My bestfriend in the world just got her first bf! And now ever sense
theyhave been going out she has no time to spend with me (and she said that no guy would ever get between us) What should i do in need HElp!!!
2006-12-11 03:06:10 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
confront her about it and then find yourself a guy too
2006-12-11 03:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by Jayden 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will happen, time and time again as you go through life. You probably feel betrayed by your friend, but truth is she is still your friend. You should support her and be there for her when her and her new beau break-up. My suggestion is unless the guy is a total jerk, don't get too caught up in getting between the new guy and your friend. Let her vent to you about the stuff thats going on if she wants to, but don't try to convince her of anything. Just be there for her.
If your feeling really left out, you could always tell her how you feel by saying hey I know you really like "Brian or whtevr" but I really miss being able to talk to you. Maybe we can chat or get together one night over the weekend.
It sounds like you are just at the age where hormones get the best of people. All I can recommend is to just be a friend to her and she should do the same in response. If she doesn't, she was never that good of a friend to begin with.
2006-12-11 03:17:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time... I know that sucks but there's nothing else you can do. My best friend in high school did the same thing and I got mad and stopped being friends with her and we just started talking again and I feel so bad that I lost all that time with her just because I wasn't willing to be on the back burner for a little while while she had a high school b/f. He will be gone eventually and she will need you then. Be there for her.
2006-12-11 03:13:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to realize that this does happen sometimes. Why dont you sit down with your friend and explain your feelings. Perhaps she just doesn't understand what's happening and how you feel.
Give her some time. A little, anyway. She's probably just so 'caught up' in this new relationship. Boyfriends come and go but best friends are forever. Be patient.
2006-12-11 03:10:59 · answer #4 · answered by garynjanice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now you should let her know that your happy for her even though it's hard to do when she wont spend any time with you.
You could ask her to have a night out together as best friends. If not let her see it your way. Let her feel what your feeling. Tell that you two need to get together to spend more time. She'll ask to bring her boyfriend, but to let him go is up to you!! Good luck!!!!
2006-12-11 03:20:38 · answer #5 · answered by black_thorn91 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all u should be happy for her. second of all, dont see their relationship as a threat. let her and the guy have space together and let the relationship grow, eventually they will fall back into routine, and u will get ur fren back plus another fren (which is the bf). in the meantime, why dont u go out and hang out with ur other frens, make new frens, find dates etc etc. it is unhealthy for a girl to be fixated and obsessive abt a boyfren just as much as a person fixated and possessive of her bestfren. give them and yourself a break and have fun!
2006-12-11 03:11:32 · answer #6 · answered by jiwaku79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk with her about. But once you get a bf you will do her the same way. Its not that she is letting him get between you guys he can do more for her than you can, if you know what I mean. Love her dont hate on her
2006-12-11 03:12:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you are happy she has found someone but that you still want to spend time with her. She is probably so crazy about this guy right now that she hasn't even thought about how you are feeling. Just talk to her.
2006-12-11 03:09:34 · answer #8 · answered by Jen_n_TX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm..... Just going to have to wait since right now, her whole life revolves around this new relationship..... Friends fall to the backburner..... Just don't get mad...
You could always strike up a conversation about hew new BF but be supportive and not critical....
2006-12-11 03:09:07 · answer #9 · answered by JohnS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, obviously, you have to steal her man. Isn't that what chicks do?
It's her first boyfriend. Cut her some slack. If you want to remain friends, just give her some time. They will break up in a horrific way and you will have your busted, damaged friend back.
2006-12-11 03:16:10 · answer #10 · answered by CoreSpeedMetalThrashGenreRockRap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your situation is pretty common. Especially when it is someone's first relationship. All you can do is sit her down and talk to her about it, and let her know exactly how you feel, and that she's risking losing your friendship. If that doesn't work, drop her like a hot potatoe. Chicks before *****!!
2006-12-11 03:09:26 · answer #11 · answered by cna_77381 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋