I am a tall, beautiful, plus sized, 26 year old black woman who loves white men. And the guy I like is a slim white guy which I work with. I know he likes me as a friend. But thats about it. I dont know if I should approach him. Btw, I am really trying to lose weight, I am thinking maybe my weight will probably turn him off.
2006-12-11 02:17:25 · 30 answers · asked by no way out 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What's "plus-sized"?
If you are 140-150lbs, some guys find that really attractive. (like me!!)
However, if you are 250-300lbs, it may be time to lose some weight.
2006-12-11 02:20:09 · answer #1 · answered by i hate hippies but love my Jesus 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
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2006-12-11 10:18:47 · answer #2 · answered by alaxzander c 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
#1: My personal policy has been never have intimate relationship with any co-worker, unless you are absolutely sure he's the one and only... this has proved well as I do work in a very large corporation. My policy has been ever since I entered the workplace, separate my personal and work life. I never regreted it and over many years that proved to be the right decision.
Even with women co-workers, try not to tell much about your personal life - keep it as private as possible.
#2: let him make the first move - no matter how far we have come with women's lib etc. men like to be the ones who persue, chase, he has to really want you... otherwise you might be heading towards dissapointment down the road...
Just keep the nice friendship and let it take it's own course. Enjoy it as long as it lasts. Give it time to mature...
#3: Weight has nothing to do with it. Personality is what counts - looks are temporary... Just be yourself
2006-12-11 10:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by LucyLu 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will never know if he feels the same unless you ask. I was in a similar situation and I finally got up the nerve to write an email with how I felt and it really paid off.
I'm marrying my co-worker and planning kids with him now.
Weight isn't always an issue with men either. Just because you are insecure with it doesn't mean he will be.
2006-12-11 10:23:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's a bad idea to get involved with a coworker at a job you plan on staying at for a while... almost often times then none, they end badly.
Unfortunately, I don't know what your work enviroment is like, but if you come up to him and announce your "plans" (and I say "plans" because you're not really stating any affectionate feelings for him, just seems like you want to buck), and he doesn't share your "ideas," it could end VERY VERY badly.
My advise: If you REALLY LIKE HIM, spend some time with him, outside of work, and feel him out before you try jumping into the sack. You want to be careful with this one because, like I said, if he doesn't feel the same, it could end badly.
If you just want to BUCK, drop made flirting tactics. Guys are guys, are guys and they can't resist a female who gives could "flirt." (Just don't push it if he doesn't respond as expected.)
Also, if he really is a "friend" and a good one... just tell him your interested. If he's interested too, he'll tell you; and if he's not, if he was really a friend, he won't feel all wierd around you after.
Good Luck.
.pEace.
Normally, I would say let nature take its course and be patient, but (believe me, I know from experience) If you know he likes you as only a friend
2006-12-11 10:30:09 · answer #5 · answered by ...Tell Me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Approaching him in a quiet aggressive way will permit him to respond to you honestly. The old axiom "nothing ventured nothing gained" holds true. If this is the type of relationship you would not mind keeping "under the radar" then let him know that also. As a slim white guy who would love the attention, I say:
go for it!
2006-12-11 10:30:37 · answer #6 · answered by truthhurtz 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This one could be rough anyway you play it. If he shares the same feelings with you and a relationship starts...what happens if it goes bad? You have to go to work with someone you have been intimate with who may hold a grudge, all those little secrets lovers tell each other suddenly go public. Or if he turns you down there will be tension with someone you have to work with. Not to mention those pesky company policies a lot of companies have. I wish you the best whatever you decide.
2006-12-11 10:28:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he's not married...he feels the same! What guy can turn down a beautiful thick girl wanting to give him pleasure? I don't care if WHAT color he is!
The problem is that you work with him. The rumor mill at your company can be really unruly and eventually cost one or both of you your jobs. It's something to think about!
2006-12-11 10:24:07 · answer #8 · answered by Italian_Guy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is defitenely a dont do it situation. What if he turns you down? Then the workplace becomes an ackward one. Just stay friends with this guy and if he feels a connection for you let him make the first move.
2006-12-11 10:23:04 · answer #9 · answered by inquisitor1125 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd be less worried about the weight than the environment. Office relationships go badly, in my experience. He may not want to date people from the office. If he is okay with dating in the office in general, you can ask him, but that's the only way you're ever really going to know.
2006-12-11 10:21:32 · answer #10 · answered by Sean J 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well men like big women or so I have heard... and anyway just tell him you like him very much.. dont be afraid to tell him. I felt almost just like that and then I told the guy and felt a lot better afterwards. You should approach him and get it over with
2006-12-11 10:20:56 · answer #11 · answered by Bored&Broken 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋