ok well im in love with my best friend for 2 years.. and he knows and i stopped tellin him my feelings after the 3rd time in 2 years.. and well a few weeks ago he kisses me unexpectedly while i was talkin bout how ugly i am.. and we make out and "stuff" and then i asked what is goin on and he says he didnt kno and we held hands and each other for few and then he kisses me again.. and we made out again and ended up on the floor, no *** happened cuz i kno he is Waitin till marriage. and well he said he couldnt date me and that he is sorry but i tried to get up and he said no and he just held me tight.. and then i sat up and he grabed me and i held him and he just wouldnt let go> i loved holdin him so much and the way we kissed was amazing.. and then the next day he says im sorry i wasnt myself it shouldnt of happened.. what is he thinking? does he like me? does he love me and doesnt want to cuz we are friends?
2006-12-11 01:32:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he's your best friend, he's more than likely looking at the big picture. Once you cross the line and date him if things go wrong not only have you lost your man but your best friend as well. He's sounding confused but he's really not. He more than likely would date you but as I've said he doesn't want to end up without you as a friend if things go wrong. Him kissing you after you made the comment about being ugly perhaps that was his way of trying to comfort you. However because you returned the kiss gave him the thoughts that it was ok to kiss you so things happened. You and him kissing and holding one another things were trying to happen however because again he wants to keep you as a friend he stopped them. What you need to do is talk to him after you think long and hard about what it is that you want. Do you want to take the chance and date your friend with the hopes that all goes well because if it doesn't you can't go back to being the way you were. What is more important to you? Having this person as a boyfriend who at this time can't promise you that your relationship will work out and last or having this person as your friend and I'm sure he's shown you in many ways that he's there for you no matter what? Personally, you need to think of it this way, men come and go but very good friends are very hard to find. You really should explore having a relationship with someone other than your best friend and keep him as your best friend, in the end you may end up with a man or a friend. Do you think it will be easy to find another friend or just replace him?
2006-12-11 02:46:56 · answer #1 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he crossed "the line". Once it's crossed, you can't go back without someone or both of you being hurt. Sorry to say this, but there's only two ways this can end:
1) You two can start dating and see if there is something more there than friendship.
2) You two need to stop being friends.
Tell him this. He should know already, but you still need to say it. Trust me, there is no way that you two can go back to being "just friends" after this. If you do, you may grow to resent him.
2006-12-11 01:42:36 · answer #2 · answered by M.A.X. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he might have been thinking with the wrong head if you know what I mean. But also maybe he does have feelings for you but just doesnt want to admit it for whatever reason. I wouldnt push things with him and I would tell him how you feel and that what happened is not sitting right with you. Good Luck!
2006-12-11 01:40:02 · answer #3 · answered by ELW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's wrong of him if he says it shouldn't have happened afterwards. If he knows what you're feeling for him, he shouldn't have done this. I think you have to ask him what he really wants. If he wants to be with you and all the stuff, or that this was one time. And if this happens another time, stop it. Let him know what you want, and don't let him use you. Take care!
2006-12-11 01:43:10 · answer #4 · answered by free_to_speak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me that he does like you but doesn't want to mess up the freindship ya'll have but he could just be more needy at that time when you guys made out
2006-12-11 01:38:06 · answer #5 · answered by sexy_happy_gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, He does not love you. He just want to have sex. If he has not succeeded this time he will try next time. There is nothing unusual if both of you have talked romantically in the past (no matter when). You may yourself see him that next time he will also like to meet u in a lonely place and will try to do all that he has done with you, he may do even more if u did not stopped him plainly. I dont think he loves you. Next time tell him frankly that u dont like to do all that before marriage. Insist him about marrying you. If u continue insisting upon him about marriage, on next 3-4 occassions, he will make a distance from you, if he only likes sex else he may be your love.
2006-12-11 01:48:16 · answer #6 · answered by mydelhifriend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very confused. There is some reason why he cannot bring himself to date you -- perhaps he is afraid of losing the friendship? I suggest a good heart-to-heart. Explain to him how his actions made you feel, and what you want out of your relationship.
2006-12-11 01:36:02 · answer #7 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask 1 of u'r other friends 2 ask him for u, but mack sure u tell them not to say u.
2006-12-11 01:45:12 · answer #8 · answered by jd_knighten 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me as if he is confused. Maybe he hasnt had them kinda feelings before. I know how you feel because i use to be head over heels for my best friend but then he ot another gurl pregnant and like totally abandoned her and i kinda seen how he truely was and then i got over him and then he starts likeing me but i told him i just wanted his friendship. But i think you should give it time and it will all work out. I mean he didnt kiss you for nothing it had to mean something.
2006-12-11 01:38:37 · answer #9 · answered by country chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him.
2006-12-11 01:38:50 · answer #10 · answered by steemshovel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋