I have been remarried for six years now and share joint custody of two children (12 and 10) with my ex. We are on good terms and have agreed this coming summer (finally!) that it is alright if I move out of state. My current husband has asked for years to move back to his home state. It will be better financially for us all, not to mention other positive factors associated with the move. I have told the kids that they can pick if they want to come or not, since they are older. My 12 yr old has decided to stay here, and the 10 yr old wants to come with. I have a good relationship with both children. I also have two young children with the new husband. My question is this. When we move in the summer and my 12 yr old stays here, will she feel like I've abandoned her? Should I wait another year? (It's been 3 years already) Her father is good to her and I'm not worried that she won't be taken care of but I will miss her terribly, is it wrong to leave her here if that's what she wants??
2006-12-10
22:18:37
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I should have included that she has told me she wants to stay because our family (extended, i.e. grandparents and aunt) are here and she doesn't want to leave them. She has also told me she really doesn't want to live with her father when I leave! She just doesn't want to leave the family because she thinks it will hurt their feelings. She is the type of person who tends to put other peoples feelings before her own so sometimes I wonder if she really does want to come but chose to stay because of that
2006-12-11
00:47:29 ·
update #1
I should also add that when they were younger (from the time she was 2 until 7 yrs) that they lived apart. She lived with me and he lived with him. When he was old enough to go to school, he moved in with me because the schools by me are better.
2006-12-11
00:51:16 ·
update #2