I asked my girlfriend what she wanted for Christmas. She said she wanted a 400$ bracelet she had her eye on. Uhhhh...? I have been going out with her for a little over a half year. I think this is a ridiculous amount of money to spend on her. I'm not married to her for crying out loud, and even if I were, I would spend maybe 100$ for a gift. I am not one to "buy love" for someone. She is really upset with me because I told her flat out that I do not think this is appropriate to spend this much. She thinks I don't have respect for her because I won't spend this much or something. I just feel like now I should just drop her. I don't make much, and I have 1500$ to pay off on my credit card as it is. I was planning on getting her maybe something around a hundred, but 400$? What do you all suggest? And what kind of money would you spend? In my family we have a very modest Christmas, and my father I don't think has ever spent more than 200$ on mom for x mas,that I remember.
2006-12-11 02:01:38 · 10 answers · asked by ben 3man 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly these are the kinds of things you need to pay attention to NOW! If this is what she is like NOW after 6 months you can only magnify it more as you are together longer. Can you afford this girl? Will she be happy with you if you can't? Think about that kind of stuff...
Regarding $400 for a present, everyone is different, but the present should come from your heart and be what you want to give and what you want to spend. sounds like she is in this for the wrong reasons. $100 is more than enough, especially if you are struggling financially...don't give into the pressure of her on this one. I would think more about the first paragraph though!
2006-12-11 02:12:19 · answer #1 · answered by Trevor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she shoudl consider herself lucky that she will be receiving anything at all after an outburst like that!
Of course, if money grew on trees then I'm guessing that the situation would be different but as most of us work for a living and aren't fortunate to be in the top 2% earners in the country, she will have to make do with what she's given and appreciate it.
Money shouldn't be used to, as you say, buy affection. It's a luxury and not a necessity to be thrown at people to make us more popular of them feel more "loved".
Materialism never wins!
2006-12-11 02:08:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's so sweet of her. <<;
You guys haven't even been together for that long yet. Don't spend four hundred bucks on something when you know you really can't afford it. Your girlfriend needs to grow up, and realize that she is being very spoiled. If she gets really pissed at you because you can't get her something so expensive, maybe you should reconsider whether or not she is worth it. Just a suggestion.
2006-12-11 02:07:12 · answer #3 · answered by tisashell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way!!! Don't spend that much on her. There's no reason to. Especially after just 6 months of dating. If she gets that upset over what you will spend on her, that just goes to show what she really is. Drop her, there is no time that should be wasted on women like that, or people in general.
2006-12-11 02:08:40 · answer #4 · answered by CSM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend is way out of line suggesting that you get her such an expensive gift. I would never have the audacity to do that. She most like is abreast of your financial situation on some level. So she should know better. Whatever happened to, "it is the thought that counts." I am not saying get her a piece of tin but she needs to be reasonable.
2006-12-11 02:07:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You spend within your limit and no more. If your g/f is demanding the $400 bracelet, she's in the relationship for the money.
2006-12-11 02:05:58 · answer #6 · answered by teaser_1970 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
High maintenance or not. She is out of her mind.
400$ is way to much money for a girlfriend for about 6 months to ASK for.
If you could afford that and gave it to her without her asking that's different
But to even ask for something that expensive shows that she has no consideration for you.
Its up to you what you do next. but I would reevaluate her purpose in dating you. (lose her)
Sounds like a gold digga to me !
Let me know what she says..
2006-12-11 02:12:58 · answer #7 · answered by Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, she should not be mad at what you are willing to spend, when you dont even make that much... i could understand if you were knocking down some "bank" but she should be understanding about the situation. Sounds to me that she is "selfish" and a "golddigger" and its never going to stop, so drop her or get used to it and dont complain!
2006-12-11 02:07:13 · answer #8 · answered by smitty4626 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agree not to spend MONEY on each other ---- SPEND TIME WITH EACH OTHER INSTEAD!!! Oh yes think about that a moment ???? WHAT BETTER GIFT TO GIVE TO SOMEONE ???? YOURSELF YOUR TIME YOUR LOVE !!! MERRRRRY CHRISTMAS!! OH ISN"T THAT WHAT GOD GAVE US THAT HOLLY NIGHT---- HIS LOVE AND HIS ONLY SON!!!! GOTTA LOVE CHRISTMAS!! GIVE ME YOUR LOVE SCREW MONEY OR GIFTS!!
2006-12-11 02:09:51 · answer #9 · answered by xxx69forall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cheap basterd hahahha
2006-12-11 02:05:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋