plz listen to me and help?

Question

i am 23 and my bf is 29. we had been in an relation for more than 1 year.nowadays he is facing career problems . he is getting rude and frustrated towards me. he doesnt meets me and always in bad mood.i want to meet him but he says that let me first solve my career problems .i feel ignored and disturb.i dont knw wat to do. is he interested in relation anymore?pla give me an advice:should i wait ?

Answer 1

He is putting his career ahead of you.
If you are okay with that, and willing to spend your time (possibly your life) with someone whose career is more important to him than you, then yes, stick it out, wait for him, be patient, and take him back.
If not, let him know right now.

Answer 2

Hi...
I think u should wait may be he must be thinking that once when i m set with my career after that i can give her ample of time and as he is facing career problem may be coz of that he is frustrated may be he must be thinking that only u can understand him and take all these things according to him let him first get his problem solved and once u know that it is solved go ahead and speak to him about ur relationship............
But if ur also a career minded person than directly speak to him abt this situation coz of this it may affect ur career..........
So just sit and think on it once again and take the decision what u feel is correct coz we can guide u but afterall it depends upon u both so
all the best and take care of both of u
may be he needs u at his bad times............god bless u.

Answer 3

Considering this situation,I think you should give him some time to calm down and help him find a job which is suitable for him secretely.As men always put the career prior to other things.In other words,he want to make you live a comfortable life if he get his interested career.Appreciating each other is the most important.I believe he would contact you actively in few days.And you should insist everything would go well as long as you make efforts

Answer 4

Sweetheart...IT'S NOT U! Please understand that first and foremost while your feelings are all in a bunch. If your man loved you before this...of course he still loves you and he is probably more disappointed in himself than u can comprehend. My boyfriend always gets stressed toward the end of the year because he has big sign shows in MD and NJ, but once the pressure from work is gone he slowly goes back to his old self. Sometims guys have a hard timd multi tasking and multi thinking and stuff like that...just try to show him that you're still going to take care of yourself by taking bubble baths, pampering yourself and doing things he knows you'd like to do with him but can also do alone and zoning out for some time to yourself....you need YOU time and embrace that for now until your man gets back. Try to understand what he's going through.

Answer 5

Give him a month or so for him to get back on his feet. Tell him before hand that you're not happy and that you understand what he's going through but you dont need his disrespect and that you wonttake it for long. Also tell him that if things don't start changing as far as the way he treats you, then he has a month to make up his mind. Respect is key factor in a relationship, as well as honesty and understanding. Talk to him or write him a note if he cant sit and talk to you. good luck and i hope everything works out.

Answer 6

The word infidelity brings with it fear to every woman I’ve ever had the opportunity to speak with. While many make the claim that their spouse would never cheat on them they realize that is false hope and that it could very well happen to them.

When trying to decide if your boyfriend or husband is cheating on you, you should start by looking for some of the warning signs.

1. Lower desire to be with you sexually.
2. Suddenly tries new sexual positions.
3. Working late more often.
4. Mysterious phone calls.
5. Gets angry when you look at the cell phone, pager, or computer. Is secretive of such.
6. Smell of perfume on their clothing.
7. Takes a shower as soon as he comes home.
8. You find hairs or other objects on his body or in his possessions.
9. Starts taking more care with his appearance.
10. Accuses you of cheating.
11. He changes his normal routine without cause or reason.

Now it’s really easy to look at a list like this and see something that your husband does. That’s why it’s important to remember that you are looking for changes in his behavior. If you husband normally takes a shower as soon as he gets home from work then it is unlikely that this is a sign of his cheating. You are looking for multiple changes in behavior, routine, or personality; not isolated incidences or incidences that do not last. Take for example the lower desire to be with you sexually. This would be common when your husband is sick or under pressure at work. This alone should not raise any red flags. However, if you notice this and then a week later he comes home smelling of perfume, this is cause for alarm.

There are many people out there claiming to be experts who will tell you that you should confront your husband when you become suspicious but, that is on of the worst things you can do. I’ve even read that you should confront because the longer you wait the better they become at lying to you. I believe these people have never been in your position. To confront without some sort of evidence will only lead to more lies. Do not be fooled, your boyfriend or husband has been lying to you for quite some time and is really good at it.

If you confront without evidence you will be lied to. They will even lie when you have the evidence. Without evidence you will be left with more doubts than when you started and you will feel as if you are crazy. Your husband will spin it and make it seem as though he just can’t believe that you would think such a thing about him. Also, you can bet your last dollar that he will become much more careful of his actions and behaviors and you may never find the truth. Also consider the possibility that your suspicions are unfounded. What will happen to your relationship if you confront then? You valued your relationship so little that you jumped to conclusions and accused your husband of cheating without any proof!

Remember to always verify before you confront.

Answer 7

Feeling abandoned can hurt so much...I am sorry you are feeling this way. You must decide what is right for you. Maybe it is a good idea to give him some space for awhile as he sorts out some problems...This is also a good example of how he may act in the future when something else comes up...would you want to marry someone like this??? Take some time for yourself too...examine your wants and needs...is this what you really want???

Answer 8

He might just honestly be upset over his career and just need space from other problems. You might just need to give him some space. If this doesn't work then maybe he doesn't want to be in the relationship anymore and isn't man enough to tell you, and he's trying to push you away. Tell him that you need to talk to him about your relationship and don't let him tell you that he needs to solve his problems first that this is a problem. I hope that this helps.

Answer 9

Tell him that you love him and ask him what you can do to help. If he still shuts you out, then you may have to look at ending the relationship.

It may not be that he is not interested in a relationship with you as much as he does not know how to deal with stress. The reason I suggest ending the relationship is because if he's lashing out at you now verbally, it may turn physical. But, I cannot say that for certain, because I don't know the guy personally.

Answer 10

I suggest u to support him rather than feeling ignored bcoz with carrier all these things come (love) & true thing is that if he is not able to earn sufficient, he will not be able to support you & fulfill your needs & keep this in mind that love doesnot provide us food to eat & money is certainly not the everything But certainly most of the things can be achieved through it. So, BE PRACTICAL & take it as a difficult phase. And after every bad phase there is a good part Bcoz they are .alternate.

Answer 11

Men solve their problem differently from women. That is not to say the other who have told you 'he's putting his career before you' aren't correct. What I am saying is men handle stress and problems in a manner women don't always understand. Some men, mine included, have a tendancy to escape to cave until they find a way to resolve the thing that's eating at them.