My mom says it is a good thing but I want Brayden to have a mom...Its just so confusing?!Brayden had his 1st doctors appt.this morning and he is a very healthy baby! Nothing is wrong with him! It felt really good to hear that....because I knew that I was part of that! I have no idea what I should be doing about the babys mom...
2006-12-11 01:19:54 · 16 answers · asked by Joey 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
First of all, congratulations on the baby boy and second... it's nice to see a dad taking initiative and raising a child on his own. It isn't easy. As for mom, I do not understand why anyone would want to leave their children... it is her choice though. I wouldn't try and stop her.
2006-12-11 06:10:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all... I am soooo glad to see you!!! I have been thinking of the two of you for days wondering how everything is. Secondly... I am glad he is healthy. Good daddy!! Thirdly... If she wants to give up her rights there isn't really anything you can do about it. I think she may come around BUT in the mean time let her do what she thinks is right. It is better that Brayden have 1 parent that cares then to have a mother that hates him and could possibly hurt him. Also, there are a lot of women out there that would love to help you raise him (once you get over this heartache and stuff). He could one day have a mom, maybe not biological, but at least she would love the both of you!! Good luck. If you need anyone to talk to ... IM me!
2006-12-11 09:30:37 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a single mother of 3 amazing children, getting no child support, or hearing from the father at all.....I can somewhat relate. Of course they would never give up their parental rights, they basically did by not being part of the kids lives. You can raise Brayden(love the name) by yourself, it will be hard work but you can do it. I am not sure of your age, but I am sure that you are young enough that you will find love with another woman, who would probably be more than happy to accept your son as her own. Your son's mother may be going through some serious post-partom depression too. You should really try to talk to her and see what she is going through right now that is making her want to give up such a precious gift. Was she at all excited about being pregnant? Is this something that just suddenly happened? Even if you two are no longer together, try to help her. Remember you saw something special in her at one time, and having a baby can be alot on some women. I never suffered any type of post-partum but I hear it can be bad. Do your best to help her work through this, if nothing helps just know that you did your part and go on with your life raising the best son you can.
2006-12-11 09:33:54 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I too am new to your situation as well. Do you currently have custody of your son? You are calling her your girlfriend in the present tense - does this mean the two of you are still together? Maybe I should go back and read up some, but that part right there confuses me because if you two are together why is she giving up rights? And if you aren't together, be careful with this and make sure somehow that she understands what this entails. It basically means she is no longer his mother...meaning no visitation and all that fun stuff. I mean I'm sure you could work something out, but that could become a very slippery slope. Two of my brothers have given up all rights to their children which in my parents eyes was a huge mistake - well, for the one, not the other because he can't be trusted and I think he's a child molester. My bio-dad gave up rights to me and I have never in my life had any contact with him. I guess you and here really need to sit down and work out the details and come to some sort of understanding of how things will proceed from here on out.
2006-12-11 09:36:29 · answer #4 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont want your son to have a mommy that doesnt want him do you? You dont have to consent to letting her sign her rights over. But on the same hand think about your son and whats in his best interests. He will always have a mom no matter what the papers say. And you will for sure have all rights to you son without having to worry about her all of the sudden wanting this child back and YOU not being a part of his life. Nothing will ever take away his mom. Besides that you might meet someone that would love to raise your son as her own....Im a step mother. It does happen. Sometimes people just arent meant to be parents.
2006-12-11 09:42:39 · answer #5 · answered by jess_n_flip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love the name Brayden. If she doesn't want to be a mother to your son you can't force her just do the best that you can. Take care of him and be there for him. She will regret not being there to see his first steps or hear his first words. It may not be right now but in the end she will wish that she had not given up her rights.
2006-12-11 09:27:40 · answer #6 · answered by buggs8498 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I would agree , because this way in 3 years from now she can't come in and start changing the way things are Done,
Second thing is if she ever decided to do something crazy, you have all the rights,
And as far as her being his mom, she can be as much or as little as YOU say so.
It gives you all the control, and in my experience this is a good thing,
I was a single mom for 7 years, and whe would always bump heads I didn't want all the negativity around him , and couldn't prevent it,
Where as you can,
Good luck, your mom is right, listen to her she is smart.
Your child will be the best creation you evermake.
Good luck, Meg
2006-12-11 09:38:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course its nice for a child to have both parents, who are loving and supportive. But think of ALL the children out there who don't have fathers? Its not any different. Just be the best darn dad you can be, which it sounds as though you are on the right track, and everything will be ok. If she doesn't want him let her sign over her rights to you before she signs them over to an adoption agency...which has happened to some kid her in GA. And he's busting his butt to get his boy back...not really fair if you ask me. I didn't think women could do that but obviously they can. If she doesn't want him then he'd be better off never knowing her.
2006-12-11 10:31:03 · answer #8 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she does not want to be a part of his life then don't force her! But if she gives up parental rights then you may not get child support from her. Making her be in his life can do more harm then good! He will be able to tell she wants nothing to do with him. Just be a good dad and that's all he will need. She will miss out on all the great things you get to experience!
2006-12-11 09:23:33 · answer #9 · answered by angelmwilson 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean you have no idea!!!! KEEP THE BABY!!!! after what you have written I´m sure you are a great parent and you will be able to raise your son properly it will be difficult but not impossible!!! have faith in God he will help you and I think your mom supports that so she can help with the baby too.
Too bad for all the good things the "monster" momy will be missing. she just can´t handle the reponsibility probably
2006-12-11 09:35:32 · answer #10 · answered by Ariel F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋