She slept with this bloke on hols and then went back 6 weeks later, having not mentioned it to me, she says I'm paranoid, but It has destroyed my trust in her and as such I am begining to dispise her???/
2006-12-11 01:44:45 · 48 answers · asked by JD417 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
in addition we have now finished and it transpires that she did sleep with him and her and various others including some of her girlfriends, she had definately lost the plot.
2006-12-11 01:50:01 · update #1
as ever some very wise words.
Thanks,
I'll let this one be deciced by you guys for the best answer. ok
2006-12-11 01:53:01 · update #2
Sadly she sounds like a true Jezebel and there's seems no hope for your relationship since she clearly doesn't respect you as a person, (not least to say, have any respect for herself).
It is best to get out of an emotionally abusive relationship, since it destroys a man's sense of self esteem, and can eat him up from the inside out.
If a person is going to sleep around and generally live a hedonist lifestyle, then they should have the basic decency to shy away from relationships, so that their actions would not hurt another person.
I might be guessing hear, but I believe I might be a little older than yourself, I have noticed over the years that young women have become more assertive, which is all very good if it is tempered by a hold on the notion of kindness, yet young women seem to act more in keeping how men once behaved, (or still behave like)
I wouldn't look for another relationship right now, just take some easy time out with your friends and enjoy life.
My partner told me (and she should know) a jovial man with an air of Independence is an attractive man.
2006-12-11 03:05:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are right to be annoyed on two accounts. Firstly she slept with someone else, secondly she did not tell you. Also it was some random bloke she just met, I think you need to get yourself checked out to make sure there was no passing on of STI's because you don't know if she was careful. It may be that she has made a mistake and regrets it which is why she did not say anything, however, at the end of the day you're right to be upset.
2006-12-11 01:48:34 · answer #2 · answered by Princesspoison 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that, but what kind of relationship do you guys have? It sounds like one of those 'open' type, where each partner can sleep around and as long as they kiss and tell, it's okay. If it's that type, then maybe you should just talk about it and review the rules.
If however, it's a 'normal' relationship where each partner is supposed to be faithful, suggest some time apart for a few weeks to think about whether or not you want a two-timer for a gf
2006-12-11 01:52:26 · answer #3 · answered by blondedarkie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Woah. You're not going to marry her right? Then that's fine. Don't continue with the relationship if she's not interested in it. You don't wanna look like a desperado, Act cool. And the fact that she slept with another guy means she is so totally over you, just don't pester her anymore. Good luck.
2006-12-11 01:49:55 · answer #4 · answered by eTerNal_sAnDwIcH92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she has definately lost the plot. You can't trust her - especially with her whole attitude to sleeping around. You have to be sure that she didn't pass any disease on to you too. You did the right thing to dump her.
One day you will meet a nice girl who will be worthy of your love. There are still lots of nice girls out there. I wish you well :)
2006-12-11 02:02:19 · answer #5 · answered by nettyone2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are right to be annoyed and you should most definitely, kick her azz to the curb or pavement - depending on what country you're in. She doesn't want to be with you. But that doesn't mean nobody wants to be with you. Look for someone who appreciates you and isn't such a lying backstabber!
2006-12-11 01:50:32 · answer #6 · answered by nochickenhead 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your definately within your rights to be annoyed with her,she broke your trust,if you love her and think you can both work through this go for it,if not id say get out while you can,its a horrible thing to do to someone and you deserve better than that.having been through something like that myself it hurts and you end up being paranoid about everything they do and thats a horrible feeling.good luck.
2006-12-11 01:49:25 · answer #7 · answered by lostinthought 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she slept wiv him after u went out with her then u hav all the more reason to not turst her. but how bwt u giv her a chance. if she is lying and she really is sleepin wiv someone wen u 2 r goin out then dump her. if she says no shes not then belive her. when she sleeps wiv sum1 agen she'll no that theres sum1 else who loves her more than ne1 else. giv her a chance be nice n sweet. help her through her problems n then she'll understand u.
2006-12-11 01:49:26 · answer #8 · answered by sugarpie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the all the rights in the world to be annoyed..youre not paranoid ok? you're just not naive...you're not born yesterday...but still after all is said and done you should give her what everybody deserves.. a 2nd chance...then observe
2006-12-11 01:50:51 · answer #9 · answered by Charles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think because she did that. I mean shes wasnt honest with you in the 1st place the relationship will not grow stronger from this.
I think you have the right to Get Cross with her. TO be honest I dont think I would be still with my bf if I ever found out he did that to me.
2006-12-11 01:49:22 · answer #10 · answered by Lucy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋