I want to show my ex how much i love her. I want to settle down and spend the rest of my life with her. I need to know how to prove this to her as we are currently not with each other and she is very confused as i have been very irratic with her. I have had a breakdown recently due to a difficult six months thanks to a guy i was sharing a flat with, who has stolen money, food and clothes from me. I have put up with this but it has caused a lot of stress and pressure on my relationship. I have been on a break with my ex when last baliffs came round and changed the locks. I then found out my flatmate had never paid the rent and had disappeared. A week later he hung himself. Since then i have become quite sick but i'm scared that it is going to take time to get better. I don't want to lose the woman i love because of stress that wasn't really to do with the relationship and that i am currently ill. What can i do so not to scare her away and convince her that we can be good for each other
2006-12-11 02:24:17 · 13 answers · asked by PottZ79 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
think i'm gonna be sick.................
2006-12-15 02:09:55 · answer #1 · answered by pat.rob00 Chef U.K. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her all that happened with your nightmare of a flatmate.
Then you should tell her thank you for listening to you, and that you are taking some time out to recover. Do not try to jumpstart that relationship right away, for two reasons: the first being that you really could do without any emotional upheaval for a while; the second being that, once she's had some time to think about what you've told her, she is more likely to come around, but literally and metaphorically.
If not, well, maybe you're better off without her anyway.
2006-12-11 02:31:16 · answer #2 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well man, talking first off is the very best thing you can do.. (I know how it goes man, once the **** hits the fan, it snowballs.. However dont lose hope.) Like i said sit down with her, take her hand, look into her eyes and tell her EXACTLY how you feel about her, and give her reaons why you two should be together. Think of it as one more chance to change things, so make it a good one! In a sense show her how you love her, why you love her, and why she loves you. Hold her close and make her see it.
Its all about the way you present yourself buddy,
I really hope this helps even a little bit.. Good luck Soldier!
2006-12-11 02:31:36 · answer #3 · answered by xotakuxotaconx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to speak from an experience point of view. Not with myself but with my sister. She too had a nervous break down from different situations in her life. Unfortunately she tried to get married after that and was never the same person afterwards. She tried to make life without admitting that something was wrong and give herself time to heal and get better. She refused any help that was thrown her way.
To make a long story short she is in the mist of a divorce, but believe me he tried to stay with her as long as possible to work it out but a person can only take so much. He is a great man but even great people have their limits. Her children resent her and are trying to move away with their father. I honestly believe if she had taken time to get herself together and gotten the help that she needed her life would have been totally different. But with trying to go on with life as usual it created a path that was worse.
Please, before you get into a relationship with this young lady, that you seem to have much respect and love for, explain to her what has happened but also let her know that you love and respect her to much to create more chaos for her right now and would like time to get yourself together so that you can put yourself 100% into making this the best relationship you possibly can and know that that is how much you love her. Believe me she will understand and respect you for what you have decided to do. Even though it hurt you to make such a decision it is the best.
2006-12-11 02:50:47 · answer #4 · answered by Tri-trippin-Nelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your present state of mind, do you know what love is or are you merely hanging on to some form of normality. When there is no or little money there is stress unless you live in the outback. I think you need to work on yourself before even thinking about taking on the care of anyone else right now.
2006-12-11 02:37:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you print off what you've just wrote here and give it to her she will understand why you were irratic.
Also though you need to explain to her that you are looking to pick yourself back up from this depressed sad state you're in as the thoughts of getting involved with someone suffering the way you are might turn a lot of people off.
however - you're only human and are prone to emotions so hopefully she'll realise the messed up situations you were in and let you back in her life. Good luck! xx
2006-12-11 23:39:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take time to build trust. Hopefully, if you're serious about your intentions you'll look at things from the long range view and will do what is necessary to get things back in order. You first need to concentrate on yourself and ensuring that you get your own life in order prior to reaching out to her. She needs to know that you're stable and have given thought to your relationship with her. Perserverance may be the key! You don't need to be 'needy' at the point you try to re-establish ties with your ex.
2006-12-11 02:29:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her than tell her that, even if nothing had to do with the relationship tell her your sorry, (that's what she wants to hear), maybe schedule to take her out to a movie or to take her out for a romantic surprise dinner. and if you don't have the money than make a nice dinner (something she likes) and make up during this.
2006-12-11 02:30:38 · answer #8 · answered by lilbizzle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow , its shocking even reading it ! don't worry , if you explaine her all this I am sure that she will totally understand and give you as much time as you need .
I hope you will get over it soon , think that what happened is sad for sure but it's not your fault .
best wishes
2006-12-11 02:32:03 · answer #9 · answered by athina68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you dont know what ch got til its gone. tell her you grew up and realized how important she is to you and that you cant live with out her she is the air that you breathe. tell you you cant make with out her get on your knees for her and write her a letter
2006-12-11 02:34:23 · answer #10 · answered by sophie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,be strong explain to your ex tell her what you have wrote on here.Good Luck
2006-12-11 02:28:00 · answer #11 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋