I have a big problem ive been with my girl friend for a year now and i live with her and have strong feelings for her but she always moans at me and doesnt like me going out, about 7 months ago i started a new job where i met a girl that i get on with and i really like her i.e cant stop thinking about her and she doesnt know this. recently i was told by some one that she has a big crush on me i still havnt told her how i feel about her because we might get closer and i might leave my girl friend and every day i go through this and its **** i want girl 2 but am scared of life with out the girl ive been with for a year but despratley want girl 2 and this goes round in my head all day every day... whats the best path to follow?
2006-12-10 22:33:36 · 15 answers · asked by Ryman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't be selfish and I say this as the girl who's husband left her for the co-worker. What I mean is if you want to be with this other girl then be with her but don't keep your present girl around as a safety net. She deserves the chance to be with someone who loves her and isn't settling for her. If your sure enough that you want someone else then you're sure enough that you don't want her. Maybe you will end up alone but that's the price you have to pay when you gamble. Just be honest!
2006-12-10 22:48:13 · answer #1 · answered by mistress_lilas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question that has been asked a thousand times.First thing is how do you really feel about girlf? Ask yourself wether you still love her and why she moans.Living together within a year is a big step and she may feel trapped as you do.
This new girl sounds great but neither of you are in the normal trappings of a relationship ie in the position you are in now.Even if you got with this girl as a couple a year down the line you could be in the same position.I think you need to make a go of it with your girlf or if you feel that strongly that you cant.Make a break and have time to yourself to think things through.Good luck
2006-12-10 22:41:35 · answer #2 · answered by Clare B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are scared of life without girl # 1 ?? What a baby. Grow up and grow some b*lls. You obviously don't care enough about her to commit to her....you are using her to stay in your little comfort zone. You need to stop living with her, get your own place, and go with girl # 2 and / or anyone else that suits your fancy.
Learn a lesson = don't live with someone unless you know you both love each other and desire a committed long term relationship like marriage.
2006-12-10 22:49:52 · answer #3 · answered by Patricia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you screwed the pooch when you moved in with girl #1. That was mistake number one. Now that you all live together, and are considered a couple, it's going to be very hard to be with anyone else.
If it's really bugging you, ask your gf if you can date other women (worth a shot)...you'll probably get the huge "HELL NO" but as I said...the only stupid question is the one you don't ask.
Let girl 2 know that you like her, but that you have a gf. That way she knows up front. No sense in misleading a potential friend.
Good luck
2006-12-10 22:38:54 · answer #4 · answered by vamedic4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen this happen a lot at work (a bit of personal experience as well). Worst thing for you to do would be to let things get even worse with your girlfriend and then 'let' things happen with this other girl- an affair in the workplace is seedy and doesn't do you any favours on a professional level.
If you're sure you don't want to work at things with your girlfriend break it off with her NOW, it's just cruel otherwise. Then be on your own for a bit and take it easy with the other girl should things happen, if it's meant to be it will happen.
2006-12-10 22:44:12 · answer #5 · answered by Miss J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a loveless relationship is no relationship at all. step back and think before you do anything, but define the line between love and habit. are you honestly devoted to your girlfriend or has it just become routine? sounds to me like your taking her for granted. would you want to be in a relationship with a partner who didn't completely want to be with you? have you even thought about her? get away on your own for a weekend and work out what you want, but maybe your girlfriend moans because she can tell your distracted and can tell that you don't want to be with her. if it isn't working out leave. take some time apart. if the time apart feels right then consider going for another relationship, but don't jump from one straight to another-that's how confusion becomes crisis and hearts get broken. good luck xxxx
2006-12-10 23:09:18 · answer #6 · answered by lilsam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your instincts, I think. Which means the girl at work. If you were 100% happy with the girl you live with, you wouldn't be thinking about other women.
Don't beat yourself up about it - these things happen. Tough on the girl you're living with, but it doesn't sound to me like that's match made in heaven anyway.
Good luck.
2006-12-10 22:44:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u go to girl2 then that means that ur cheating on girl1 and since u said that girl1 doesnt want u to go out that means she loves u alot n cant be without u just imagine how hurt she's gonna be when u leave her for girl2. I tell u to stick with girl1 n try to control ur feelings with girl2.
2006-12-10 22:41:26 · answer #8 · answered by yordanos a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should finish with your girlfriend. sorry if that sounds harsh but i'm sure u know its 4 the best. Clearly, things aren't as great as they should be. Don't rush into anything too heavy with the new girl. have some fun.
2006-12-10 22:37:56 · answer #9 · answered by elsie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide between love and lust,we have all been there ,and i just know come the xmas party you will make a play,and your hormones will take over.
Just save the 10 points and give them me for xmas when you Will prove me right.
2006-12-10 22:38:40 · answer #10 · answered by wozza.lad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋