forget about you ex even though time has gone by. What do u do about that. I miss him, but this break up book said don't talk to him for 60 days and when u see him u can deal with things better. As for dealing with things better that turned out to be true, but it did not change the fact that I am still in love with him. I will never say it to him, but I want him back. I don't know if he feels the same way about me, and if he does pride may be standing in his way or he could really be over me. I thought dating (sex) would have helped me get over what I feel for him. I don't want to contact him because he may not feel the same way especially since we have not spoken to each other. The break up was not a bad one or a messy one, but there were some hurt feelings. WHAT SHOULD I DO about the way I feel. I don't want to make a fool of myself, but no matter what I do I can't seem to move past what I feel for him. I don't even know if he thinks about me, but he is on my mind all the time. HELP!
2006-12-11 03:01:34 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just go out and get laid, thats what i did. i was heart broken and could never love again and all that jazz. i secretly wished i would get hit by a car. then i started going out and getting laid. why not? he will be doing it. im still love my ex 8 months later but i dont have time to think about him everyday because i am busy with the other men in my life. they will be so into you and you have already been hurt like me so you will have fun taking guys home and never getting attatched. play little games with their head until they cant stand it anymore. so then they leave and that makes room for another toy boy to fit into your shedual. so yeah do it!
2006-12-11 03:11:55 · answer #1 · answered by *juicyjellybean* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to remember that you broke up for a reason. I was in a really terrible relationship once, and I loved the guy...I thought it would be really easy to get over and turned out to be really hard, even though he was a complete jerk. I think that there will always be parts of you that love someone that has been so special to you in the past. This does not however mean that you should be with them. I am now in a new relationship and it is so much better than the last one. If you really loved the person then it might take years to get over, but you have to move on,,,despite feeling sad and lonely...because you broke up for a reason. Guys will never act sad, even if they are. They could even watch the girl of their dreams walk out of their lives, but pride and ego won't let them tell you and often feel what's done is done *of course this is a massive generalization...but still remains true a lot I have found. Anyway, the way I deal with getting over a guy is distance myself from them completely and keep myself busy. Don't sit there and feel sorry for yourself or sad, find ways to meet new people, or better yourself or your friendships. It hurts, but everything gets easier with time. Good luck!
2006-12-11 11:07:22 · answer #2 · answered by Future Mrs. Beasley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You think about him when you are with other guys because you've been with him so long and he knows what makes you feel good and you know what makes him feel good during sex.
It takes time to learn everyone's different likes or dislikes and to develop the comfort you had with your ex. So give a new guy a chance to make you happy if you truly want to move on. Remember, your ex was a "new guy" at one time!
If it's more than just sexual...and your heart can't live without his...then SAY IT TO HIM...don't let pride stand in the way of something potentially wonderful!
Good luck.
2006-12-11 11:13:00 · answer #3 · answered by Italian_Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you have some unresolved issues with this guy. Even though you broke it off clean, for 60 days, you still have a strong emotional attachment to him, and until you come to terms with it, you're going to constantly *lurk in the shadows* when it comes to how you feel about the guy.
My advice would be to get ahold of him and tell him you need to talk. Chances are, if there was something there between you two, he'll have some things to say as well. At the very least you two will be able to clear the air about how you feel.
Best of luck!
2006-12-11 11:08:19 · answer #4 · answered by rollng_thundr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will get over this so dont worry about it, I was with my ex for 9 years and at the start of my next relationship, he would do something and i would think of my ex, it dwindles and you get excited about the new realtionship.. Try not to look back with rose tinted glasses, we women have a tendancy to do that and forget about the bad things. If it was that good we wouldnt have broken up on the 1st place, make that your mantra.
Take it slowly with the new partners or partner. And dont compare the 2 of them they are different men with different personalities.
I have now been with the new partner 3 years and love him so much. I am pregnant and cant wait so it shows you that it can sometimes work out for the best
Good Luck and stay strong
2006-12-11 11:07:11 · answer #5 · answered by carrienicholson23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need closure of some kind to get past this. I recommend that you ask him out to a public cafe or restaurant for coffee or whatever and just ask him what youi need to know! If there is any strength to the relationship he should respond in an honest way to your conversation. At least you will know if the relationship is forever over or not and you can go on.
2006-12-11 11:07:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First...stop reading books about relationships. Go with you gut and your true friends. You broke up for a reason. If your true friends think you breakup was a good thing, then believe them. They see things you don't.
Life is full of problems. Find an answer you think you can live with and stick to it. There are plenty more problems down the line.
2006-12-11 11:11:38 · answer #7 · answered by foghorn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal ..True loves last a lifetime but unfortunately not all the true loves gonna work out .I undestand how you feel because I was in that situation too but I know you will get over him by dating and meeting nice ,caring guys sooner or later .Maybe never forget him but at least you'll GET OVER him ...
2006-12-11 11:10:07 · answer #8 · answered by Mysterious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give it a second try. Let him know how you feel. He may either say Yes or No. Either way would be good for you to know, so you can get some closure on this part of your life.
2006-12-11 11:15:23 · answer #9 · answered by Optimistic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well darlin...if your feelings are really still that strong, I'd suggest contacting him.
Maybe e-mail him or text him. Tell him you'd like to chat and take it from there.
Who knows...maybe he feels the same way. And if not, at least then you'll know. Once you know, wont it be easier for you to move on?
2006-12-11 11:09:56 · answer #10 · answered by Miz D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋