2006-12-11 01:28:21 · 15 answers · asked by PRINCESS! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i really love him what can i do
2006-12-11 01:31:18 · update #1
Unfortunately my boyfriend used to be the same!!And for months just to keep him happy i didn't go out with my friends at all,But eventually i got sick of it and put my foot down and told him that if he wanted to be with me he was genna have to get used to the fact that i wanted time with my friends!!We used to make sure that we could both get plans for the same nights to go out so that neither one of us was sitting in on their own which made it easier!!
You must brake this habit now because the longer you leave it the more unlikely he is to ever come around to the idea!!Just try and stay firm and stick to what you say,if he loves you he will come round to the idea!! Good luck x
2006-12-11 01:40:26 · answer #1 · answered by jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does this guy go out and make you stay in? Surely he goes out with you. Any bloke who does not let there girlfriend out to have a laugh with their mates and let their hair down are way too insecure. You can't let him control you, your not a doll... you're a human. I would either get him to let you out or simply tell him it's over. He will either allow you to do this or go off in a huffy but he will more than likely come back and it will be like hes a little poodle on your leash :) I mean how can you have a relationship without trust, I really don't think it's possible. Good Luck to you.
2006-12-11 02:17:25 · answer #2 · answered by phobzy85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends are there for life, he cannot stop you going out with them. Why don't you reach a compromise, suggest that he comes along with you? You don't say how long you've been together but unless you've done something to break his trust in you then preventing you from going out is completely unreasonable. Even if you have betrayed his trust, he will never gain it back again if he won't let you out. Tell him that you trust yourself and your love for him and that you're not being unreasonable.
2006-12-11 01:35:30 · answer #3 · answered by mishmash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't anything you can do to make him trust you, assuming you've never done anything to betray that trust (like cheating). Either he does, or he doesn't.
You only have a few options:
1. Dump the guy, and find a new one who isn't so insecure.
2. Say good bye to your friends, and deal with the boyfriend.
3. Go out with them anyway, and deal with his anger when you get home.
4. Take him with you when you go out, to try and show him that you aren't doing anything wrong with your friends. Your friends may not like this though.
2006-12-11 01:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well for starters...if your boyfriend can't trust you..then how can there ever be a relationship? relationships are based on trust and if there isn't any trust in your relationship then your relationship isn't going to work out in the long run...is there a reason for your boyfriend not to trust you? another thing, you should never let your boyfriend control what you can and can not do. if you do then the whole relationship is pointless. but good luck and wish you the best.
2006-12-11 01:45:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what i have the same problem with my husband .. im not allowed to go out with my friends but you know what he always says he cant trust them make sure first if it is that your bf cant trust u or trust the others.. becase you can not have a relationship if they guy can not trust you .. and if he cant trust your Friends then have them over to meet each other and get to know each other as long as you can trust both sides..but like i said no trust for you there is no realtionship
goodluck
2006-12-11 01:35:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have done something to lose his trust (in which case this needs work) then he has no right to treat you as a posession (which is exactly what he is doing)
Address it with him, and if he continues not to trust you, then you should dump him. It is important that you have the opportunity to go out with your friends.
2006-12-11 01:32:50 · answer #7 · answered by marliboco 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You love a bloke who controls your life? Who the hell is he to say if you can or can not go out? And why have you give him this power? Dump him, move on and go out with someone who treats you with a level of respect that you deserve.
2006-12-11 01:37:37 · answer #8 · answered by simon m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
appears like you want to sit down and talk issues. sit down including her and ask her straight away. you've the right to understand the position you stand, ask her why she no lengthy texts or shows affection and tell her how this makes you experience. you want to lie you playing cards on the table, no human being advantages to be messed round! If shes chilly in the route of you and is emailing different adult males, its a very undesirable signal!
2016-11-30 10:32:59 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The longer it goes without you going with your friends the harder it will be for him to accept it later. Set the ground rules now - everyone needs their space away from their loved ones. trust is vital.
2006-12-11 01:52:11 · answer #10 · answered by Campbell M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋