i have this sister in law that always says bad things abouts me to other people it make me mad as hell i never say any thing to her about me kowning i just want her to stop saying bad things please help me stop my sister in law from talking about me
2006-12-11 03:01:04 · 6 answers · asked by kelley l 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First remember the reason that she says things about you are because she is insecure about herself and she wants to make herself look superior. For some reason she is jealous of you and thus feels threatened. Secondly I have come to the conclusion that what other people think of me is none of my business. In doing this I save myself a lot of grief and obsessing. Try and make friends with this woman, maybe once she realizes that you are not a personal threat to her she will let up on the comments, but somehow I doubt it. People like that are so unhappy inside it takes a lot to change that. The only thing that you can do is ignore her and let it go. Remember she is going merrily on with her life and you are the one that is becoming upset and staying that way over something that isn't even true. Does that make any sense? Of course not. Hope this helps. God bless.
2006-12-11 03:07:19 · answer #1 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously your sister in law is insecure within the family or with herself somehow. If she feels threatened by you or any member of her family her only recourse (to her way of thinking) may be to diminish the person to increase her own standing. I am not saying this is right or true, but it could explain her behavior. One solution may be to make her feel welcome in the family. Though this may only re-enforce her feelings of you, it may be what she needs to get along. Secondarily you may also consider a non-confrontational questioning of her reasons for putting you down. Remember most of the time it is not you, it is their feelings about themselves that creates animosity. At any rate you need to get to the root of the mean spirit to find the problem. It is up to you to tell her, it is not for her to control you by her actions.
2006-12-11 03:14:09 · answer #2 · answered by Tom H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that someone told u that she said this and that about u and ur reaction was: no way, she would never say bad things about me, she's better than that..then say that ur considering not talking to that person who told u anymore cos they are lying definitely..and sound genuine..she'll reaaly be embarassed
2006-12-11 03:28:50 · answer #3 · answered by GucciRush 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister in law is insecure about herself so she is putting every one else down to make her feel better..... There is not much you can do to help this..... I would avoid her....
2006-12-11 03:04:40 · answer #4 · answered by JohnS 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i would confront her, or else just ignore everything i hear.....
i'd say "i've been hearing that you're saying things about me that i don't like.....you don't have to like me, but i don't want to hear these things anymore"....
2006-12-11 03:46:30 · answer #5 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have sex with her husband---if its your brother then move to west virginia then have sex with him its ok there!
2006-12-11 03:04:04 · answer #6 · answered by j and j y 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋