Only my parents and I are planning the wedding the best we can. The boy's side are not doing much.. i am feeling as if they aren't really interested.I mean they are only interested in those events that are of consequence to them.. we also have disagreement on the ceremony
2006-12-11 00:00:03 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
sometimes i feel only i am the one cribbing while evryone else seems to be fine with everything...also... i find that there is lack of communication .. also lack of interest on my fiance and his family's part as to what I really want...i dunno what is happening
2006-12-11 21:57:32 · update #1
Your future in-laws seem very immature and selfish. That's not right!
2006-12-11 00:03:12 · answer #1 · answered by Joe Prosnick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey... Be grateful!
When I was planning my wedding I had a certain vision of how I wanted things and involving my mother, my sister along with (trying) to involved the grandmother and in-laws was not a good idea. doing so gives everyone the green light to have opinions on EVERYTHING I chose, and trust me they ALL had something to say or something they did not like, it becomes very stressful because without realizing it you begin to plan the wedding trying to make EVERYONE happy! It is okay for certain things but it becomes heartbreaking when the things that are important to you are bashed by your close family.
As far as the Fiance, if it means a lot for you, make up your mind on what you want or get a good idea and then ask him for an hour or two of his time to go book it (his advice) whether its flowers, cake, decor, or dinner taste. Dont be upset if he seems as if he does not care very much - When i was planning for the wedding I would ask for his opinion and he would say "whatever makes you happy, I just want to marry you" I'm sure your fiance feels the same. I cannot Imagine a man being interested in little table candy holders, or the colors of the chairs bows. KEEP YOUR HEAD UP!
Its your big day, so its up to you to surprise every one at the wedding, its just better that way anyway. :)
2006-12-14 03:46:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would be happy to do all the planning because I would get everything exactly the way I want it. The boys side of the family is probably leery of stepping on your toes, since everyone knows it's technically the bride's day. If you want them to do a job or take care of something, then delegate them something to do. Then allow them the freedom in that area. Whatever your disagreement on the ceremony it sounds like there is massive miscommunication and you just need to get everyone together and figure out what people's wants are, if they don't really care about certain aspects then you take care of it as you want....but be willing to compromise as well. Good luck, and congratulations!
2006-12-11 01:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by Future Mrs. Beasley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These things are best spoken about by the couple as there could be misunderstandings later. Sometimes it is not lack of interest. It could be lack of time, inhibitions about capability or even not wanting to interfere when your family has so ably taken over the planning. Inside there maybe resentment or even hurt. So talk to him, offer to collaborate or even divide the responsibility. Try to please both parents about ceremony because both might have strong traditional leanings. Let him talk to his parents and you to yours about this altered way of planning and sharing the work. If both of you can become the coordinators then the 2 sets of inlaws only have to deal with their own child and not get into any hurtful or embarrassing situations with the other inlaws.
2006-12-11 00:13:53 · answer #4 · answered by itsmehuh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typically, the woman is the one who plans the wedding. It's really for her anyway, most guys don't care all that much for all the hoopla and ordering flowers and looking at cakes just isn't their thing (usually).
If you and your parents are planning it, then why are none of the functions happening your way? If you are making the arrangements and your parents are paying for it, then MAKE it your way. Make it so that all your fiance' and his family have to do on the wedding day is show up.
Good luck and best wishes...
2006-12-11 00:10:50 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it will be so stupid so that you'll delay your wedding ceremony over a stupid, ill rumor. go ahead with your plans and function a staggering time. At your reception, you are able to favor to announce that the stupid rumor about being pregnant with the brother in guidelines infant replaced right into a tasteless wedding ceremony prank. all of it ends there. Or, do no longer even aspect out it. you need to no longer care what his relations or all people else thinks. you are able to't administration what human beings imagine and to delay your existence till you comprehend all and dissimilar does no longer believe the rumor is stupid and a waste of time. What? you'll call all and dissimilar and tell them the rumor then ask them no longer to believe it then set yet another wedding ceremony date?? do not you spot how stupid that's and that you're playing into the drama. by some ability i imagine you are able to like this bizarre interest because you're keen to furnish it a existence of it truly is own. go get married and stay as some distance faraway from that brother as achievable. he's poisonous. yet in problem-free words a risk in case you react to his stupid nonsense by allowing it to modify your plans.
2016-11-25 20:28:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ceremony should be agreed upon by only you and your fiance, in my opinion. Are you actively including his parents? Maybe they are a bit shy and think you don't want their input. If you try to include them and they don't respond, then ignore them and have the wedding you and your parents choose. Don't let anyone ruin your special day!
2006-12-11 00:37:57 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. G. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most cases, the bride does most of the planning herself, usually with the help of her maid of honor, or someone else with some previous experience. This is your special day, so its pretty much up to you to make it happen.
My husband left all the details up to the girls, and the only thing he wanted a say in was the cake and his tuxedoes. He got his way, and even though it took a while, we wound up with a beautiful wedding. So just work with him, and it will all go well.
Congrats!!!!!!!!! :))
2006-12-11 01:46:10 · answer #8 · answered by tiggerluv252000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont you think you are a bit more excitted on the event if not so than talk out the things to the in-laws or just try to adjust to there feelings and nature because you are the one who has to spend your life there and make a family . adjust a bit it's the beggining don't over look the issues . just enjoy the ceremony
2006-12-11 00:24:04 · answer #9 · answered by gunchu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother and I planned our wedding, my husband family did offer, but to many chiefs and not enough Indians doesn't work...You'll see its better that you plan and they stay out of it...They would want things their way and there will be a battle...Now as for as the ceremony, you can add both, the way he wants it and they way you want it...A big part of being married is communication and compromise...
2006-12-11 00:28:11 · answer #10 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey tell your fiances to help out.. because you and his wedding.. and if your fiance doesn't wanted to help out you think of your future with this guy... espeically planning wedding can be very stressful...
Talk to your future in-laws... about it..
It not just your wedding but your fiance wedding...
2006-12-11 03:52:15 · answer #11 · answered by babyg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋