Last summer one of my best friends had a boyfriend. They were really close, but after summer (when school started again) she broke up with him. She still called him a couple of times (with my cellphone, because she doesn't has one of her own). He didn't understand why she broke up, but after a while she didn't want to talk with him anymore. He found my msn screen name on the internet, and added me. We talked a lot since then, almost every afternoon/night. I've visited him 3 times (in about 2 or 3 months) and we had a lot of fun those times. I haven't told my friend that I went to visit him. She thinks it's all over, and she won't talk to him. This guy is still not over the relationship. And it bothers me that he always talkes about her. How great she was, and about all the fun they had. I now like him very much, and last time we kissed and almost had sex (but I stopped him, because it was my first time) I really want him to become my boyfriend, and some advice would be great! Thanks!!
2006-12-11 01:11:45 · 9 answers · asked by free_to_speak 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe you should ask your friend if its ok that your with him first .some people don't mind .also he's hung on her let him resolve those issue's first . then if she's ok with it and he's over her then pursue him . if one of my friends went out with a girl i dated and didn't bother to tell me i'd be pissed . i have in the past been ok with it regarding some relationships others i have not.
2006-12-11 01:19:44 · answer #1 · answered by longhairjim33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sticky situation what?
The first rule of relationships, be they best friends or boy/girl friends, is open communication. She needs to know what happened and he needs to know what happened, and the end result may be that you have neither a friend nor a boyfriend. Yet the air will be clear, and who knows, it may actually pave the way for a firmer friendship or a solid romance, or both.
Let's be clear though. If he hasn't hung up his passion for your friend, it won't work. So say your piece and walk away if need be.
You feel best when you take the moral high ground, always (eventually).
2006-12-11 09:17:52 · answer #2 · answered by Jagg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good girl for stopping him...you dont want ur first experience with a guy who likes your best friend...and sees you as just a friend...
Your 1st time...u and your boyfriend should be totally in love (for starters) and committed.
Now, as far as this boy FRIEND goes, he needs to get over her before he can move on...I am afraid he might try to say what you want to hear to get in your pants, so be careful. I would not waste any more time on him...especially with it being a best-friends ex...you and your girlfriends need to set ground rules for ex's...are they off limits? etc... so the friendship is never put in jeopardy over a boy (there are too many fish in the sea)!!!!!
2006-12-11 01:23:40 · answer #3 · answered by Shelby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously the player is just telling you he likes you to get into your pants honey. Please don't fall for that. Those types of guys usually have the looks and the charm to make girls fall into their arms with their sweet talking, but once they're done with you it's THANKSGOODBYESEEYOUAROUND. I recommend going for the other guy (if you do like him too). If not, I assure you, you'll get hurt big time.
2016-05-23 04:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by Annette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is talk to him about it. I know it might be uncomfortable and awkward but it's the only way to get resolution. Also I think both of you need to talk to your friend and let her know what's been going on.
2006-12-11 01:14:46 · answer #5 · answered by just_me90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it such low of you to do what you did , and the way this guy is still talking about your friend, i think he still loves her and now you are in a situation where you are in for somebody to be used and if he finds out that you are still a virgin then the better for him to add you to his coections (if you know what i mean) if this situations turns out for the worst for you then it only you to blame but i hope not and wish you all the luck in the world!
2006-12-11 01:17:43 · answer #6 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she won't talk with he you can be with he.But if u don't want him as boyfriend just broke up...
2006-12-11 01:16:33 · answer #7 · answered by zvecko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you in a sticky situation....you shouldnt have done this without talking to your friend first....you in trouble
2006-12-11 01:19:37 · answer #8 · answered by biffnasty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
scanned, saw "sex", laughed, wrote this, nightly!
2006-12-11 01:14:09 · answer #9 · answered by W. Tree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋