Ok first off we are both freshmen in college and I have never had a girl problem I could not answer myself but this one blows my mind. Anyway, I met this girl about 2 weeks ago, for a week i would chill on occasiion with her and her friends. Well, I then find out her along with her friends thin im hot and whatever the usual. Well, the one girl I liked came over about a week ago and we hooked up and she slept over, then she spent the whole day at my dorm, then 1 night later she sleeps over again and again we do everything. Yesterday, she calls me, shes upset saying that she doesnt think she can do this and wants out of the relationship. She said, and I quote, "you make me feel very special" (I am very complementative) along with all these other great things but she says she wants to get to know me more etc before we can be in a relationship again. Should I do this or just say screw it, I mean I gave this girl everything I had she spent the night etc,12 hours later she calls it. Help Me
2006-12-11 01:03:35 · 6 answers · asked by SR 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok little update, wow this thing is fast but she invited herself over etc and she chose to spend the night, it was her call but i was cool with it. Also our winter break for a month is coming up in 3 days, when i was tlaking to her after she told me i was like maybe ill see you after break and she was like maybe we can do something tom. does this mean anything and yes i do like this girl
2006-12-11 01:14:09 · update #1
Sounds like she is regretting jumping into bed so quick...maybe she is afraid of what you'll think of her. She thought you were hot, wanted to hit it...THEN found out that you are a really nice guy and now she would rather have some sort of relationship with you (hence the slowing it down) If she is someone you would like to be with, go for it...if she wa just a piece run for the hills!
2006-12-11 01:09:20 · answer #1 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You messed around WAY too early, dude.
Even if she was the one that wanted it in the first place, this is way too sudden for her. There could be a million things going through her head (ex-boyfriend, some other guy, family, etc) that's influencing her as well.
A little pointer to reminder is that college girls are an entirely new breed of girl. Even the freshmen ones. Now that everybody doesn't have mommy and daddy 'ruling' over them, they're running free and doing what they want. I guess if anything, be careful. Some women are nuts. They start showing it more in college...
2006-12-11 09:20:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could just be that she is not quite comfortable spending the night and all that with you yet. Take it down a notch, don't call it dating, and just take her out some place with a group. Go to the movies or dinner with a group of people, but be sure that you manage to sit next to her through everythign and you talk to her and get her attention and keep it.
2006-12-11 09:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by utlove_327 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe she feels like it is too soon to be having sex, and doesnt want to have sex until yall get closer and know each other better! If you like her, then you should go for it! Dont just say screw because she isnt giving it up anymore! that would be the a**hole thing to do! be respectable!
2006-12-11 09:07:56 · answer #4 · answered by smitty4626 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, do u want her? what do u mean u gave her everything? r u emotionally into her? i guess that she's not so into u, n its just a fling, but she wanted to put it in a good way, thats y she said it in that way...if u r not so into her then maybe its best if u just stay as friends...but if u want to have a relationship with her, then u should meet her n have a talk..
2006-12-11 09:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by nini moreal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be friends, college is for studying, every thing is secondary so stick your nose in the books and she should too.
2006-12-11 09:44:51 · answer #6 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋