnish a few protection, and the tub may also be enjoyable. Dim the lighting fixtures and lightweight a candle, and so much of all, loosen up in combination. Keep a humorousness and be inclined to chuckle on the awkward instances. Tell her how lovely she is to you, how so much you like her-you'll be able to understand. And afterwards, do not give up speaking and cuddling, you'll have got to withstand your typical inclination to go to sleep. Cuddling and afterplay are very reassuring, peculiarly for a tender bride. Blessings to you each, Aunt Cryllie
2016-09-03 08:26:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay! first things first..if ur scared that may ejaculate early, try to do that before the wedding on ur own..second, if ur a bit shy cos it's ur first time and u feel awkward, make sure u dim the lights in the room..that way u'll feel less shy when u get naked..and then who said that all women hurst the first time,..thats not true..it depends on her physiology actually..but to make sure she doesn't..u should penetrate slowly and gradually, dont try to push in at once or force urself in..that will definitely scare and hurt her..I donno if u take alcoholh..well if u do, a little drink can help u ease the pressure and relax..if u dont drink, then just try to understand that this is not a test..it's a beautiful experience that u've been looking forward to all ur life right? don put urself under pressure, just relax and let ur feelings flow, they'll guide u the right way...remember it's making LOVE...they call it that for a reason :) good luck!
2006-12-11 03:36:49 · answer #3 · answered by GucciRush 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you have to do is take it slow. she is your wife and will love you even if you arrive a little early. as for getting started get lots of good lube, maybe go down on her first, and ease a finger into her vagina, when you both are ready...all you do is slowly build up to two, then three fingers, then your penis....just go slow and enjoy yourselves.
2006-12-14 20:18:42 · answer #4 · answered by gardner7988 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TAKE YOUR TIME. PET HER, KISS HER, TEASE HER. BE GENTLE, IF YOUR SOON TO BE WIFE HAS EVER USED A TAMPON, HER MAIDENHEAD MAY ALREADY BE TORN AWAY. THE PAIN IS NOT A HORRIBLE PAIN. IT IS BEAUTIFUL. DON'T WORRY ABOUT EJACULATING TOO SOON. THE FIRST TIME MAY BE CLUMSY. JUST LET THE MOOD TAKE YOU WHERE IT MAY. DON'T RUSH IT. YOU WILL BOTH BE FINE. IF YOU LOVE EACH OTHER, IT WILL BE GLORIOUS. CONGRATULATIONS!!! BE HAPPY
2006-12-11 03:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by anna s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont believe you because of one of your previous questions.
2006-12-11 04:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by daisy322_98 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax,and get as horny as when you were dating,you be fine and its a few drops nothing that great..........
2006-12-11 03:30:59 · answer #7 · answered by tysgrandma99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay then!!!
2006-12-11 03:30:15 · answer #8 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋