He doesnt call when he says he will,avoids me at work,he said he loved me and promised me the world,and even that he wanted to marry me,my heart is breaking and i cant stop thinking of him,i'm so depressed.
2006-12-10 22:10:46 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your basing your whole being on this person---If you gave out sexual favors---a man will tell you he will hang you a new moon only to get what they want from you---It worked---"he promised marriage--love--and promised you the world"! ANOTHER THING---One should never dip their pen in company ink' ! You work with him----you're setting yourself up for a sexual harrassment lawsuit!!! STOP your pen write now and find a new piece of paper to place your ink on !!
Best response I can give you ----is put this matter on your lowest priority of thought---AVOID him as if he had a communicable disease. Don't contact him---don't pine away for him. The best response is no response and no reaction to his avoidance of you.
You're in control of you and if you're depressed you're making that happen to yourself!---Life is to short to base your own happiness and well being on another person. Break out of your depressive mode and get busy creating happiness in your life.
2006-12-10 22:17:41 · answer #1 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Deja vu!!! Been there with the exception of the marriage/work thing. When someone you love makes you feel unimportant and stops making you feel special, it's time to have a talk---one talk. Don't drag it out or think that you can change him if the situation doesn't improve. It hurts horribly, I know, but you just need to keep your chin up and move on. Eventually you'll meet someone that promises you the world, and then comes through with that promise. Hope that helps.
2006-12-10 22:18:14 · answer #2 · answered by cna_77381 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't call him and try avoiding him also...once he gets the picture...if he doesn't come and talk to you most likely he move on and you should too. If he does come and ask you why you're avoiding him...then you should talk to him about the way you feel. If he's avoiding and returning your calls then why put yourself through all that. The right guy is out there you'll find him...it just takes time.
Don't worry...feel better.
2006-12-10 22:18:07 · answer #3 · answered by shabana0903 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best way to get over him is to turn to strangers on the internet asking for advice. OK, you get my point. Move on.
Sounds like you are the real winner here, you just may be too hurt to see that. Consider yourself lucky, he showed you how he really felt about you before he married you.
I assume you work together...let us (and by us, i mean you) learn from that mistake and move forward.
for what its worth i believe:
ybrocky's answer was the best advice. It is just easier said than done.
good luck.
My guess is that it won't be long before you find somebody who appreciates you for you. Cliche, i know. But, regardless of what I thought of your question, it does show that you are a caring person.
2006-12-10 22:22:19 · answer #4 · answered by detroit al 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its a natural feeling to be depressed specially when you feel rejected. Go and pour your heart out . There are different stages before you can overcome and accept a lost love. There'll be denial, or even hatred before acceptance.
Enjoy life. Go out with your friends to take your mind off from your failed relationship
2006-12-10 22:26:25 · answer #5 · answered by allanbabes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Exit the situation Babe.
He has treated you really badly.You didn't deserve it.Don't let yourself waste more time being miserable over this bloke who doesn't care for you.
Buy some new clothes and go out with friends and try to meet someone else.
Chat soon,
Love ya Babez
XX
2006-12-10 22:29:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know it does hurt. I went through the same thing about 9 months ago. He said those same things and did what you said he is doing now. Girl its going to get worse before it gets better. me i still once in a while, feel hurt and used. But we go on with our head high and a smile on our face. Sometimes if they see you happy or with another guys, they wish they still had you. take care and try to cheer up.
2006-12-10 22:23:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should never have dated someone from work in the first place. Consider it a lesson learned. Find a new job, or sue your present company for sexual harrassment and get your ex out of your life. You are better off without him.
2006-12-10 22:53:00 · answer #8 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never get your honey where you get your money.
Don't date people you work with...it hurts when it's over.
Don't worry about him, he's just some guy who lied to you and told you things you wanted to hear. I just hope you didn't go too far with this guy.
Try your best to move on. Guys are @ssholes..never forget that. Many are only in a relationship for one thing....
2006-12-10 22:47:04 · answer #9 · answered by vamedic4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is never easy getting over someone you love. My guy and I almost broke up for something stupid, but we worked it out, and I thought I was goign to die. Take it day by day and if he doesn't want to talk to you don't make the sitituation worse by trying to force him to talk to you. after a while when you feel a little better about it try to talk to him and see what went wrong in the relationship and why it ended. also the best thign is watch a guy bashing movie like john tucker must die with some girlfriends and eat cookie dough!!!
2006-12-10 22:15:06 · answer #10 · answered by Daze 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋