when i was 12 my brother put is **** up my bum when he had finished it was wet what was it becouse i did not not what it was as i was to youg to understandwhat it was
2006-12-10 23:20:37 · 21 answers · asked by christopherfarrow3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i can't help but think your lying sorry if i cause offence
2006-12-10 23:26:57 · answer #1 · answered by harveysmummy 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
FIRST and foremost, your brother was so very wrong for doing this. But what was his age? If he is about the same age as you it could be just a kid type thing. Even tho it IS so very WRONG. But if he was older or is older than you like he was 16 and you were 12 then he needs some very serious help. I would sit down with him and this is with the thought that you are of age or like 18 now. If you are under 18 you can still talk to him but you may want to talk with your mom first. And I would reccommend that you do. He needs help and needs it now. No one and I mean NO ONE should take advantage of a kid and the mere fact that it is family only makes it worse.
2006-12-10 23:41:02 · answer #2 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry about what happened to you. It was a terrible thing.
You need to find the strength and discipline to forgive your brother. Holding on to the past will only hurt you even the more without necessarily bringing justice or retribution to your brother.
Forgiveness will bring you healing and closure as far as that memory is concerned. You'll also have your mind renewed so that you can have healthy and wholesome relationships.
All the best!
2006-12-10 23:28:14 · answer #3 · answered by Allan G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly, i am sorry to hear that you have had such a traumatic experience and at such a young age.
was this an ongoing thing or one experience? was there other inappropriate behaviours form him towards you? i wonder how old was your brother? if he was farely young too, where did he learn this behaviour from?
often the perpetrator has been a victim previously and then re-enacts that behaviour with someone else.
have you ever spoken to him about it? perhaps he feels bad about it too but doesn't want to talk about it for fear of upsetting you or feeling blamed.
if he was young and confused himself, then he may not necesarily have really understood that he was hurting you. however, if he was much older, then he may not be worthy of such forgiveness.
i'm just glad that you are not blaming yourself as can often happen. if it would help you to heal to forgive him, then do so. but don't feel bad if you honestly cannot forgive him, just try to acknowledge your feelings and don't try to ignore them; free them.
all the best.
2006-12-10 23:32:59 · answer #4 · answered by noodle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't sound right and surely not right of your to forgive him for that. This can cause alot of misunderstanding for under's to understand what actually happened to you at that age. But For people like your brother who did that shouldnt be free to walk around on the streets.
Did you tell your parents about this?
Are you seeing a doctor, to talk about this?
I hope the best for you. Do take care.
And no not forgive someone (you brother or anyone for that matter) who does something like that!
2006-12-10 23:24:42 · answer #5 · answered by alice_nobleandkind 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chris have you any coucilling with this? I think that you should talk to someone professional about this because this is serious stuff. This could change your life forever where you could end up liking guys. Your brother was wrong but you shouldn't live your life harbouring this hatred for your brother. Forgive him and set your sould free. He is the one to pay for what he has done don't join him in his wrong doing by not letting him go...
2006-12-11 01:09:33 · answer #6 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is to forgive and move on. If you don't you won't move on th your life. Just try to forgive and forget, the future is bright for you. Let him be the one to live with guilt with what he did and not you.Be strong for your own sake because if you let this tie you down you won't ve a happy life. Good luck. God loves you
2006-12-10 23:38:59 · answer #7 · answered by miss cool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to forgive him if you don't want to,what he did was wrong if he has asked for your forgiveness then at least you know he understands what he did was wrong but if he hasn't then he needs to make amends not the other way round. have you told anyone if not try and tell a responsible adult they will be able to get you help and stop this happening to anyone else i hope your OK and i hope you remember it wasn't your fault
2006-12-10 23:28:44 · answer #8 · answered by upyafartpipe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to seek some counselling. Forgiving some one is a very personal decision. Not to be taken lightly. goodluck
2006-12-10 23:24:40 · answer #9 · answered by Huff G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell some one who understands.That is unforgivable but whether to forgive is your choice and depends on your character and mentality. But remember, you HAVE a choice.
2006-12-10 23:31:31 · answer #10 · answered by Morningdew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Troll? The details given gave you away.
2006-12-10 23:23:11 · answer #11 · answered by bezsenný 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋