I am a nice guy, i respect women so much I can't get dates.
Why do the vast majority of women go for boy racers and ignorant pricks?
2006-12-11 03:18:38 · 11 answers · asked by dodge 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Usually the answer is yes! Girls keep saying they want nice guys, but in fact almost always choose the "bad boy"!
2006-12-11 04:12:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really not true about the majority of women.
Most people- men and women- are too much into trends. One of the big trends at the moment is for both sexes to be trashy, shallow and conceited. Most people have little class these days. That doesn't make them bad people, but it does mean that they unfortunately fall into certain stereotypes.
Maybe the females you are looking at fit into these stereotypes. These footballer wives wannabes might be nice to look at, but might not make the ideal girlfriend.
The only way you can find the right girl is through socialising and by chance encounters. If you're quite a social person, then maybe you're socialising in the wrong environment (like clubs- vomit!). Perhaps women don't feel you're interested because you don't give off the right signals. Perhaps women think you're not interesting because you're not opinionated enough, or maybe you come across as not a nice guy because of awkward body language, or maybe they think your polite behaviour indicates you might be in a relationship.
If you have any female friends, ask their opinions. In the meanwhile, come out of your shell a little. And for the record, women love polite, respectful men (as long as they can have a laugh too!), so don't feel pressured to be a jerk to appeal to them. You'll find Ms. Right soon.
BTW- all the nice girls I know do not fall for the pricks! In fact, only one of my girl friends has a **** for a boyfriend- and she's the only one who fits into the modern, too much makeup and shallow lifestyle. She is a nice girl, but naive.
2006-12-11 03:28:29 · answer #2 · answered by midsojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all part of the Freudian thing that women tend to look for mates who are like their fathers. If their fathers were abusive, neglectful, disrespectful jerks (esp. to the mother), and sadly, the majority of guys ARE like this, then the daughters subconsciously look for that or are drawn to it in a guy.
HOWEVER, if you find a women whose father was loving, kind, respectful and taught the girl that she was to be valued, then she will want ONLY that in a boyfriend/husband...even in other guys, like her employers, etc.!
So, when you first date, ask about the woman's father, what he was like. If you get ANY "whiff" of negativity, or a sense that the woman doesn't think much of herself, odds are, she'll go for a jerk, NOT you, so just end it there!
Good luck to you...there ARE independent, self-loving women out there!
2006-12-11 03:29:20 · answer #3 · answered by Gwynneth Of Olwen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont change!!! believe me, I find my share of guys who only want one thing on the first date, and its a turn off to me. So I see guys in the same way you are seeing women.. and I wont change for them either. I know, its like looking for a needle in a haystack, but it will be worth the wait. If those women are picking those kind of guys,,, that should tell you what kind of woman they are.
2006-12-11 03:31:17 · answer #4 · answered by mickster440 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope you will win in the end because a real woman will find you and snatch you up.
Don't go the "a$$hole" route and treat women poorly to get attention be the nice guy in the long run you'll be better off for it.
2006-12-11 03:22:33 · answer #5 · answered by kyrie_eleison_gr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're usually watching for the incorrect forms of women. The forms that might opt for unhealthy men. And except, I do not suppose fine men conclude final, simply vulnerable men. Nice men can also be powerful too.
2016-09-03 08:27:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they think it will be better. Maybe you respect women to much even though we like it but I guess we just don't want to be with a 100% nice guy.
2006-12-11 03:21:32 · answer #7 · answered by Crazy K. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
vast number of women have self esteem issues and think they only deserve "bad boys"...just turn on jerry springer..nuff said...
2006-12-11 03:29:14 · answer #8 · answered by warthog77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all of us do but it's just as difficult to find a man who doesn't want to be with a sl*t or the no-brain looker
2006-12-11 03:21:46 · answer #9 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not. some lucky girl will snag you soon--best day of her life! she's out there!
2006-12-11 03:20:51 · answer #10 · answered by should be working 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋