Every guy I've been interested in or have dated treat me like crap. They either cheat, flirt with other girls, lie to me or break up with me for no reason. Why is this?
2006-12-10 21:02:13 · 14 answers · asked by ` [ [ E l i e B e a n ] ] ; ; 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because men are stupid and often don't realize they are causing other people pain. Not all men are like this, of course, you just have to be more selective in who you choose to date. Think about each person you've dated who has hurt you and look for common characteristics. Then, when you're considering dating someone new, look for those characteristics in the new person. It'll give you a better idea whether or not the new person will end up like your past relationships.
Just don't let yourself get dragged down by the same situation over and over. You deserve better.
2006-12-10 21:10:33 · answer #1 · answered by neovenator21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to like hearing this... people treat you the way you train them to do. The relationships you have with the people around you, especially boyfriends, is a mirror in which you see yourself. So if they treat you like crap, it's probably because you don't see yourself as worthy of being treated better. Decide for yourself how you want to be treated and if they don't respect those boundaries, move on. It's hard at first, but it's worth it. YOU're worth it! You'll find there's a lot of great guys out there as well. Good luck!
2006-12-10 21:11:38 · answer #2 · answered by adeleb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
John F is right. Girls are not attracted to nice guys. Think of it this way' Not all ways what you are attracted to is the right thing for you. In other words you have to make up your mind what you want. Do you want to be treated right by a good guy that might not be as exciting as the bad boy with the hot body and the attitude. Always remember if you get treated bad you picked him. You can't blame every guy and say they are all bad. You picked him.
2006-12-10 21:21:15 · answer #3 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not only you.Most of the guys are that way. I believe guys are manageable. As long as you set the rules eary enough it will be good. Always make sure you are the one who makes the first move out.
Just as a bonus try to act like aguy for one day..as in flirt with someone and dump them for no apparent reason and see how it feels.
For the time being you need to check out your personality...how you speak, dress, the words you use, and the places you hung out....this could be where these creeps are and avoid being an easy target for them.
You can also play hard to get until you find out a guys true personality and then decide whether you will go otu or not.
trust your instincts and guts.When they scream run when they smile smile back.
2006-12-10 21:11:12 · answer #4 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you are attracting the wrong sort of man.
does this remind you of anything else, like how your dad treated you, or your mum, or some close family member?
Our relationship problems often reflect our family based problems.
If this rings true, you may have some work to do on yourself and your self esteem, so that you feel that you DESERVE to be treated better.
If this doesn't ring true, well, maybe you are just trusting people that shouldn't be trusted. Try slowing the process down and only give people trust if they have proven they deserve it.
Good luck
2006-12-10 21:06:56 · answer #5 · answered by Ambience 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because you're dating the wrong guys, boo. Maybe you should try hanging out with different people. And don't just wait for guys to come up to you -- approach them on your own too (the ones who are too shy to approach you will usually treat you well). Good night!
2006-12-10 21:10:36 · answer #6 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just like the guys in my family and close friends, they say they think girls are predictable. they think they can get any girl to fall for them. and when they do fall for them, then they think it doesnt matter what they do from there because the guys think they have the girl already. sometimes its all part of their little game. but theres always carma.
2006-12-10 21:10:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'm sorry to say that men don't even know they are hurting the girls,to them it's pretty normal stuff i guess.you are meeting the wrong kind of boys.just keep it cool,always put in your mind that you are special,deserve to be treated special,and hopefully one day you mill meet that special boy who is your match.good luck!
2006-12-10 21:09:56 · answer #8 · answered by dra shelley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are all may be like you because you have lot of friends and breakup with many is it not. Love will workout when give and take is present.
2006-12-10 21:07:36 · answer #9 · answered by R S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they are many of them out there waiting for them to break up and start with them, don't worry when you get the right person your dissapointment will end
2006-12-10 21:34:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋