The whole relationship is wrong for lots of reasons and the more I tell him to stop calling or visiting,the more he does.I've tried putting him off me by squeeling unneccesarily or throwing tantrims.It is working but not as fast as i would like it to.He keeps insisting that my feelings are growing stronger but the opposite is true.What can i do since talking or avoiding him doesnt seem to work?
2006-12-11 00:40:18 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wnk is a nerd who is giving you advice that could get you killed, she understands nohting about guys like this.
You don't need some rejection scene that gets him mad. Be polite, but not encouraging. Be kind of slow in responding, so he has to repeat himself a lot. Be boring. Then gradually get busy- make sure it doesn't seem like it's him.
I had these girls that I met in person- once they got my number they would not stop calling at all hours. Instead of running away, I was just boring. Never initiated anything, but never ran away either. They forgot about me. Other things came up for them. They were really threatening at first, too.
2006-12-11 00:48:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever watch Seinfeld?? Try "the pick" works every time!
Most of the time people are so concerned with the let down, that they try to make it too gentle. So gentle that the person that is being dumped actually sees a ray of hope in there somewhere and keeps up the pursuit. Be as blunt as you possibly can. Dont worry too much about the feelings on his end... worry more about creating a stalker by giving false hopes.. remeber, be direct, no ambiguity, no mercy, just do it and leave it.
2006-12-11 00:46:52 · answer #2 · answered by Jonny B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if it's getting that bad, put a restraining order against him. Also, there are stalking laws. Let him no that you're not taking anymore harassment from him and tell him you will go the legal route if he doesn't back off. When I was younger, there was a guy that wouldn't leave me alone. My older brother took care of it. Do you have an older brother or someone that might just put the fear of God into him? Good luck and stay safe.
2006-12-11 00:48:41 · answer #3 · answered by leigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite a couple of your male friends out and also invite this guy without letting him know about the other friends. Have an open discussion with him in the presence of the others about how you feel.
2006-12-11 00:46:12 · answer #4 · answered by PAUL W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, the best way to tell a guy its over is tell it to his face, and whatever he do, ignore him. Don't answer his calls, don't even turn around if he calls your name. If you want, you can get a restraining order (but that's extreme!). Just tell him nicely that you don't like/want him anymore, and that what he is thinking is wrong.
2006-12-11 00:47:16 · answer #5 · answered by jocjac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and have a nice heart-to-heart. Tell him exactly how you feel, why you feel that way, and exactly what your expectations are of him -- (i.e. "I do not want to you call my home again. We can still say hi at school, but I do not want to have long conversations with you there. If you need to tell me something, you can email me. Otherwise, I am going to have to get a restraining order.")
Good luck!
2006-12-11 00:43:02 · answer #6 · answered by wnk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him to leave you alone or you will get a restraining order against him from the police. Have you tried to look as awful as possible in front of him, burping, bad breath, foul mouth, spitting, etc.
2006-12-11 00:44:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll get the hint, it just takes some "hangers on" alittle longer. If it gets too out of hand, tell him you put a restraining order on him .If THAT doesn't work, then get one.
2006-12-11 00:43:32 · answer #8 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are not interested and you consider his actions are harassing and upsetting. Hopefully that will work - if it doesn't - be rude to him. You've got to give it to him straight - if he cannot understand that you need to take further action - like report him to the Police.
2006-12-11 00:43:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you not being honest. Just tell the truth for crying out loud. be clear and simple and tell him you don't want to see him anymore. be honest, straightforward and truthful
2006-12-11 00:44:51 · answer #10 · answered by elsie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋