my best guy friend sometimes says these confusing things to me(bear in mind,he has a gf) .he keeps on telling my other friends how much of a happy person i am & he always tell me how nice my smile is.we hang out a lot since we take most subjects & classes together.& one of the main things he does is to tease me like hell(esp abt the guy i like who's one of our friends too).i asked him why he liked teasing me so much & he replied with a "i love to see the reaction on your face cos your face lights up & you have a big smile which is lovely".most of our friends bug us saying that we like each other as well.he gets so concerned when i'm feeling down.
& recently when all of us(our friends) were planning to hang out,his gf(who's a freind of mine as well)told me she's not coming & when i urged him to persuade her to come he was like "i don't even talk to her abt hang outs cos she never comes & she never listens to what i say"
is he trying to be more than a best friend?
thanks a lot guys!
2006-12-11 00:44:06 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
come to think of it,i DO like him more than any other guy(even more than the guy i have a crush on i think)
2006-12-11 01:37:05 · update #1
Is he trying to be more than a best friend?
Maybe, maybe not. One thing's for sure. The guy is heads-over-heels dancing-in-the-rain in love with you. It's exactly how I behaved with a friend of mine in college. I ended up marrying her.
Which is not to say that he wants to be more than your best friend. It could be that he doesn't realize that he's in love with you. Guys can be really clueless about these things. (I know. I'm really clueless too.) Maybe he just likes the warm fuzzy feeling that he gets whenever he's around you.
It could also be that he knows he's in love with you, but he's too scared to do something about it. Maybe he's comfortable with his girlfriend and doesn't want anything to change. Maybe he's just scared that you'll reject him if he says something to you about it. Some guys (like me) are really cautious about these things. They don't want to get hurt or don't want to hurt the feelings of others (namely his gf).
I think you should examine how YOU feel about HIM. Do you love him? Think really hard about it. If you don't love him, it's all good. Just leave him be and enjoy his company. He's not really trying to do anything about it anyway. If you do love him, talk to him about it. That's what my wife did.
I'm not saying it's going to be easy. He has a gf, so it complicates matters. It might be a disaster and you may end up losing a friend. But if you think that it worth risking a friendship to gain a life partner, then go for it!
I have to ask, though. How old are you guys? Are you still in high school? If you are, I suggest waiting until you're in college or until you start working before starting to worry about things like this. There are so many more people you haven't met yet. Don't limit your options just yet.
2006-12-11 01:12:38 · answer #1 · answered by psychoadi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he likes you a lot. ;o) I mean he seems to want to hang out with you more then his gf so that should say something. Just be careful cause there's a lot of feelings that can be hurt though. I mean you have a bf or guy you like and he has a gf. If you two get together it might work out great but then again you might ruin the friendship you have now. So I'd think before jumping. good luck in whatever you decide to do. ;o)
2006-12-11 09:03:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it doesn't sound like it. It sounds like he is just being a good friend, and you may be reading too much into it. He has a girlfriend; if he really liked you more, he'd break up with her and date you.
I was in a similar situation in college where one of my best friends (a guy) and I were accused many times of going out, even though we both had long-distance significant others at the time. Just because we hung out together a lot, shared secrets, and sometimes went out without our other friends, it DID make it look like our relationship was more than just a friendship, but it wasn't. When people are close friends, they sometimes have different ways of showing it. You may be reading his emotions as flirty or "interested" but he may just enjoy teasing you and may really sincerely like your smile.
If you REALLY want to know, however, and if you feel comfortable talking about it with him, just ask him. You can even ask hypothetically, "Well, IF you weren't going out with so-and-so, who would you want to date? Do you think that we would make a good couple?" etc. etc.
Good luck!
2006-12-11 08:51:12 · answer #3 · answered by wnk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because he has a gf doesn't mean he's not interested in upgrading to a girl like you. The guy seems like he's wanting you to be his girl but doesn't want to be without a gf while he works on getting you. It's possible that you're not responding with enough compliments and not flirting enough for him to commit to you and dump is girl, but it's just a matter of time as long as you spend time with him. Keep in mind that you don't want to be his girl on the side, so don't give him any sugar unless he's single, if he wants you bad enough he'll dump her when he gets confirmation from you that you do like him.
2006-12-11 08:51:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have experienced the same case.
There are 2 most like possibilities here:
1) he IS attracted to you and he is not in love with his gf anymore.
2) he's kind of bored with his gurlfriend and trying to find a way to flirt with other girl (you)
yes, there are a plenty of other posibilities but i think those two are the most likely to happen.
and yes, the best way to know is by asking him.
go ahead, ask him, nothing to lose babe! do it, go! (^_^)
ps: this guy in my case is just feel bored with his gurlfriend for sometimes. after a while, he went back to his gf, and i became friend with them both.
2006-12-11 09:00:43 · answer #5 · answered by purple_lady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might be looking for more than frienship but since he is a guy it could be his way of being your friend, you should just ask him straight out what he wants and if he is not happy with his gf he must tell her and end it before he tries something with you!
2006-12-11 08:49:22 · answer #6 · answered by chris-mare 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he is, but I'd sure try to find out ----IF you're interested in him. He sounds like a sweet guy, and you got a good shot at it, but don't wait too long.
2006-12-11 08:48:47 · answer #7 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well....it could just mean that you have qualities that he wishes his gf has. from what he said (sounds a complain to me) his gf doesnt listen to him.
but it doesnt mean he doesnt love her.
i think he likes being with you because - well youre one likeable person. for me id like to be in a company of one who makes me feel at ease rather than someone who doesnt even understand me. got what i mean?
but dont think too much about it, they might be just having problems but theyll make up. besides you have your 'someone' too. being real bestfriends is great =)
2006-12-11 08:58:21 · answer #8 · answered by rinkumi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart he's in love with you you may not like it or want it but he does so give it a go if u r not interested then act oblivious to the fact that he likes you eventually he will tell you how he eels and act surprised
2006-12-11 08:53:04 · answer #9 · answered by ERIC G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is perfectly possible that he is trying to be more than just friends. it sounds to me as if he's probably into group things if you know what i mean. but i wouldn't worry about it too much. concentrate on maintaining your friendship with your girlfriend and forget this double-dater!
2006-12-11 08:55:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋