He is a lovely,, loving caring guy who seems to have fallen madly in love with me.
I care about him deeply yet the obvious age gap is stopping me going the whole way with my heart.
I have children and I support myself financially I have a mortgage etc and at this stage of my life I need a man.
Yet still im with him after 4 months and I dont know what to do for the best.
The sex is great he makes me laugh and I enjoy his company but I worry for my future as deep down I would like some additional help financially to secure my long term future!
Am I being selfish or should I go with the flow and hope he stays with me, makes lots of money and doesnt end up leaving me when I'm old.
I must add I'm fun young and attractive and I love life!
2006-12-11 03:14:47 · 22 answers · asked by Flower 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi Hun, do not listen to crap like he is to young cause if its not with you it will be with someone else, he is 22 young and full of life just like yourself, I think its great that you could attract a 22 year old in your life, this means you still have what it takes to ride any guy and get what you want in return, do not worry about finacial things at this point just go with the flow, have fun and who ever decides that they want to go to the next level it will happen naturally and you will get exactly what you want, now if you push him by asking him questions about money and marriage he might just run, but at least he is there with you just let him love you and love him back, shower him with lots of sex and kindness and you will get exactly what you need in the long run, sometimes it might take some time but just have patients,
and sweety it all boils down to money anyway, you will get more than your giving in return you will see. Good Luck
2006-12-13 05:58:00 · answer #1 · answered by Brie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi
The same thing happened to me I was 32 and met a 17 year old. After 7 years together we eventually married and I had two more children with him after another 7 years we eventually split up. I was angry for a long time and blamed it all on our ages, I have since come to realise that I would have been better served to enjoy the relationship while it lasted instead of worrying about the very things you are worrying about. We create what we fear instead of creating what we would prefer. I have grown from being in that relationship and have no regrets now. Good luck and enjoy the moment with your partner after all age is just a number.
2006-12-11 03:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a large age gap that the two of you most deal with. You will need to sit down and discuss the problems you will face as a couple. I have friends that are seperated by 25 years and they have been married for 17 years. It can work.
2006-12-11 03:23:45 · answer #3 · answered by rilindy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my next door neighbour is 47 her husband in 30 at first i thought it was a bit weird some sort of mid life crisis or identitiy loss on the womans side as what would you mentally have in common with someone so young i mean im 25 and i could not date a 20 year old. but they seen really happy so who are we to judge !
2006-12-11 03:19:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough question. Age does not matter.
Maturity in any relationship does matter.
Things in your/his life figures out in this equation.
If I marry some lady younger than me, I will stay with her
until I die or Jesus returns to this earth with power and great
glory. I hope I will never experience death, but I may
God only knows.
I hope this helps some. Good luck!!!!!
2006-12-11 03:21:16 · answer #5 · answered by terry l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the flow, but talk about these things to find out where he stands (if you havent already). It is natural to be a little cautious but all you can do is be honest and open with each other and take things from there. No relationship is certain.
2006-12-11 03:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 22 he is too young to decide what he wants to do for the rest of his life. You need to let him be free. in the meantime just enjoy your sex life Have fun, but end it when it's time
2006-12-11 03:26:14 · answer #7 · answered by heartattack262000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.....mmmm, I wouldn't really expect a future. No.
If you're smart, you'll take this thing for what it is....a helluvalot of fun! At 22 he is too young to decide what he wants to do for the rest of his life. You need to let him be free.
Have fun, but end it when it's time.
2006-12-11 03:19:37 · answer #8 · answered by Miz D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe not many appreciate this kind of relation but in my opinion if he's someone special that makes you happy and you feel safe and warm with him then stay with him ,I am not sure if he's going to make his future with you but loving him is not a crime ...
2006-12-11 03:20:31 · answer #9 · answered by Mysterious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents have 12 years age gap and they have been married for 29 years now.Age doesn´t matter at all but trust and performance of course!.However, remember not to be so jelousy because he can easily fly away ,he´s so young give him his freedom and show him that u´re always there for him, then even though he may **** around he´ll always remember that u´re his only truly one.
2006-12-11 05:40:26 · answer #10 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋