s l u t s and saints?

Question

what is up with this mind of mine? I am resistant to a woman who persue's sex just for sex sake like certain characters on Sex In The City ( I really despise the promiscuous characters on that show)...I would think "ew what a yucky s l u t" but then turn around and snub and invalidate a woman who speaks for traditional values and who holds sex as precious and sacred and not something to be passed back and forth cheaply and they have sex and intimacy closely linked to relationship and love - then i feel like the "s l u t" next to this "saint"! I am thrown to invalidating these points on the spectrum. Who can tell me what the malfunction is here?

Answer 1

i wish i knew...

Answer 2

You can reject promiscuity without snubbing the woman who holds a traditional view of the relation between sex and love. Virginia Woolf said somewhere that human nature began to change in 1910. Since then sexual mores have become laxer or more liberal. The metropolitan sensibility, reflected in television shows, is likely to take a free-wheeling attitude in sexual matters. But there are people who still feel that the older views of the sanctity of sex and marriage are not and should not be obsolete. You have to make up your mind in a fast-changing world. Some sluts have become saints, and saints are not always above temptation. Ours is a mixed nature. Plato gives expression to the glory of love and writers like Rabelais to joyous carnality. I remember the popualrity some decades ago of Carl Orff's "Carmina Burana," lusty music made by medieval monks. I myself am a firm believer in sex elevated and transformed by mutual commitment, and think casual sex a coarsening of our sensibility.

Answer 3

Very interesting question...

I have been trying to figure out the male mindset on this myself. I have never mastered the 'art of casual sex' so I never throw myself out there for just anyone, even though I really have slu-t feelings. I love sex and am turned on most of the day. So it is very hard for me to meet a guy who likes sex as much as me BUT is willing to become so much more then just friends before we do anything.

Here is something else I don't understand about sex and men...
Some guys push so hard for the sexual behavior and really act as if it is what they want and will not hold it against a girl if she does it and as soon as she does he losses interest.

Answer 4

you've forgotten that women are people just like you. When a man holds a different set of rules for what is ok for a man but not for a woman, he is stating that sexual practise for both sexes should be different.. but how does that work without there being an imbalance and therefore a sl ut in one of the genders?

Answer 5

Could it be that your a typical guy ? Turned off by the women who wants commitment and insecure of the one who could care less. I think men are extremely uncomfortable when a women does "typically male" behavior and also hateful of women who require commitment for sex. Like I've always said, Men are never happy.

Answer 6

Find a happy medium.... You need a challenge, but not a totally insurmountable one.

Not sure of the whole story, but get to know them first, then think about sex later.

Answer 7

It seems as if you want the best of both worlds! When in doubt, go with God. Read Proverbs 31 and find out about a true woman!

Answer 8

easy one, you like most men want to have sex as much as possible but you don't want the deceases that go with s l u t s, answer is get a chick that loves sex but doesn't sleep with any of your friends

Answer 9

YOU NEED TO NOT JUDGE ANYONE FOR THE THINGS THEY DO IN THERE LIFE..IF THAT IS THE WAY YOU FEEL THEN NO-ONE CAN CHANGE THAT...

Answer 10

you want someone inbetween those two standards?