FOR GUYS....What should a girl do......?

Question

What should a girl do if you are just f*cking her and she wants you to see her more as the relationship type than just the sex? Although she doesn't want him to think she wants more.....Dis is a tricky one, basically I'm having sex with somone, that's all it is. I want dis guy to really like me, so everntually he may want a relationship, but I don't want to let on that I want one, so I don't scare him off. Should I act distant and let him see me talk to other guys? etc....

P.S. my friends have been in dis type of situation before and they're now in a loving relationship

Answer 1

relationships based on sexual attraction alone never work...

be careful before diving into something that might go sour quickly....

Answer 2

different guys will think of this situation differently. some guys will think like they hit the jackpot becoz they are havin sex with a girl with no strings attached. other guys may just be playing around. and the good guys may just be waiting for the girl to say something.
My advice to you is spend as much time as you can with this guy and try to reduce the sex (not completely stop). For example go out on dates to places where afterwoods sex won't be an option or both of you just won' think about it. Amusement Parks are a good idea and lunch instead of dinner. Hoperfully you get the drift.
If he blows you off and starts acting like he doesnt want to see you then you should realise that your relationship was just based on sex but if he reacts positvely then good luck and all the best in your future.

Answer 3

You're playing mind games with him. Remember that if you're transitioning into an emotionally-based relationship from your physical one then you need to have a bit more honesty and communication. If he runs when you tell him about spending more time together (don't use those words though), then he obviously only sees you as a sex toy and nothing more so you may want to find some other guy willing to do both things: enjoy your company and hop in the sack with you.

Answer 4

Man, that's rough....
The problem is this: you gave it up before getting the relationship. It should work the other way around, get the relationship then you can decide if he's worth giving it up to. Unfortunately, he's thinking he can have the sex without the emotional attachment. You propose changing the "relationship", which means he will probably change it too...by leaving.

You need to figure out if this guy is worth the relationship, if that's what you want, and explain to him that you're not going to have sex with him anymore until he shows you that he's worth your time...

You face some potential heartache though, either way, so I didn't want to sugar coat it...

Answer 5

okay, yeah it's an old adage, but it's true. Why should the guy buy the cow when he's getting the milk for free? If your willing to dish out the sex without any strings, then he's probably not going to see you as anything more than just a good f@@@. You need to either tell him you want more or just be willing to keep things like they are. You might be surprised to find out he feels like you do. If not, then at least you know and you can both move on.

Answer 6

It can go either way actually because you have already had sex. If you start out and lay the rules out up front it's different. The only thing I would reccomend is to really get to know the dude. Talk about him (which should be his favorite subject) and take intrest in what he wants out of life. People are drawn to others that want to truly know them. Pay strict attention to what he says and don't forget a thing. That will help you know how to relate to him on his level. What do you think?

Answer 7

No because that might show that your a hoe! he might call it quits! And if he is already getting the sex, why would he wanna date? Guys are like that, so dont be suprised if it happens! you need to just talk to him, and see what he thinks! If he says he doesnt want a relationship, then your going to be sleeping with him until you see the big picture! If yall cant talk now, yall wont ever be able to!!

Answer 8

Hi Jen. Get some culture. Read a book, travel. You could really use it. You reported my answer on your last question of "is he telling the truth when drunk?" because it was not in "correct" language.

WELL, if you were edu-ma-cated in the least, you would have known that "In Vino Veritas" is an old saying meaning "in wine there is truth"

(yes it is in Italian, but you should know it like Vini, Vedi, Vici-you know what that means, right???)

geez. Like I said, get some culture and stop worrying about waht loser men in your life think about you.

Answer 9

Do you believe first impressions last?
What kind of first impression did he create - that he will happily use a girl for sex?What kind of first impression did you create - that you're easily available for sex?
I think if you can honestly answer these 2 questions you can then decide if you believe you can build a relationship on those foundations.

Answer 10

Dear Jen, u got to tell him that u are thinking more-than-just-sex !! We guys are fully satisfied if we get to have our quota of bang....if it comes with no strings attached , then nothing better my dear ! It's just rational that one doesnt buy a cow if he's getting milk for free !! U got to decide whether u have to continue with him just coz he's just 2 good on bed or u think of rearing his genes too....&make sure he's told either !!

Answer 11

You need to respect yourself and not let him use you. If there is ever going to be a health relationship between the two of you it needs to be based on mutual respect and admiration... not just sex. (even if it is great sex)