The girl is just too obnoxious. She's shallow, boring and has gained 25lb since I met her in January.
Her sence of humor sucks and she's lame in bed.
The deal is, we just moved into a house and we've purchassed tickets to visit her family for Christmas...
Dang it!!!
2006-12-10 23:03:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
forward her that message!
2006-12-10 23:06:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're a fool. Why would you move in with someone and buy tickets for a holiday trip with someone you aparantly can't stand? And did she just get bad in bed, or shallow or boring? I mean, who cares about the 25 pounds-she can take it back off. If you actually cared about her, you could get BOTH of your New Year's off to a great start and try supporting her in improving her health (and yours) by working on your fitness together.
Let me ask you, how often do you compliment her or do something special for her, or dress nicely for her or anytihng special just for her? I bet the answer is never. Too many men expect to put very little into a relationship and get treated like a king, while they treat their partner like a servant rather than a queen. Just like everything else in life, you will get out of it what you put into it. Unless you're into putting in effort, why should she? And, by the way, a real, quality woman would never stay with someone who didn't treat them like a queen simply becasue they know they can do better.
2006-12-10 23:16:04 · answer #2 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you just move into a house with her knowing all of this beforehand? This doesn't sound like an overnight thing....?
One thing is for sure, though. At least one of you is going to be miserable this Christmas.
Good Luck!!
ps. Complaining about gaining two pounds per month...who's the shallow one??
2006-12-10 23:11:46 · answer #3 · answered by Silverwolf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So why move into a house together? You must be close, otherwise you wouldn't be visiting her family. If she's that shalllow, why be with her. As fo rthe weight gain, surely you could exercise with her - suggest both going to the gym. Teach her how to be better in bed - suggest trying X/Y/Z. Perhaps you've met someone nicer. Either way, be honest with her - perhaps things may change for the better.
2006-12-10 23:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by ilovebuttonmoon 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound shallow loud and obnoxious if you are wanting to break up with her because she gained 25 lbs. Do you love her apparently you did because you moved into a house with her, she wasnt lous shallow and obnoxious then was she. Grow up and suck it up u put yourself in this position.
2006-12-10 23:08:13 · answer #5 · answered by kort 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can either...wait it out until after christmas, but it would be past the whole meeting parents thing. But if you do it before that would be horrible for her even if she is shallow. Maybe at least talk about it...give her the heads up that your having mixed feelings about her. so if it ends after christmas she wont be caught off gaurd
2006-12-10 23:09:23 · answer #6 · answered by Nisey B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End it honestly! If the house is rented, move out and be generous. She can have the tickets and you can write yours off. It is a harder problem if you have jointly purchased the house. You need to setlle it fairly and magnanimously. I doubt this is possible as your language does not show that character!
2006-12-10 23:12:08 · answer #7 · answered by Tom Cat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
then you should have not courted the girl even from the start...
it would definitely tear her heart if you'll break up with her with those shallow reasons... i am a woman and seeing your reasons for breaking up with your girl are lame... maybe you two could work things out...try to talk to her about your concerns, her weight gain, her humor and your bed activities.. tell her sincerely about what you are currently feeling about your relationship.... its hard to live in a house with those grudges...
but then if you're firm with your decision to split up with her,,then maybe you should do it after the holidays.... take it slow and explain it to her toroughly...
goodluck!! =)
2006-12-11 00:04:39 · answer #8 · answered by honeybfly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we would never find somebody who is perfect enough who would fit our standards but you could love that imperfect person perfectly,,,,,,let us see it this way don't you think you are being shallow because you want to leave her because of these small reasons that you both can fix and you can change for the better,,,,,and lastly the question you need to answer is why did you love her in the first place is it because of these complains of yours,,,think twice before leaving and breaking this persons heart you would never know whens the next time you would meet somebody that who could love you besides your flaws too,,,smile
2006-12-10 23:18:04 · answer #9 · answered by flannan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You & her are now living together/just got a house?-It's gonna be tough, unless you can have a serious talk about being "friends" only, & still live together like roomates, I lived with a girlfriend & it's not the same, it ruined the relationship, & I'll never live with a girlfriend unless I plan to "marry" her. so try to talk to her & say we're best off being friends...
2006-12-10 23:20:18 · answer #10 · answered by strange-artist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her it was a mistake and that you don't know what you want anymore..... don't meet her family if this is what you feel. Tell her something came up.... that would send a message to begin with! Please don't lead her on anymore!
2006-12-10 23:10:31 · answer #11 · answered by pretty1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋