They just corresponded, nothing happened since she lives out of state but will see her atleast once a year. He also told me he considered me average looking. This woman he considers above average. FYI...this woman he works with who flirts with him everyday he also considers average looking. I think she is hideous. HELP!!! I"m losing my mind!
2006-12-11 01:55:57 · 16 answers · asked by spuffgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would get over that issue by getting over him. I would not accept or forgive this behaviour. I would not allow myself to stay in this situation no matter how much I thought I loved him.--If he did something like this then it wasnot him I loved but who I thought he was. I would accept my heartbreak and move on. (My heart can heal and I can find someone more worthy, respectful and loving--so can you.
You shouldn't have to be dealing with this stuff when in a relationship. He crossed the line and now the trust is shaken. (you are doubting yourself and your value when it is he who is in the wrong.)
It doesn't matter that he considers you "average" looking. I doubt he is a god-like man and even if he was that does not give him the right to be acting as he did.
Sorry to be blunt but I would end the relationship and move on. (hearts heal and there are many more guys available who will not act this way--why give him another chance to hurt you.)
2006-12-11 01:57:42 · answer #1 · answered by artimis 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The reason you are going out of your mind is because of the conflict between your heart and brain. The brain, being logical tells you that this guy does not love you the way you'd like him to, and your heart is telling you that if he did AB and C with you and for you, then he must care.
You know what I think, I think he's buying time till he gets somebody with 'more than average looks.'
He's being inconsiderate and I know it will be hard, but start thinking with your logical mind, not your heart and the answer will be obvious to you.
Don't let this affect youe self-esteem, you will get someone who thinks you are absolutely gorgeous!!
2006-12-11 02:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by blondedarkie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i faced this problem too; when my girlfriend told me my looks are average; while she considered a couple other guys "cute"! also she used to laugh in their company, at the jokes they made but she always felt i had a bad sense of humor; yet she loved me n not those guys n i knew tat!
i guess the best thing to do is to accept yourself as you are and accept simple facts of life:
>> you may not be the best lookng person
>> there may be others who look better than you do
but that shouldn stop you from living and enjoying your life!
cheer up:) n face the truth! life will seem a lot easier:)
good luck!
2006-12-11 01:59:54 · answer #3 · answered by sunny 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't live in your area, but I can answer this. I am tall, six foot even, so for me it is rare to find an Asian male taller than me. I have however... but feel nervous to approach them because it seems Asian males only want to date Asian females. There is also the stereotype that Asian males have tiny penises. I know I was dating a tall Asian from Laos that had to wear XL condoms... so this is obviously just not true, besides white men have small penises as well most of the time. I personally don't find white men attractive, they look kind of disgusting to me. I prefer black men, but tall Asian men top my list... Especially if they look slightly feminine like Miyavi
2016-05-23 05:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about quit losing your mind and lose your man! It sounds like he is not satisfied with his relationship, because if he was he wouldnt be talking with some girl from out of town. Maybe he just wants to change up the scenerio. Maybe he just wants what he cant have, and it turns him on! your going to have to talk to him to find out what is really going on!
2006-12-11 02:01:46 · answer #5 · answered by smitty4626 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER! I GUESSING HE PROBABLY LIED ABOUT IT, WELL IM GONNA GIVE YOU MY 411 ON THIS DUDE.... MY HUSBEND IS AN *** FROM HELL.. HE NOT ONLY FLURTED AND PICKED HE LEFT ME AND OUR TWO SMALL KIDS FOR A CRAZY, SKANK HOE... IM NOT TELLING YOU THAT YOUR STUPID, BUT IF YOU HANG IN THERE WITH HIM YOU NEED YOUR *** KICKED... IF HE IS CHATTING ON LINE WITH SOMEONE AND HE HAS HIS EYES ON SOMEONE AT WORK, HE PROBABLY HAS A FIREND HE IS DOING MORE THAN CHATTING WITH... SO YOU MAKE YOUR CALL, I HAD TO MAKE MINE AND IT WAS HARD AND I HURT LIKE HELL FOR AWHILE, BUT IN THE END I CAME OUT ON TOP B/C NOW I GOT A GREAT GUY IN MY LIFE AND BETWEEN US BOTH WE HAVE 4 KIDS IN OUR LIVES, SO WHAT YOU LOSE YOU GAIN BACK GREAT THAN WHAT YOU HAD FROM THE START. USE YOUR HEAD SWEETIE, HE ANT RIGHT.. YOU CAN AND WILL DO BETTER.. I PROMISE... I DIDNT BELIEVE IT EITHER BUT IM BELIEVEING IT NOW... AND I THANK GOD HE HAS SENT ME SOMEONE I CAN SHARE MY LIFE WITH.. HAVE FAITH GIRL AND TRUST YOUR HEART....
2006-12-11 02:11:55 · answer #6 · answered by JANICE R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you stay with him. He has already demonstrated that he can't be trusted and that if he thinks something better is out there, he will go after it. So be good to yourself and find someone who thinks you are the best thing that ever happened to them.
2006-12-11 01:59:10 · answer #7 · answered by Jon O 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Your man" doesn't sound very affectionate. If you're just average looking in his opinion, makes it sound like he'd drop you in a heart beat if a beautiful woman gave him any attention.
Sounds, in fact, like he's NOT "your man" and that you are just hanging onto each other in a parody of a healthy relationship when, in fact, you don't have a good relatioship and he's just waiting for someone better to come along.
2006-12-11 02:04:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
maybe you need to see the red warning flags here..the man you are with should think you are the most beautiful woman in the world (in his eyes, no one else's matter) and if he was pursuing anyone else, i would dump his ****
2006-12-11 01:58:56 · answer #9 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL..HE NEEDS TO RESPECT THE FACT YOU GUYS ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP MAYBE HE IS SAYING HE DOESN'T WANT TO BE WITH YOU ANYMORE BUT TRYING TO DO IT IN A WAY THAT HE THINKS IS NICER THEN JUST COMING OUT AND SAYING I'M DONE...
2006-12-11 01:58:50 · answer #10 · answered by shannon c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋