what is it that you should see in him,looks ?
how can he or me also show us what we really are,or feel about
2006-12-11 01:48:36 · 19 answers · asked by abc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Rationally speaking, no sane mind would say that one meeting is enough. But if you were to believe me, then I will tell you that what you can find out in the first 30 seconds when you see someone, will take you a lifetime to figure out if you have lost those 30 seconds. That's because, the first time your instincts guide you, after that is analysis: Is this person good for me? Is he/she honest? Is this person worth considering for being together for a life time? etc. This first meeting there is no pretence, simply because you have very little time to react. So What You See Is What You Get.
Don't ever underestimate your instincts. How many times has it happened to you or for that matter, to most of us, that even if everything seems right you still feel that something is wrong. And how many times has that turned out to be correct.
To sum it up, I think that if you have really figured out someone in those 30-60 seconds, one meeting is enough.
Else spend a lifetime trying to figure it out.
Cheers!
2006-12-11 02:05:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
his looks like an arrange marriage.
Some times.
If it is an arrange marriage, then all the foot work should be done ahead of the time, this includes matching the desires of individuals and the family, say 95 % match. The first & only meeting is for seeing eye to eye at each others.
This can lead to other issues, then those can be ironed out or back to step one look some more evalueate some more.
Or
Ask to meet again or ask to see each other alone in the suitable place, no two situations are the same, and no two people are not an individuaals.
In arrange marriage it is understood that love/feeling for each others will grow as the days go by. It is also understood that there will be an equal efforts on both part to make things work, and work towards that goal.
In the contries that have this type of arrangement and are engaged in this accient practice over all have lesser incidence of the devorce then the love marriage, the reasion is the fact that the couple are commited to make things work and they solemley work it out.
2006-12-11 01:53:35 · answer #2 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can meet a thousand times, and compared to how you know them after your first year of marriage, the first thousand dates were nearly nothing.
Oh, and cohabitation is not the same as marriage. The commitment changes the person, and the fundamental nature of the relationship. Trust is the foundation, and any small change in its framework radically changes everything else. When just living together you can "walk out at any time" and thats part of the foundation. When married you are "married", and thats a different foundation. Point is, you dont find out until after you are married. You can have hints, and get the people who are most insightful (like dad) to get a hint, but you really cant know ahead of time.
You can do things to sink the relationship, pick a wild child, a party boy to break your heart. Its a lot lot harder to get a guaranteed "this will fly". It is worth it when you get one though.
2006-12-11 01:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by Curly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people have married based on just one meeting, one eye contact. Many have succeeded and many failed. First meeting could be a crush or an infatuation or some chemistry. One meeting gives an opportunity to meet again and try to understand a person, which you will never do. My mother always says that even among best of friends, even after decades of friendship you may not be able to gauge a person because of certain peculiar attributes. For a good relationship to thrive, you need to make allowances for the other persons oddities or eccentricities. In your case go straight ahead and tell him/her that you admire and like her/him. Dont have great expectations. Be ready for the word "NO". You dont lose anything. At least you will make the other person happy, for the other person will know that there are many who admire her/him.
2006-12-11 03:02:02 · answer #4 · answered by Kushal-Know All 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not think one meeting is enough for choosing your life partner. In one meeting we are putting our best foot forward, dressed to kill, & trying to behave most well mannered & cultured. It is in the extreme situations our real self comes out, & we show our fears, tempers, tantrums & reactions to different people & circumstance which try us. Do give more time to find out more about the person you want to marry, observe & listen more & you will be able to take a decision.
Good Luck
God bless you
2006-12-11 16:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. When you shop for a car, do you pick the first one you see? Of course not. Same way with a life mate. You have to know many people and have many experiences before you meet THE one.
2006-12-11 01:53:42 · answer #6 · answered by blondee 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
one meeting is def. not enough! you should see all qualities of a person first! you should see the good, bad, up and down before you really realize that you want to be with someone for the rest of your life.
2006-12-11 01:53:54 · answer #7 · answered by smitty4626 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One meeting is not enough. Get to know him better. Do not judge a book by its cover (looks) , Look at his character and the person that he really is. You could do this by getting to know him more.
2006-12-11 02:52:36 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends whether you know or ve been in touch wit tat person before you first met him or not! my sister was in touch with this guy on email for over 8-9 months before she met him; when they finally met, she felt he was the one for her and so did he! now they re happilly married! but then not all relations may work out tat way!
sometimes a single meeting is enuf to understand a person; sometimes an entire lifetime is not!
n definitely one thing you must not give top priority is looks! it s only skin deep!
2006-12-11 01:54:21 · answer #9 · answered by sunny 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no one meeting is not enough u cant trust the person whom u know for years
Do one thing see how that guy talk to people when u meet him,how he introduce himself
and u too be urself as if ur are meeting some of ur old friends who knows u very well.............
just be as u are...................
all the best.
2006-12-11 18:49:16 · answer #10 · answered by pearly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋