I am currently writing my dissertation (in theory) at my parents place, but all I do is kill time and pretend I am o.k.
I have struggled with depression befor and am on paroxetin an antidepressant.
Nevertheless my life seems pointless. I don't know how to get on with my dissertation and my life.
Everything seems so pointless. I am openly gay and I have been for several years. I seem to fail in finding a steady partner and defining aims for my life. I would love to have family one day but that seems impossible in Germany. I feel my life should have a higher goal than just to sustain myself. I would like to assume responsability for others, but the same time I seem to let myself down. Apparantly it is not a matter of lacking IQ as I was tested by a shrink above 130, but I also struggle with substance abuse.
Admitting to my parents seems impossible. I am afraid, that I've already overstressed our relationship.
So any quick ideas how to get out of this viscious circle?
2006-12-11 02:11:28 · 7 answers · asked by ebilginoglu 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I never thought I would actually say this to someone, but I know exactly how you feel..You may say yeah whatever, but I really do. I'm bisexual myself so that helps alot more for me to understand where you're coming from. If you could, email this account: bleeding_at_midnight@yahoo.com
I'd rather talk to you on a one to one basis so we can relate more to each other and be more open..Please don't hesitate to email..I'll email back the second I see your email! And I'll even send you pictures so you can see just who it is you're talking to
2006-12-11 02:17:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay - here is a quick way to pep up - you will not be cured of your depression but you will feel better for a little while.
Get out of the house - it's cold outside - bake (or buy) some muffins and get some coffee in a thermos and go find hungry homeless people and treat them to a hot cup and a muffin. Look at the difference an hour or two of your time can make in the life of another. If muffins are too much, get a bag of clementines and hand them out to people.
Smile outside - american saying "Fake it, til you make it." You need to spend some time out of your own head and in the world. Don't worry about finding the love of your life or finishing your dissertation - just spend today being about today.
Do something constructive with or for your parents - get the vacuum out (use it) and suprise your mom. Ask your dad to go for a walk and ask him about what is important to him or just about christmas time when he was little.
If you are on anti-depressants you really need to stop using drugs and alchohol.
Good Luck and get away from the computer.
2006-12-11 02:52:43 · answer #2 · answered by anirbas 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no "quick" remedy. You should seek professional counseling and it may take some time. Obviously you are a bright person who can achieve the goals that you seek but somehow the day to day things get in the way. Your sexual preference should not get in the way of the person that you are. Please let that part go - it has nothing to do with you as a goal oriented person. If you chose to not let that part go it will get in your way. Come through that and forget about it. You are no different than anyone else, and I mean no one else. Bottom line is that you have to realize that you are a wonderful person, very intelligent, probably intimidating to others but don't want to be and with little self confidence. You have the world by the balls, take it and use it because we need people like you out there in this world. Good Luck and I wish you the best.
2006-12-11 02:32:35 · answer #3 · answered by Maggie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that sounds exactly like me at one time (except I'm not gay, but same thing with the relationship problems). I just started forcing myself to change the way I think about things. I also started eating better and exercising regularly. I stopped acting like there was something wrong with me (though it is a clinical problem) and just started acting differently. I've come a long way.
Some behavior therapy may also be beneficial. Don't be afraid to get help, try a different antidepressant, etc.
2006-12-11 02:16:43 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if your on a anti-depressant and still depressed they need to give higher dose i was still feeling hopeless they up meds totally different person 2ND you don't need to find a partner to carve your niche in this world slow down find out who you are then you can present a strong confident person to the world and you will find someone cause a secure person is sexy 3rd sign up for a drug program drugs could be interacting with meds keeping them from working drugs are not the answer that's a loser way out and you are no loser i know this cause you took the time to write this which shows you care 4th talk to parents that's why god gave them to you yeah they will be stressed pissed confused but they already are a parent can feel if child not with program so suck it up and sit down and talk good luck
2006-12-11 02:32:51 · answer #5 · answered by theessenceofrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The purpose of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is to teach the person new cognitive and behavioral skills and habits. The only way to get out of your cycle is to learn and develop those new thought processes.
2006-12-11 02:19:38 · answer #6 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well sweety you really need to talk to someone.....is there something bothering you?? Sometimes somethin may happened to trigger you to go in a depression state.
2006-12-11 02:50:01 · answer #7 · answered by *you make me feel invisible* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋