I hurt a guy I use to know (cursing over the phone) because of his vague actions towards me (talking about his ex and what they did , being my friend but only having sex with me, asking him to be my boyfriend he said yea but then said no, etc) and now he put's me in his bad list. I apologised, but he said that it was meaningless and that he hate's my gut's but he hopes I have a good life. He also told me I was replaced and I am meaningless now. I felt frantic afterwards. Memories of him won't fade no matter how hard I try. I still have feelings for this guy but how can one express them if he won't give me his phone number or take my words into consideration? I want to write him a letter to tell him a summary of how I feel ( in a kind tone), giving him money for all the things he has ever done for me ( a way to forget him by giving back what was given), and saying I forgive him for treating me like crap. should I? I feel really stuck and therapy doesn't work. Any alternate advice
2006-12-10 20:58:18 · 10 answers · asked by tika ukie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is a real sense of desperation in your writing and I think you really must try to get more therapy, or at least talk this over with a professional like a healthcare practitioner. Sometimes an experience like this can 'trigger' some emotional or mental problems. I don't want you to be alarmed but i do want you to think more about your own wellbeing and less about trying to get this man to pay you attention. He sounds like an insensitive and uncaring person but he really does not deserve another moment of your attention.
Please go and talk to your doctor. You may need some help to get you out of this depression. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-12-10 21:09:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would just let it go. But DON'T let him come back in. He made the choice to be an *** and treat you like a piece of side street meat then he can deal with when he changes his mind. The best thing for guys like that is making them think that they were your biggest mistake. The sex wasn't any good and you have been ready for it to be over for a while. I know it may not be true but it will help you cope with what he has done or you have done to yourself.
Just be strong and it will be fine. He is just sowing his wild oats and it is up to you to keep his wild oats and anything else he has far far away.
2006-12-10 21:05:47 · answer #2 · answered by Feather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give yourself time to heal.You also need to indulge in other activities that will rid you off that abuse like yoga and meditation.It is really great that you are talking about it and you need to learn from yourmistakes.You are a beautiful being and no one is gonna trample on your feelings unless you let them. He was a bad seed and you let it go......yo deserve better and definately you will find solace somewhere else
2006-12-10 21:04:48 · answer #3 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying about this guys and take better care of yourself. Move on with your life.
2006-12-10 21:38:08 · answer #4 · answered by funnysam2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've apologised,he didn't accept it...What more can you do?Stop feeling so guilty and stop letting him in your thoughts.There are plenty fish in the sea...
2006-12-10 23:07:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the crap he gave you, burn it all, find out where he lives and go there and key his car and his new girlfriends car. Then get over it and move on. By the way, YOUR RETADED.
2006-12-10 21:02:10 · answer #6 · answered by NEED HELP 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
take a long vacation...flirt with cute guys...relax...just let him fade away from ur mind...hes a jerk...dont insult urself...
2006-12-10 21:05:03 · answer #7 · answered by archie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave that guy .. Move on . Time will definately help u
2006-12-10 21:22:50 · answer #8 · answered by mommy2be 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please dont...according to your story, this guy is really treating you like crap and you deserve to feel upset. Please just move on, there are better men out there who deserve you better..
Be brave and do it
2006-12-10 21:03:22 · answer #9 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone else
2006-12-10 21:18:45 · answer #10 · answered by Terry H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋