i told him the other night i loved him when i was a bit drunk, but i do actually feel like it, regret showing my feelings too early, he siad he did me, but i dont, know him that well dont, know if it will work, we made love and i feel bad about it beign a christian as i have only known him a few months, i feel guilt and wonder if he has lost his respect for me. i just want him to love me, feel like i do. i don,t want to go over the top with my feelings as he may take advantage of it or take me for granted, but i do think of him alot, i want to keep him guessing a bit and not too sure of me, want to keep him interested in me. so do men like it when a woman shows he rfeeling or do they prefer a bit of a chase and guessing a bit or what.
2006-12-11 01:04:49 · 11 answers · asked by denise g 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best way to find out if he feels the same, is to feel him for yourself!
2006-12-11 01:07:28 · answer #1 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all, stop getting drunk with this guy. It sounds to me like it only causes you to do things that you regret. Insist on "dry" dates from now on.
Secondly, any drunken declaration of love is usually considered just that -- a drunken declaration of love. It generally isn't taken too seriously BUT since you said it to him, you owe it to him to discuss your feelings and let him know what it is you meant at sometime when you are sober.
As far as the sexual encounter goes, sex is a gift from God, designed to be enjoyed within marriage. I'm not going to rain down the Law on you, because from your comments it sounds like you're already feeling guilty and repentant. I just wanted you to know, then, that God forgives EVERYTHING and you don't need to feel guilty anymore. You are completely forgiven. Now, that doesn't mean that you should go out and do it again, and I don't think that you will, judging by your guilt and your concern that "he has lost his repect" for you. Stay strong, and let him know that you do not want that again. Talk to him about your faith, about your beliefs, and about why you feel the way that you do. Hopefully, he will understand and respect your feelings, and you two can go from there.
Good luck!
2006-12-11 09:11:36 · answer #2 · answered by wnk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are feeling guilty trying taking things a little slower and do a lot more talking. If he loves you he will respect what you have to say and your feeling. If all he wants is the sex you will know it. And if you don't feel comfortable then don't give in. If this isn't the one the right guy will fall into your arms soon enough. GOOD LUCK.
2006-12-11 09:09:58 · answer #3 · answered by amber_myers16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is this easy, dont ask but just say those 3 magic words and u are there.
2006-12-11 09:10:02 · answer #4 · answered by BeautyBreak H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its good that he replied in a positive way . . . just chill and enjoy what you are feeling at the moment and having someone special. whatever is meant to happen will happen you don't need to push for it. he sounds like a nice guy :)
2006-12-11 09:07:36 · answer #5 · answered by Empress 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt help that you told him you loved him when you were drunk, but the best thing you can do is talk to him!
good luck
2006-12-11 09:16:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to make him jelous.If he's jelous,means he love you.Ask your a friend a little help for this.
2006-12-11 09:59:07 · answer #7 · answered by 'popcornz' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he may love you but i dought it he probley just wanted sex.
2006-12-11 09:08:09 · answer #8 · answered by geoff_lombard 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him!
2006-12-11 09:11:07 · answer #9 · answered by Peachy Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no.
2006-12-11 09:07:38 · answer #10 · answered by Joe Bloggs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋