He's a good kid, jr in high school. Plays on the JV basketball team, gets good grades, does his chores around the house. I live in a good neighbhood, not much crime or drugs. I've met mostly all his friends, and they all athelics. But he wants to come in the house, on school nights at 11:30. Should I keep him at 10-10:30?...he just turned 16 in November, and he has a cell phone.....HELP!! I don't want to seem like a mean father, but I don't want him to fall victim of the streets.
2006-12-11 02:04:03 · 25 answers · asked by KAMMEO 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
when i was in high school my weeknight curfew was 9:30pm and on weekends it was 11pm
2006-12-11 02:14:31 · answer #1 · answered by happymommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that restricting your child's activities to protect them is being a mean father at all. Now, your child may think so now, but sooner or later, they will come to thank you. I know that I have. While I was in High School and upon turning 16, my parents restricted my activities to 3 nights a week with a 10:30 curfew through the week and a 12:00 curfew on weekends. What this meant is that if I had 2 basketball games during the week, then I could only be gone 1 night on the weekend with the standing curfews. There was no exceptions to this rule either. It allowed me to still participate, but to also spend time with my family and to keep the rest of the family from being interrupted with me coming and going. My parents were also very strict about the curfew time, I got grounded 1 day for every minute that I was late getting home. That may sound harsh, but looking back at it now, it taught me the importance of responsibility and probably kept me out of trouble A LOT. I can tell you that not a lot of good things take place so late at night.
Good luck to you!
2006-12-11 14:56:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
School Night You should make him do his chores and Homework Before he steps foot out that door, and after he is Done than you tell him if he can or cannot leave the house if everything is done right and It isn't to Late Let him stay out until Maybe 9:30 10:00 No later He is to young......Now on the weekends 11:30 12:00 is late enough for any teen boy.... I am 19 yeras old I still Live with my grandma and I have a 15 month old baby My boyfriend Lives with us and he is 22 I take Ged classes so yes I have homework and I have chores and my grandma does to me what I said to do to Him.....He is sixteen I am 19 and Have to be in by those times, So you think about it.....Jusat to top it off I got pregnant at 17 so protect you children, I always told my family that I was staying with a friend Untill I got pregnant...So keep your child safe give them a time to be in and make them do there work......Good Luck And your Not a mean Dad you A GREAT dad
2006-12-11 10:27:32 · answer #3 · answered by mommy2faithat19#3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My 15 year old has a 10pm curfew on weeknights and midnight Fri/Sat if and ONLY if her grades stay high enough to be on honor roll. I also email her teachers once a month to be sure all of her assignments are turned in and on time. I think 10-10:30 on school nights is more than enough personally. In our town there's a teen curfew enforced by the police and if they're caught out after it the parents are responsible. I'm really kind of ok with that. I just can't imagine there's anything he needs to be out doing at 11pm on a weeknight..heck, even half of my adult friends don't stay out that late..myself included during the week!
Good luck!! Happy Holidays!
2006-12-11 17:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by Jewels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright, easy...
Unless it is a school related function, on school nights, the latest he should need to be out is 9. Period.
On weekends, 12. Most local areas have curfews enforced for people under the age of 18.
During the summer, 1. Nothing good happens after 1.
I was a good kid too, I never really did anything bad. However, my parents gave me a lot of hell to pay if I didn't respect the curfew. If I was to be late, it was necessary for me to call them. I always felt bad about waking them up because I was too lazy to leave earlier, so I usually made it in on time. You can accomplish that guilt by being a good, hardworking, tired parent.
After High School ends, do away with the curfew. Honestly. That time and only that time is it appropriate.
2006-12-11 13:23:35 · answer #5 · answered by Thera 9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a good question. In my opinion I would have him in for 10:00-10:30 p.m. You have to remember he is in high school and needs his sleep. Its a good thing he has a cell phone so if he gets into a situation where he is running late he can call you. You don't want to have to worry about him. 16 is a tough age, He wants to be able to do what he wants even though you know some of the things he wants to do isn't best for him. As long as his grades stay up and he keeps out of trouble you can let him stay out late. Weekends is another story let him stay out later on Fridays and Saturdays. your the parent and this is just my opinion. go with your gut feeling. He is your son you know him the best. good luck.
2006-12-11 12:02:57 · answer #6 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've raised him very well so far. I would say it depends on what he's doing, he has a cell, so you can always call and see what he's up to, and also have him call you when he knows when he'll be home. 11:30 is not too bad, especially considering the fact that you dont want him to become rebelious, he's been doing good so far, why ruin it ya know?! Maybe come to an agreement with him and say 2 nights out of the school week he's allowed to come home no later than 11:30, and leave it up to him to pick those 2 nights, the other nights he comes home when you say. Sounds like a fair deal to me. Good luck pops!
2006-12-11 10:12:11 · answer #7 · answered by ELW 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most cities have curfews for those under 18 yrs. , use that as a guideline. He should, unless a special occasion, on a school night , be home by 10-10:30. Well rested students are better prepared for school and basketball games. Point that out to him.
2006-12-11 10:17:05 · answer #8 · answered by T S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
11:30 is a little late for a school night. Just remember dad he is 16 now pretty soon kids will experimenting more and being out that late can be truble. Not only that I don't think alot of parents will let there 16 yr olds stay out that late so he may start hanging out with an older cround. I don't know thats just my opinion. You know your son
2006-12-11 19:12:56 · answer #9 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are already doing a good job...I would say 10:30 on school nights and 11:30 on weekends,Calling to check in once in a while wouldn't hurt
2006-12-11 10:18:42 · answer #10 · answered by patty m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think 10-10:30 on a school night is late enough. He needs his sleep so he can stay on the basketball team and keep up his good grades. On the weekends let him stay out a little later. Good luck. You don't seem like a mean dad, you seem like one who cares!!
2006-12-11 10:08:42 · answer #11 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋