So there is this guy who I met @ work a few months ago, and all of a sudden he's all about taking me out, wanting to date me, etc. I am attracted to him...he is handsome, makes me laugh...I def. have a crush on him. But the thing is, he is 40 yrs old and has a few children. There is NO way that i would ever get serious with anybody like that (those are my two deal breakers)....i just know that even if I ever fell in love with him or anything, I just cant deal with the whole children thing, AND he is 40 (im 24) We are going to go out on a date and spend time together, but I just want to do it just for fun, just to be around somebody, enjoy their company. But im afraid he wants it to turn into something WAY more serious then i EVER would want. I have even told him that I dont want to be in a relationship, but i think he has other ideas for that. Im afraid that if we do go out and spend time together then he's going to think I DO want to be "with" him. Should I just stay away??
2006-12-11 03:00:00 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's a DATE, there is nothing wrong with that, who knows he may be just lookin to score, he's ALREADY been the serious route, maybe he just wants to have some fun now too. You are totally judging this book by it's cover. If you go on the date and he makes it clear that he wants something serious that's when you cut it off, but don't NOT go because you think he MIGHT want more
2006-12-11 03:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by sbourque79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy is already a double-deal-breaker, girl, that's two giant red flags. you are going into no-man's-land if you date the guy. YES! it's a waste of time, but worse than that it is foolishly endangering your heart.
a 40 year old who wants to "date" a 24 yr. old is not doing it "just to be around somebody and enjoy their company" get real, get smart, get away from him!
you won't find Mr. Right in the compost heap.
best,
cryllie
2006-12-11 11:07:25 · answer #2 · answered by cryllie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him up front you would like to spend time with hi, but you feel that a serious relationship with him is out of the question. Let him decide if it something he wants to do. It's most likely be his money that's spent on the dates. You might decide that he is worth crossing the boundaries you have laid down any way.
2006-12-11 11:06:48 · answer #3 · answered by rilindy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont go on a date with him cause then he will have high hopes of you guys getting serious.I strongly advise that you dont do a "date" thing with him,instead go out as a group with other workmates,that way you'll have company that you want.Why dont you go and get yourself a hobbie and surround yourself with different people???? Btw is this guy married? I wish you all the luck!!! And I hope you will make the right choice.
2006-12-11 11:07:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is something you can never get past then I'd leave the guy alone. If you think there is a possibility you may fall for him and forget about the fact he has children then go for it. It is really up to you but don't let a wonderful guy go just because he's older and has children. geeez
2006-12-11 11:03:58 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if he turns out to be the love of your life, despite the kids and the age? My instinct says it is worth a shot. If you have a genuine crush on him, explore that. If you are just excited because someone likes you, stay away.
2006-12-11 11:03:54 · answer #6 · answered by yesisaid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has two strikes against him from the get-go why would you even consider going out with the guy? You are asking for trouble. Stay away.
2006-12-11 11:04:38 · answer #7 · answered by waney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok girl, i think you know the answer to the question yourself! You know he wants something serious so don't go meddling with his feelings! He's at an age where he wants a life partner, you're at the age where ya just want to play around!
2006-12-11 11:03:43 · answer #8 · answered by suzanne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might be looking for a younger woman to be his kids' nanny.. I 'd stay away if I were you. Unless you just wanna have sex with him, which is most likely what he wants more than a nanny.
2006-12-11 11:07:15 · answer #9 · answered by supernaturaldj2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him just how you feel. If he feels okay with that then fine but if he can't except how you feel then stay away.
2006-12-11 11:06:17 · answer #10 · answered by dee r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋