This is not a joke,it's very real my girl friend/best friend ever died last night in a car accident in los Angele's she did not have her set belt on i have not sleep since i herd of the news of her death i am in so much pain over her i can i take away the pain some and i do know that only time can do this but we can i do now beside cry for her thank you for all the people who care to answer this take care and be safe
2006-12-10 23:36:22 · 6 answers · asked by jem 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Aw sweety!!! I am so sorry....I lost someone this year also.....I know it hurts. But sweety don't do anything like killing yourself. Think she wants you to live and have a great life. She will always be with you. Someone gave me this advice to write a letter to the person....it actually does help. Get what you want to say out in the letter.....I hope you try it. Cheer up sweety everything will be ok. If you need to talk just e-mail me.
2006-12-11 00:03:28 · answer #1 · answered by *you make me feel invisible* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry to hear that you lost your girlfriend in an car accident. It is very hard to lose a person that you love very much. And yes a lot of us think about trying to cross over just to see them again. That is not the answer, you can go and get professional help for this. They will help you get through it. I know, i lost a few people in my life that really broke my heart. I had thought that i knew what a broken heart was,, but i found out i had not til the dead of these loved ones. Mental health, ended up having five people work with me, one for each day of the week more less. It really helped, reading the books and that. The hurt of the loss is not going to go away, it will always be with you, and it is good for you to talk about it. The good thing is you can work through the greiving process, and get help to do that. Greiving is hard, and painful, and sometimes it is a good thing to go to the professionals for help. I am not going to tell you it will get better right away, cause it proably will not. It takes time , and you need to take that time, and not kill your self. Casue i really don't think she would want you do end your life. So please be safe, and really think about going in and seeking some help to stay safe, and work through the greive you feel right now. It should help, but it does take time.
2006-12-11 01:02:39 · answer #2 · answered by Ladyofathousandfaces 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's going to be a rough road for you, but you'll get through it. You won't get over it, but you'll get through it.
First of all, allow yourself to feel however you feel. Don't try to stifle anything because it will only resurface later when you least expect it. Cry as much as you need to you. Let others be there for you. There may not be much they can do you for you, but they can at least sit with you, hold your hand, and they can make sure that you're taking care of yourself through rest and eating.
Grief sucks!! People handle it in different ways. Expect to feel like shite for a long while. Just keep telling yourself that it can get better tomorrow, and then if not tomorrow, then the day after.
Talk about her and talk about how you are feeling. Share your memories of her and share your pain now. People have a great capacity for caring and support if you give them the chance.
I am so sorry for your loss. I wish you all the very best.
2006-12-11 00:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by castle h 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When something like this happens you can't handle all the turmoil and emotions. Seek out a grief counsellor. There are five stages to grieving and it's important to know what they are so you know what you are feeling is normal. You had a tremendous loss and you need time to recover. It's like getting hit by a truck, you wouldn't run a marathon the next day, no, you would do whatever it takes to heal your body. In this case the pain is even worse than being hit by a truck and you should seek some help so you can know what to do to recover emotionally. Also give yourself permission to grieve and feel awful, it's natural. Take care of yourself, your girlfriend would want you to get better and seek help to ease the pain.
2006-12-10 23:48:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how badly you're hurting, but you touched my heart & tonight when I go to bed, I will remember to pray for you... Allow yourself to hurt... It doesn't make any sence fighting what you feel, because this is the only way your healing process will begin. When you think about her think about happy times, write to her in your journal about how you feel... & how much you miss her, be honest. You may want to be isolated for sometime, that's good to a point. After sometime, you have to go outside & breathe the air that you are still blessed to have... give thanks for having the opportunity to have her in your life. Celebrate her life & all the good that she brought into yours... I think that she would like that very much. You will get through this...
2006-12-11 00:01:15 · answer #5 · answered by Lue 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry. Like you said, it's going to take time. You're going to have to hurt for a while, but eventually you WILL get better. Talk about your feelings with someone who'll listen. Sometimes it helps to write about your feelings. I know you probably feel like crap right now, and you might feel like dying, but hang in there.
2006-12-10 23:49:24 · answer #6 · answered by Samantha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋