I am what you could call a private person and I hold alot of information close to me. I am also legally held to keep my work private and not disclose alot of what I do. The problem is even though my girlfriend is aware of this she constantly complains that I keep everything a secret. She has accused me of cheating on her three times now (even though I never have) and is severely unhappy that I don't trust her enough to disclose my work to her. Tonight she told me my entire life is a lie to her and that I can never be trusted since I won't tell her everything I do. Is there a way to continue the relationship and overcome these issues?
2006-12-10 23:23:11 · 9 answers · asked by 65Cobra 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to establish a boundary between your professional and private life. There are a lot of jobs that require a certain level of secrecy. You just need to assert what you can and can't disclose. The trick is keeping your significant other in the loop as well as you can and just omitting sensitive information. If you absolutely can't tell anything about what you do for a living don't be surprised that a lot of people don't end up feeling a little put out. Thus the expression of occupational hazard. Honestly be as honest as possible and if it isn't enough what more can you do right?
2006-12-10 23:39:29 · answer #1 · answered by mistress_lilas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing is your girlfriend has to realise this is who you are and this is the way you going to be,you cant change a person no matter how much you try you either except them or dont and move on with your life it is hard especially when you are in a relationship i am going down the same road as you are and its not a joke when its the person you love but ask yourself,do i realy want these bullshit fights or do i want to live my life and in time find the girl that completes me.
2006-12-10 23:32:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't particularly agree..... development down have faith is a considered necessary difficulty for me. because of the fact as quickly as have faith has been shattered, the courting is ended too. So, earlier I enable this have faith being destroyed, I learn heavily all parameters, all situations, all opportunities. i don't end relationships in simple terms in seconds. I provide credit, I take my time. not too plenty besides!!! yet, I try... And while finally I end that there is not any wish, that the guy isn't trustworthy, I walk out the courting without guilt in any respect, no not undemanding emotions. because of the fact i comprehend I incredibly have given all the possibilities a probability and that they proved incorrect....
2016-12-13 06:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by vannatter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that she wants to know everything about you, but if you legally can't and she knew this when she started going out with you, she knew your situation then she can't complain now if you were honest with her form the beginning. If i were you i would dump her because she sounds like a whinner plus she's acting really stupid, if she knew from the beginning how things were she can't come and complain now, it's so dumb!
2006-12-10 23:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by sadgreeneyes3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her u r introvert, so it comes to u not so easy to disclose things abt ur personal affair.
and ur professional ethics does not allow u to disclose office details to anybody.Try ur level best to make her understand this,If she is intellectual she will definitly understand u.
EVEN AFTER THIS IF SHE DOES NOT UNDERSTAND U
then my friend do not continue the relation with her,
think what if she marrys u & ur whole is pressed down to comprimise with her,
i believe like minded people can only prove good couple.
2006-12-10 23:37:53 · answer #5 · answered by shwetha sharma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is the best thing is just talk to her let her know what the deal is how you really can not tell her about you work or you could lose your job. And then tell her it's just going to take some time before you can fully open up to her.
2006-12-10 23:27:39 · answer #6 · answered by lasondraperry-graham 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be very hard to make her see any other way. I can understand how she feels though, it would be very difficult to have a boyfriend that has to have part of his life a secret.
2006-12-10 23:27:15 · answer #7 · answered by Huff G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk talk talk
talk to her about your hopes and fears... tell her again and again patiently that certain aspects of your work is P&C... be nice when she asks... bring her down gently... be extra nice when she becomes inqusitive...
give her more love hugs and tenderness
2006-12-10 23:30:53 · answer #8 · answered by sperio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like a ***** dumb her *** if she cant respect that then you dont need her
2006-12-10 23:27:41 · answer #9 · answered by yours truly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋